New and need help for sub who is not submissive by nature.

It is time to talk. You both need to determine if he has submissive tendencies, or is he bottoming.

If he is bottoming, and just likes the kink, that is fine, but is unlikely to result in a FLR.

If he thinks he is a submissive, and wants a FLR, you both need to discuss what it looks like and what each of you needs from the relationship. I think an FLR can be the basis to develop trust. However, it does take time.

Talking, is the first step. If you continue, you will talk a lot. It is one of the benefits of a FLR. As you talk more, a new closeness can develop that may surprise you and lead to a stronger overall relationship.

Let us know how you progress.

 

I agree!

 

Just curious, how does HE take it off. Does he keep a key, does he demand the key back, or does he just slip out of it?