New here. Advice needed

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    I was. Considering chastity to help with my problem of masturbation. I am new to this and was wondering if anyone has any advice for me. I have no idea what type or size I would need. Or if it would even work.
     
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    Welcome to the Mansion. I am sure if you use the search facility you will find loads of threads on sizing which should be helpful. There is also a sticky thread at the top of the devices section which should help.
     
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    Yes thank you. Is it effective for my problem?
     
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    My first question would be, why do you feel compelled to masturbate? A cage might stop the execution but not the urge.
     
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    Because its there I guess. I don't know really..I just haven been able to leave it alone since I discovered it. I know that's not much of an answer.
     
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    No reason needed. My wife has given me permission to masturbate but it must be with an anal vibrator, which actually is much more satisfying.
     
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    well @Jim willis if you has got a cage locked on your willy you wont be able to do it no more.
     
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    Oh it will work if you get you device the right size for yourself.
    Small is usually better as it restricts the penis from swelling too much while keeping you a little more comfortable.
    Then there is the security of the solution to consider.

    Good advice is a total device (cage+base ring) 10mm smaller than your smallest body - tip of penis measurement when you have shrunk. This ensures that you are tight in your new small cage.

    I wear this design with also a titanium urethral insert inside my penis to secure me.

    Its all very comfortable and secure and makes my chastity oh so real.

    My advice is to experiment until you find a device that fits you and one that you feel secure in and cannot easily defeat.

    Then if chastity is still for you buy a custom device and say goodbye to your masturbation independence and welcome to the chastity club enforced by someone else.

    Mitch
     
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    Thanks for the advice. I have been looking at devices online and have to admit it is alittle overwhelming. There's alot of different styles. I never imagined so many.
     
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    I have tried many of them starting over 10 years ago with the plastic CB range which are quite frankly toys and only good for a little titillation not serious chastity denial. Then we moved on to the metal range from China which proved useful however they were not that secure so we had to improvise (see our journey on the blog..my wife has asked me to wear a chastity cage).
    In order to keep it secure I needed a plastic shield to stop me getting back into the device if I ever tried to pull out of the back. It worked well but the 'Pepper Pot' design means its not really suitable for long term wear as its almost impossible to keep the glands clean. However we used this experience to determine the optimum size I should wear. Base ring and cage length. It worked out that the shorter the cage the comfier it was. Too small and its easy to pull out the back. Too long and erections are semi possible.
    So its important to get the right length and base ring dimensions.
    Steelworx advise 10mm shorter than your smallest length and it works perfect. So I have a total shortest penis length measured from the body to the tip (on top) of 7cm so I am now in a total device length of 6cm and I fill it 100% of the time tight which is very comfortable.
    One of the experienced dominatrix on the site advised we experiment with urethral inserts for security and it turns out its a very good method of keeping the sub caged as long as the dimensions are correct.
    Its also a really kinky method of chasity having your mistress thread a titanium tube inside your penis and then locking you up and being very comfortable and secure.
    So the lessons learned are experiment until you have a system that works for you.

    The ultimate chastity is a PA and I am sure you can get a very comfortable cage as you can go larger on the base ring if the penis is pierced as its not pulling out of the device but PA's are not for everyone.

    I have a XcrossDressing fetish so I am kept often in skirts while in chastity to keep me frustrated and horny and OMG does it work its a real mind rush being turned on and no way to get relief.

    Chasity and tease are so strong and its the best sex ever IMO.


    Mitch
     
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    I f you get a cage you will still want to masturbate ,and since you will have the key I don't think a cage is the answer .. Sorry not be be helopful.
     
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    Another good thread revival! Some one was on deep dive!
     
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