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    This has been the beginning of a great adventure and lifestyle. I never knew that male chastity was a thing or that I would want to be any part of it. Who knew that a few years after the death of my husband of 30 years I'd find a life partner that has finally given me the love, encouragement and sex life I've always wanted.
     
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    Welcome to the Mansion and good luck with your journey
     
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    Sometimes it takes a loss to open doors to the different things in life . Life is short so always live it happy . I went threw it myself. Good luck and welcome to cm
     
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    Thank you. And yes life is short so we should be happy and try to live the best possible life.
     
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    Hope you and your partner find the perfect way for him to show his love and devotion to you.
     
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    Your welcome and yes I agree
     
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    Best of luck
     
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    Welcome and good luck on your journey!
     
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    That's so exciting!! I'm very happy for you! So glad things seem to be going the right direction. A lot of people say that it only gets better from here, too!
     
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    Welcome! Enjoy the ride and the new experiences you will find here!
     
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    Hello Mistress Tea

    Welcome to the Chastity Mansion. I hope you enjoy your time here, and exploring the new things in your life!
     
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    good luck
     
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    This journey started as being in control just in the bedroom. It was not an easy transition for me. I still struggle sometimes with over-thinking everything and worrying if it will be ok to say and expect what I want.
     
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    Everyone has needs and wants. If the need to negotiate is needed a conversation can be had.
     
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    We have constant dialog and negotiation has been fairly easy. It is more about being able to express my wants and needs and realizing that they are being heard, accepted and acted upon.

    I was married for 30 years to someone very vanilla and that kept complete control and was never interested in my wants or needs. We went years without any physical intimacy of any kind, not by my choice or consent. I was left to feel unloved, unwanted, hurt, and worthless.

    My partner makes sure that I know I'm loved, wanted, appreciated, adored and that my needs and wants are of great concern to him.

    But it is still a struggle on my part some days to move beyond the past thoughts and feelings and getting hung up on my own issues. Thank goodness that we are patient and loving towards one another. It is amazing to be able to keep growing together.
     
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    You guys will be fine. Just communicate and take it slow
     
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    Don't Think DO. He is in your hands for you too DO whatever you like.
     
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    Take life into your own hands. It might kake a while getting used too it but if you want it you can do it. Even if it takes a while to shed your old self
     
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    That sounds like my wife with her past relationships and in a little over a month of her being the key holder she is starting to see how much happier we both are and the more she controls me the happier it makes me so that makes me want to do more far her to make her happy . So the more you control him the happier he will be than he will do whatever it takes to make you feel even more loved . I’m not a very good writer hope this makes sense sorry if it don’t. Take it slow and enjoy every moment.
     
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    Interesting thoughts…welcome & thanks for sharing.
     
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    After so many years, it is going to take some time to unlearn the relationship of the past. It sounds like your previous relationship was at the opposite end of the spectrum from what you have today. The good news is you are probably taking big steps. Not as good is that the big differences may be tougher for you to really get comfortable with. Time is a great healer, and with the help from your new partner, you ought to be fine.

    Hey, look! You are now on Chastity Mansion! Would you have ever thought that would happen? Try to relax and enjoy the ride! Best of luck!
     
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