Last night my husband and I signed our first chastity contract after getting our new cage. I am so excited. we dabbled in chastity off and on for the last 6 months. We learned plastic is not for us. I prefer the metal and open so i can see it locked up. I finally started doing my research and found out basically while I was struggling with my day to day and the pressure I felt from my husband constantly sending me articles or websites and then him getting upset at me for not reading them and me getting upset at him for not only not helping me enough but adding to my daily stressors... I should have actually looked at what he sent me and applied to my day to day to make our life a FLR because this was his way of saying I see you struggling and I want to help but I think he needed to be told what to do to help and for some reason he I guess thought "well if she wants help she will ask". I don't know I just felt if you see i'm stressed out get off your ass and help. In the last week alone I have been a whole new women and he a whole new man. Communication is definitely key because I have opened up and talked to my husband more in the last week then I have in the last 4 months for sure. So thanks for letting me rant but I did come on here to ask a question too... I feel like we laid some good ground work and we left our contract open for addendum's as we both see fit but I guess my question is what do you wish you found out about FLR earlier in the relationship? Like I said I feel like we are in a good place and we are definitely opening up the lines of communication and I am loving it. But I am new and just getting into research so if you have any words of wisdom or advice to depart it is greatly appreciated.