I was introduced to this site by my husband as hopefully another educational tool for the FLR toolbox. We've been lightweight weekend playing for about a year now as we went through a lot of reading, researching, and discussing - which truly is an ongoing journey Being new, I would definitely appreciate any help and suggestions anyone has. I look forward to reading your responses
Welcome and enjoy! People here are very genuine and helpful. I suggest searching various posts. There's a ton of helpful info!
Thank you I've been trying to learn my way around and have replied to a couple of posts, but figured I should probably put up an introduction
Welcome from me too. First thing IMO is to know what you want for yourself. Then use every lever you have to make sure you get it and he does as he is told Getting him locked up -properly - secure and steel - is an excellent start You control his sex life 24/7/365 if you do it properly. Great way to break him in.
The welcome's I've received have been fabulous! and Thank You for the advice. We are having some problems with steel and cages as everything we've tried have become [medically] unfeasible - double hernia surgery - but we have found a way around that which as we venture into this, is working thus far. My biggest stumbling block is consistency/staying with it. We just agreed on a contract and he's chaste for 90 days - now I just have to wrap my head around being in charge.
Welcome. My wife is ten years older than you. Being in a FLR does not have to mean you dominate your husband. After all, I am in charge of our marriage and I treat my wife as an equal and not my sub. She is in charge of our home but she does not dominate me. We basically take on roles in the bedroom only, not in our real life. Only advice I have is to beware that a lot of guys fantasize about being dominated by a woman, but once the excitement wears off and they find themselves being a sub without the arousal they used to feel, things may change. As a 47 BDSM player and sexual submissive and masochist, I know a little about this. Sometimes it is better to just confine games to the bedroom only. At least that is my experience and what I saw with many of the other couples into BDSM. During a play session women would do all sorts of things to me as their sub, even very painful and yucky things. Yet when it was over I reverted to my old alpha take charge self. When I tried to be a sub 24/7, it only lasted a few weeks until I woke up and did not feel like being a slave anymore. Good luck and remember that your sex and real life can be different.
I found a lot of information on the internet. Books by Georgia Ivey Green were a big help for my wife to grow. The book " how to setup a FLR " was one of her favourite. Like anything it takes some time and every road is different.