Hi, thank you again for the thoughtful responses to my newbie keyholder questions. I want to ask something about devices and being locked. I've read quite a bit here about the advantages of a more snug device rather than a slightly more accommodating one. On a physical and comfort level, I think I understand that now. But what I'd love to know is how having a different size of cage affects your mental state. I'm very keen that my partner is as aroused as possible. I keep reading how very snug devices are so comfortable that the wearer forgets they're there. Or that a very snug device suppresses even the beginning of an erection. My partner kind of hinted (yes, we need to talk more, I know) that the slightly larger device that allowed him just the beginning of an erection was more exciting because it instantly reminded him what he was missing. And I think both of us quite like the look of something a little larger. He finds a small device a bit humiliating, which I don't think either of us wants. At least, not now (!) We're going to try and compare both. Or at least I hope we will. Grateful for any thoughts on how device size affects your mental state and sexual arousal. Men. You're more complicated than I knew ! Sal.