I have been on this chastity journey with my wife for over 2 years. It has been slow going but she is beginning to get more into it. I haven't posted in a while because it has been going pretty well. She accepted that I should where the cage full time a couple of months ago, but did not want to keep the key and still really didn't want to know or talk about it. Two weeks ago I cheated while unlocked and she figured it out by my behavior, which is not very submissive after I have an orgasm. I told her that I could do it anytime because I have access to the key. Well she told me to put the key in her nightstand and she would hide it. Man what a different feeling it is to have her actually in control. I have to ask for the key to take it off for workouts and cleaning. Saturday morning she gave me the key and we had passionate sex. Afterward she told me to put it back on and hid the key again. She has really progressed and understands the power she has. It is starting to get scary. I keep telling myself that this is what I wanted, but when i have second thoughts I realize that there is nothing I can do now. The next step is her keeping the key in her purse or on a necklace. Do any of you have any ideas about helping her take that step?
There is no next step, it is what she wants to do with it. If there is a next step it would be her talking to other women in the community if she desires to do so.
I guess she will take the next step when she is ready to do so . You have made a great start . You have already bought into this . It is likely that she will be some way behind you and your fantasies . If it's going to work it will be at her pace . After all , it is all about her. believe it or not you are making good progress. My wife is never surprised to find me shaved and locked but has never asked me to relock . This is my desire , not hers . I spent years getting my hopes up , years suggesting non pornographic websites and buying books . others may have better advice but for me I believe my wife has to go at her own pace . Let her see the positive change in you and she may just embrace it . Good luck
I like the fact that I know exactly where the key is kept by Mrs Chaste. It does me no good at all as it's safely locked in a keysafe which is firmly attached to the wall!
Back in September, one key would be on the chain around her neck and the other would be in a sealed envelop pinned to the bulletin board in the kitchen. When ever I went out, I would take it with me and hold it in my wallet and the envelop would get changed when it was in danger of tearing. During the summer with my wife working remotely, she placed my key and the key of our house-guest's in the safe and only the key around each wife's neck was available. Whenever I now went to the store my wife traveled with me because it was a way for her to get out of the house. When Locktober started, the wife's switched the spare keys between the two ladies, so my spare key is now with her friend The point is your wife will decide the rules and they will change as she changes. Do not force the issue, you try and you will lose.
Thanks for the replies. Sorry I haven't gotten back sooner, but I was changing the rear shocks of my car after work. We don't have a spare key at the moment which makes it even more daunting. I am going to have to get a new lock with two keys soon. I know I'm supposed to let her decide but she is so vanilla and it takes soooooo long for her to move forward. I guess I shouldn't mind too much considering where we started with her nearly kicking me out of the house when I first told her. I do like the idea of some kind of sealed envelope that she could inspect to make sure I haven't used it.