New poll: do you gawk?

Discussion in 'Chastity and orgasm denial' started by borbulls1961, Jan 24, 2021.

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How do you LOOK at women you like?

  1. I gawk, and later (try to) jerk off to the memory of their shape

    11 vote(s)
    10.9%
  2. I gawk but only ever jerk to the thoughts of my wife

    5 vote(s)
    5.0%
  3. I appreciate the view in a gentlemanly way for just a moment

    69 vote(s)
    68.3%
  4. Im ashamed as I always look at women sexually

    17 vote(s)
    16.8%
  5. I avoid looking sexually at any other than my wife

    11 vote(s)
    10.9%
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  1. borbulls1961
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    So a debateable upshot of last weeks poll on wedding chastity vows showed very few vote for no gawking or watching porn.

    So here is a chance to vote on how you LOOK at women.

    We all aspire to gentlemanly appreciation of the female form...but we do have our cocks locked for a reason, and Im guessing that's sometimes because we cant control our urges when we see the fairer sex.

    So here are some questions , multiple answers are allowed.
     
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    I really don't think that there is a good reason to look at other women sexually . I mean you can't touch them anyway when you're locked 24/ 7 and heaven forbid that my wife / goddess ever caught me doing that. I am a sub to my wife because I wanted to be , because I warship and love her. Why think about other women ?
     
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    Looking is male nature. The female form in any shape is so beautiful. But for me it is as far as it goes.
     
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    I look, trying to be respectful and not in a leering sort of way. Have to admit, i look at their clothes, makeup, hair and shoes, almost as much as I do the woman herself. Just my sissy side, seeing what looks nice on a female form.
     
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    The female body is truly an art form that can come in all shapes and sizes. Being younger and less mature at one point I used to gawk at women and make crude comments with my buddies (teenage years). As I got a little older and more serious with my then girlfriend now wife I never wanted to disrespect her by being one of those guys who checks out other women in a crude manner. Also the longer my wife and I dated the more I understood women in general and became more appreciative of the societal problems women have put up with. When we were dating my wife had a stalker, I don’t know if he ever stalked her in person or if it was all just on the phone but someone was creepily infatuated with her for quite some time putting her on edge. This really put me in tune with some of the scary shit that woman have to put up with, sometimes on a near daily basis. Seeing how scared and anxious she was after these phone calls I realized that I never in the slightest want to be or come off as one of those starers who undresses women with their eyes staring way to long, a creep. I’ve made it a point for a long time now to only look women in the face and make no attempt to check out their bodies. Sometimes you just can’t help it, we’re all humans but as you mentioned as one of the poll options it’s just a respectful glance and that’s all if I’m going to look. I’ve found that the women I’ve forged casual and professional friendships with seem to be very comfortable and open around me as I don’t come off as offensive, I look into their eyes when we speak not their chest, plus I’m always talking about my wife in a positive loving way whenever I bring her up. It’s clear to my female friends and co workers how much I love my wife and I can see they actually appreciate the respect I have and show my wife. They all respect me for the kind of man I am and I’ve been told that by several of them in not so many words. The fact that I’ve gotten this kind of reaction from all these women to notate my behavior to me, tells me how predatory men are in general and how many of us look at women like a piece of meat, even if we don’t realize that’s what we’re doing.

    Being together for 16 years and locked the last 5 has certainly narrowed my focus solely on my wife. Because of what we’ve built together she means so much more to me she’s the only woman that truly sexy arouses me and the only woman I want.

    Sorry, I’ll step off my high horse now ;)
     
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    I used to gawk a lot. Then I put on a chastity cage last October and I am mych better now. I gawk a lot less, and don't masturbate. But as a red blooded male, one cannot help but appreciate the female form in all shapes and sizes. But as far as arousal, my thoughts are only of her.
     
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    There is nothing wrong with using your eyes for what they were intended for. You would look at a tree, you would look at your dinner, you would look at the ocean, and you will look at women. It is odd that society tells you not to look at women, that it is gawking. As long as you are not doing it in an aggressive way or making demeaning or insulting comments to go with it. I work with all women with a few exceptions and they look at men and women as well in the same way. They will gawk as well but without the shame or guilt attached to it like men
     
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    There is a difference in how to look indeed. There is a way men can look at women that make them fear for their safety and there is a way that can make them feel confident/good about themselves. All in the intent.
     
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    That is so true. Sometimes you just want to look at someone’s cute shoes but if you are caught, they will think your a pervert
     
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    i been tell to look down and i see The shoes more really but i dose have little peep sometimes.
     
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    Mine is not really listed but chose the one closest. While caged I can’t jerk off and if I do see and attractive well dressed woman I might look but offer no comments or second thoughts. These days I am mostly with my wife when out and if we see a trashy girl or one who dresses provacativly or trashy, we make comments back and forth.

    She will even point one out and ask me to comment, from what she is wearing to what I would do with her. My wife does the same and tells me what she would do with her as well. Try going the rest of the day with that on your mind and a hand rubbing your cage while you drive.
     
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    I look and appreciate, of course. I'm in chastity, but not I'm not dead.
     
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    ...thank goodness!
     
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    I chose the third one, as I do appreciate and enjoy a well dressed woman, but am super sensitive about not wanting to make anyone uncomfortable. That said, I can honestly say that I rarely get turned on sexually by another woman, but I do admire the clothes, shoes, and makeup, so when I am “less than gentlemanly” and find myself gawking, it’s really because I’m trying to figure out where she bought that dress/skirt/blouse/ shoes. :)

    My wife is so secure in my attraction to the clothes that she often points out women for me to look at because she knows I’m lusting after the clothes not the woman. She is the only woman I lust over.
     
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    Seems there ought to be an option "That's one reason my wife keeps me locked up."
     
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    Preliminary results are showing a two thirds majority of gentlemen here!

    Still plenty of time left to cast your vote or change it.
     
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    I do admire the wonderful variety of female forms in a respectful way.
     
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    Before chastity, when I was still acting like an alpha male, I'd undress attractive women (and only attractive women) with my eyes, thinking how I'd like to fuck her, like she was purely a sex object or existed for my penile gratification. Sometimes later I'd masturbate about her, although in later years I'd masturbate about her dominating me like some kind of kink dispenser.

    I don't do that anymore. I'm trying to train myself to view all women as my superiors and view all women as deserving of deference and respect and obedience and submission. Sexually, I've learned that my penis is not god's gift to women and that they're not, in fact, interested in it at all. Keeping my erection in a steel cage really helps. I try to hope only that they are being properly worshipped by the man in their lives and treated well, and know that I am undeserving of them. My wife is now the only recipient of my sexual ardor.
     
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    My city has 2 universities and 3 teaching hospitals 4 colleges and a number of private educational centers so seeing and/or noticing is inevitable. No harm done an the cage reminds me who I wear it for and who is in control.

    Lereing gawking call it what you like is not a pleasant thing for someone to be on the receiving end of and to be honest it makes those doing it look immature.

    Besides giving in to that kind of temptation is just not respectful towards the subject or my Lady who I promised some time ago now that I would not deliberately look at porn.
     
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    Quick update, so far 207 readers, 80 voters, of whom 10% have voted with multiple answers...

    TWO THIRDS OF GENTLEMEN HERE!!!!!
    Isnt that so nice?

    However there is still the other one third...

    Poll closing saturday night for any last minute changes...

    Hey last summer I was driving out of the supermarket, turning left and there parking on the sidewalk ahead of me as Im straightening the wheel, a young lady dismounting from her scooter, helmet on head, white polka dots on a sky blue dress blowing up over her head, revealing powerful tanned thighs and buns, and no other garment.

    That image from 6 months ago is imprinted. I cant be the only one having visions. Havent told my good wife.
    Almost crashed the motor.
     
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    I answered with the gentlemanly option, as it was closeted to how I am. As I have multiple clothing fetishes (skintight Lycra, latex, pvc, shiny, ect) I tend to see women wearing those clothes and then imagine my madam in them.
     
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    Poll closed, results showing only15 -20% admit to being somewhat sexually affected when looking at women and half of them would jerk off to their image if they could.:eek:

    But two thirds here are gentlemen, appreciating the passing female form for just a moment.

    So what do the gentlemen have planned for their Valentine?
     
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    This Valentine's day depending on her decision I may be installing twin beds to replace our king bed.

    I have just over a week left of my challenge quest she has me on that will determine my future sleeping location.

    Normally would be taking her out to her choice of dine out. Covid will make that take out.

    At any rate a nice card and if she continues our chastity restart I hope also to have a confirmed order with mature metal custom cage. Also with luck my cherry keeper order will have arrived.

    The clock is running. I hope it's a happy Valentine's Day for us both.

    Happy Valentine's Day to you all!
     
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    My wife doesn't mind if I look at other women. She knows for certain I would never do anything, and she knows the only fantasies I have that involve other women are of me submitting and being humiliated. For example, she knows I have a thing for known, or imagined, size queens because I dream of them mocking my tiny dicklet and even watching them have sex with their better endowed lovers.

    However, when she decreed that I am to be "pussy free" for the rest of my life and that I can't even look at female genitalia, hardcore porn, etc. she was adamant that looking at images of female anuses is strictly and especially forbidden because "my ass is the only one you will ever worship."

    When we're in public, and especially when I am in chastity, she enjoys pointing out attractive women to tease me. She even makes comments about how they would laugh their asses off if they saw my tiny, locked penis.
     
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