New at this - erection while pleasing her

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    Hi all,
    I'm very new at this. The idea of chastity came up to curb my masturbation in the times when I could not be with my girlfriend. It started as a joke between us, but it turned me on....turns her on and she's into the idea of a FLR, but more importantly enjoys the emotional connection it brings. Neither of us are into demeaning/being demeaned.

    I'm currently using one of two Chinese cages that kinda fit (but have a fair amount of room to grow). I've ordered a MM JB, but that'll be a while.
    Last night while pleasing her, she got turned on sucking my caged cock, had me put caged cock in her, etc. Such a turn on for me.....but after a while, I couldn't take the pain and had to take the cage off.
    In your experience, will a properly fitted cage keep things calmer? Or do I need to not allow that type of stimulation (and just focus on her and then stop).
    We are both pegging and p-spot orgasm interested, but my cock hurt so bad that I couldn't concentrate.
     
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    You guys just need to find out what works best for the both of you. Be willing to do any new things & be honest about how they work... but I personally don't like getting aroused in my chastity devices. I will say having a smaller device will help curb erections, but if you are constantly teased while wearing anything... you might feel a lot of pressure.

    Find what works best for both of you and don't hurt yourself!
     
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    Yeah. Too much stimulation can be painful! Eventually it’s going to tug your balls clean off!
     
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    Forced erection within the cage is part and parcel of chastity training.. where the male is frustrated and suffers a temporary non functional penis while the female is aroused and sexually wanting.. it forces the male to seek various ways to fulfill and satisfy her using various methods other than that penis. Concentrate only on the tasks of helping her have orgasm without penile penetration amd once she reaches climaxs, you will be equally satisfied and your erection will wane off.. only to be frustrated again with her next arousal..
     
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    I'm single and self lock, and my Jail Bird can cause considerable discomfort, if not pain, when erect, during nocturnal erections. While sometimes my caged erections are tolerable, I don't know how long I could tolerate them say during sex with a partner. I have and do commend the caged persons who do engage in sex with a partner.

    I gather from your description that your caged penis was in her vagina, which may place increased strain on your scrotum and testicles.
     
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    Yes....caged in vagina....it was hot and she loved it...but as mentioned in another post, it almost did tear my balls off :)
    Learning what works, what turns her on, and what I can stand.
    Thanks for the feedback.
     
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    @LockedScott well its your fault cos of choose a to big cage for you and that why it has hurt cos it let you grow big a bit. If you get a cage that fit proper it wont do that.
     
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    Proper sized MMJB ordered. Will be a while still.
     
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    You will continue to get raging boners while with her unless you are locked full time and your bits have become fully adapted to cage wearing.
    That's been my experience.
     
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    Erections should not be painful. Frustrating, but not painful
     
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    That absolutely depends on what sort of device you are locked in. Some can be extremely painful.
     
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    True, but this guy was talking about an everyday cage, not a punishment cage. My comment is correct.
     
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    "Everyday cages" can be painful with a full erection too.
    It's been the case for thousands of wearers over many years.
    So actually your statement is incorrect.
     
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    I didn't say they are not painful I said they should not be. Unless that is what your Domme is wanting. I stand by my comments.
     
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    Thanks to both of you. Believe my situation is due to an over-sized cage that I'm working on replacing. Hoping that a better fit and time (with maybe an adjustment on activity) will help.
     
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    Get a right fitting one.. ie just enough to be filled up by the flaccid penis or slightly compressed..many may worry if the penis should be given some room to get accustomed with the confinement.. look out more for tell tale ill signs from the balls… the penis is a tardy piece of tough meat.
     
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    well i hope it will be nice and comfy for you.
     
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    MmJB very fine cage but for me they even custom could not go short enough as I needed.

    Good luck sure MM will be a great cage and fit.
     
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    #19 bemfem, Aug 16, 2022
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    You should have no pain, absolutely zero pain when trying to get hard. You should only feel a lot of pressure/discomfort, but no pain in my opinion. Nocturnal erections are very strong and even at night you should have zero pain. I was also initially in a lot of pain, before I got a custom build cage. Now, I am in my cock cage 24/7. I go to work in it, I travel in it, I do sports, and I sleep in it with no issues. And yes, I pleasure my wife in the cock cage too. When I am trying to get hard, I just feel a lot of pressure.

    I cannot understand how some people keep saying yeah, when you are in chastity there is pain, just suck it up. That is not my experience and I don't believe that 24/7 chastity should be painful. Yes there will be discomfort and a lot of pressure when trying to get hard. It is a very restrictive device around your private parts, but you should have no pain. If you feel pain, your cage is probably not well designed.

    I wrote a guide that might help you if your cage is not properly designed:
    https://www.chastitymansion.com/for...for-24-7-cock-cage-wearing.45079/#post-509577

    Krystine Kellogg made a podcast about my cock cage guide if you are interested:
    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/krystines-flr-podcast/id1529833492?i=1000571210960
     
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    @bemfem i thougt that as well but then a man telled me that he get some pain cos he is a proper man and his willy gose very big and like a stick when he get excited bout something and he cant help it.
     
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    Plastic cages tend to have sharper edges where the "ventilation" holes are. Metal cages tend to have much smoother surfaces, and larger holes / gaps in them. Plastic cages also tend to have mold lines that can act like little knives, and imperfect steel welds can have the same effect. That's generally, but yes, the opposites can also be true.

    When you get erect inside a cage, it's the pressure of thin skin on those small but hard and relatively sharp edges that causes the most pain, so generally, a steel cage tends to be less problematic than the average plastic cage.
     
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    Good analysis. Have you thought about thought about writing a guide to wearing a cock cage or having your wife record a podcast on the subject?
    I know I haven’t… but someone should
     
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    You can often make it much more bearable... sand down and smooth off the ridges and edges with fine sandpaper and/or a fine file. On one early plastic cage I filled in the ventilation holes with bits of plastic and epoxy resin to make it solid, it was much more comfortable then.
     
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    Good points. Medical steel is in general much more biocompatible. I did not try plastic cage so I cannot comment. I started with cheap metal cage and was hurt very bad. It is really a hard long process to get the cage right, but I believe that no one should be in pain when caged. Unfortunately custom cages are expensive.
     
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    I have a metal ca
    I have a metal cage and my issues are not rough surfaces. My pain is all about my balls about to get ripped off :( Again, I'm hoping that a properly fitted cage will prevent me from growing lengthwise and widthwise and will keep things in check.
     
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