Hi, I new in this, I lock myself and my wife accept it but she does not participate and she does not want to hold the keys :-( Hope she will be more active at some point. Kinky
I do it, but she feels unconfortable. I'm not sure if she does not want to be submissive and doen't want to be "in charge"
its kinda like the pirates code,,, its more like guide lines.. reading, movies, web sites, play time, conversation.. its not a figure it out in a weekend kinda thing, just keep it kinda loosey goosey..
I had been into TND before I met my wife & so brought it to our relationship. I was odd at first for her too. I didn't press it. Eventually it started being fun for her - a sex game of sorts. Then finally, one day she started to let the natural Domme in her come out. Over the years, the 'game' aspect evolved into a way of life for both of us. There is always some great Experience, Strength & Hope to be shared ... Cant force it - if an FLR isn't a natural flow for her - it isn't time - have patience. Still, you can slowly & softly put the focus on her & see how she responds. There is no 'way to do it' - situationally unique for everyone. Welcome!