New House Rules and Consequences

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    After 6 years of Chastity which has eventually developed into a FLR. My boy and I have been discussing a “Rules” list, so I finally decided to make it tonight. The rules are just the basics and thing I feel need worked on. Figured I’d post them here.

    House Rules and Consequences for Owned boy

    When Owned boy is asked a question, Ma’am expects to be answered accordingly: “Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, etc.” Same vein: When Ma’am does something that helps Owned boy out, She expects to be thanked properly: “Thank you, Ma’am for helping Your Property with/do)____.” Consequences: If Owned boy does not answer or thank Her to Her specifications, 1 to 2 points shall be added to the counter for each occurrence.

    Whenever Owned boy is unlocked, he shall keep his hands in view of Ma’am at all times. It goes without saying that Owned boy’s hands will not stray to any of Her property on his body. In the shower, the same applies. Consequences: If Owned boy fails to keep his hands in view and off of Her forbidden property, he will receive an immediate 5 smacks with Her Implement of choice. If the behavior is not corrected right away, Owned boy’s hands will be immediately cuffed and he will then receive 10 additional smacks and the cuffs will stay on until an undetermined time of Her choosing.

    After Ma’am is showered/bathed for the night, Owned boy shall dry, lotion and massage his Owner’s feet without Her having to mention it. It shows that he is anticipating Her needs. Consequences: If Owned boy fails to comply to this simple act of Her needs, that always feels very good and relaxes Her, She will apply Icy-hot to his balls. After all, since She didn’t get her relaxation in, why should he feel relaxed?

    Owned boy shall groom his locked equipment at a minimum of twice per week, on Saturday and Wednesday nights. Owned boy shall groom his chest and armpits twice per month on a Saturday night. Ma’am will groom Owned boy’s back and slut-hole at a minimum of once per week to once per every other week on a Saturday night depending if She determined whether it is needed. Consequences: 1)If Owned boy fails to comply with the minimum grooming requirements, he shall sleep in nothing but his pouch panties. No blanket or socks will be permitted. She will turn the fan on high and the A/C cold until he grooms himself properly. His hands and ankles shall be cuffed so he cannot cheat and cover himself. 2) If Owned boy notices that She has failed to groom him, he will humbly kneel and ask Her to. If he fails to ask, She will take notice and use wax instead of painless Nair on his back and the laser instead of razor on his slut-hole. She will edit the shared calendar to reflect the changes and Owned boy will be responsible to abide by the grooming dates.

    Owned boy shall present himself to Ma’am after every shower, whether She has showered with him or not, kneeling with his head lowered into Her lap and ask to be Collared and Leashed. Once the Collar and Leash has been applied, Owned boy shall make sure to express his gratitude to Ma’am for Owning him. Consequences: If Owned boy fails to comply, She will notice and immediately administer 5 swats with the Implement of Her choosing. On top of the swats, She shall insert a locking ball gag into his mouth for the night, to be removed in the morning.

    Owned boy shall put on/take off Ma’am’s footwear anytime She enters or exits the home. Consequences: If Owned boy fails to comply, he shall be forced to walk on the hot sidewalk for a period of time per Her choosing. (Ma’am will ensure he will not be severely burned or injured by this consequence, if so, a secondary consequence will be chosen by Her at that time.)

    Owned boy shall be Ma’am’s alarm clock each morning, which means he shall abide by the bedtime that She chooses to ensure a proper night’s rest. If She does not get enough sleep, she will not want to be woken up earlier than absolutely necessary. She will notify him each night whether or not She wants wake-up head. Consequences: Ma’am knows that Owned boy has a VERY hard time keeping his tongue off of Her pussy, so this will be a little different. If Owned boy decides to wake Her up with his tongue even though She specified NO the night before, she will immediately remove his head from between her legs and go back to sleep. Punishment will be implemented later on in the day, which will range from spanks to ball-busting to the butt plug.

    Owned boy is expected, depending on his schedule for the day, to keep the house neat and tidy. If his schedule during the day does not permit chores, he shall complete them upon returning home after work. Owned boy shall not avoid coming home or parking and sitting to browse the internet/talk/etc. The only time parking for long periods of time will be permitted is when it is solely for Owned boy’s business purposes. There is PLENTY to keep him busy around the house, and he should see the family home as his second job. Consequences: Failure to complete chores and/or avoid coming home/parking for non-work purposes will result in immediate correction. One week of additional chastity shall be enforced by Ma’am. For each occurrence as well as a physical punishment of Her choice.
     
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    Good luck with it
     
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    We used to have wordy rules like these. The consequences and punishments were rather different. E.g. how can you give another additional week of chastity when you're locked permanently? The punishments doubled on each transgression (with a maximum of 128 strokes) so very soon it got very harsh.

    We've moved to a single catch all rule: "Lady C decides", however there is another list or aide memoire with one word categories/areas. Not surprisingly the above rules fall into one or more of our categories. E.g. grooming, housework, garden, socialising, pamper. We both know what they are, what they mean and what the expectations are.

    But it nice to see another couple moving forward into an FLR and enjoy the journey. It always takes a bit of time to adjust to a new regime and a tendency to slip back into old habits. One thing that you might find hard to do is the physical punishments - it can be hard to hurt someone you care for. Enjoy.

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    We had some written rules, expectations and consequences laid out early on. It turned out that keeping track of infractions and administering punishment was too much of a chore for Goddess. There are still a few unwritten expectations, but for the most part I am just expected to do what She says. Good luck, I hope it works out for You!
     
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    And that's exactly why we dropped the list of rules too. Yep, expected is the word and it depends on her mood of get off lightly or regret it for a long while.
     
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    Good luck and enjoy!
     
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    After reading this, I'm going to thank my Queen for going so lightly on me.

    On 2nd thought, I'm going to shut my yap for once!
     
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    An excellent set of some very specific and detailed rules IMHO. Your Owned boy is extremely fortunate to be owned by a Lady who is willing to spend Her valuable time and effort to draft a set of rules for him like this. I hope Your Owned boy shows You the proper appreciation and gratitude for giving him these rules so he may better serve and please You.
     
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    You're learning!
     
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    Wow, that’s really ramped up! I’m curious, how do you integrate this with being parents to a little ‘un?
     
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    You just are careful not to do it around the kid. A little common sense goes a long way.
     
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    ...parents can "mis behave" also.
     
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    I certainly try.



    This is always a concern. Probably why in ~7ish years of living this lifestyle our own way, @Thatgirl has never done anything like this. Not this comprehensive anyway.

    However, while the me of today has come to acknowledge all the really great benefits we both enjoy by me submitting to this lifestyle, and to simply accept that She wants me in a device - period - that wasn’t always the case. Chastity has always been @Thatgirl ’s thing. And the cage in particular has always stood as a steadfast requirement. But it’s taken me a long time to embrace. And I’m still sometimes uncomfortable with the level of submission developing over time, and even more often still really chafe (mentally) at having to wear a device.

    Only after a relatively long lull following the birth of our daughter did I finally get to a point where locking up and following stopped being something I pushed back so readily at.

    My point is, @Thatgirl has always spent a great deal of effort directing all of this in the direction that She wants it to go. And over the years a great many “basic expectations” have been established for sure. But now, to take my general “training” (for lack of a better word) to the next step, She laid out these rules specifically because they have quickly become routine expectations that until now She’s had to stay on top of for the both of us. If She didn’t specifically tell me she wants me to wear (x) for the day or for the night, or that she wanted me do some thing, I wouldn’t necessarily do it.

    So @Thatgirl says these are a list specially designed to take that burden entirely off Her shoulders and place them on mine. Unlike past periods wherein she had to really stay on me about new changes to our routine that She may have instituted, She feels we’re at a point where She can lay those requirements out and expect me to adhere to them with minimal effort on her part. I don’t think She’s particularly worried about keeping track of the times I run afoul of the rules. While I most definitely will mess up, She’s chosen consequences that She knows no part of me yearns for. And I absolutely hate spanking of any kind, which She’s made clear will always be a part of any corrective action. So neither of us are expecting the need for much advanced mathematics in keeping an eye on compliance and track of failings.

    Far from being a list of responsibilities of Hers, this was a surprise decision on Her part to add a great deal of responsibility to me, and make this new phase of this thing we do much less dependent on Her constant policing and much more dependent on my unquestioning compliance.

    It’s a different mindset than many I think, simply because I’ve always been rather indifferent to chastity, and the device in particular. And I actually feel somewhat good about it because it shows She feels I’ve made enough progress that simply ensuring I stay in my role no longer requires the effort it once did - effort that can now be placed on me as She brings us to our next stop on this journey.


    Right! This did actually take us some time to calibrate to. And has led directly to the sorts of deeper, more meaningful displays of submission than the raunchier “sessions” we were able to do more of before. Taking Her shoes off for Her, pulling out the dining table chair for Her, drying her feet and legs and helping Her moisturize, are all things that reinforce the dynamic, have meaning, AND can be done in front of the little one so she learns how a real man should treat women. And, frankly, beyond those things, even getting into butt plugs and any number other things we do, there’s no reason a kid around needs to have much bearing at all. I’m in the cage 24/7 anyway, right? Sure she can’t tote me around on a leash until after bed time, etc., but it’s really not all that hard to live our lives the way we want to. I suppose it does help that outward feminization and the like have never been @Thatgirl ‘s things. Sure some frilly underwear to bed to humble me here and there, but otherwise on the outside what we do is easy enough to be kept kid friendly. At least till bed time ;)
     
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    Thanks @Thatguyontheinternet we’ve missed your posts, always among the most expansive, considered and interesting contributions here!
     
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    I love hearing how serious you have gotten since things started back up for you two! We’re kind of in a lull since the new baby came along. I asked to be out of my belt for a while since it feels like more of a burden at the moment. Wonder Woman begrudgingly agreed but understood where I was coming from. We’re both looking forward to when we can both be fully engaged again. It’s great hearing how things are going for you guys!
     
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    So much fun to hear that.
     
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    Very nice.
     
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    Wow what a nice routine! Sadly we have veered away from routines but hope to rekindle it. I haven’t pressed her to get back to normal but I think I’ve given enough time to mention it.

    nice hearing from u two again
     
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