My keyholder has shut me down! All about a little spat had nothing about chastity! Kind of when fantasy and reality collide! Now she won't answer the phone! She has ordered me a new cage and told me to beware when it arrives! My question to the mansion is you think I should sell flock to show her my devotion or enjoy my freedom while I can? Waiting for First Responders!
A bit of context would help. is she a financial dominatrix, a close relative of you? how long have you been in a relationship? why is she mad after you?
Definitely not a findom! We started vanilla and recently started playing with the cage! She's actually way too easy on me! I guess you could say I have to train her from the bottom up!
Took me a minute to figure out sell flock. Thought it might be some fancy European term for punching the monkey. As @Bertha points out it is largely dependent upon your relationship. In my opinion once you give up orgasm control, you give it up. The cage is part speed bump, part wedding ring and part sex toy. It is not in and of itself the point. If you have given control over your orgasms to her, she should retain that control in or out of the cage. If she tells you to get your rocks off while you're out, go for it. If she says no, well that's your answer.
Enjoy your freedom: it's better to follow her orders and comply with the locking when the device she has ordered arrives.
Well Michelle had me self-lock again tonight! She's getting Bolder and growing day by day into a dominant role! Her latest idea is that I will always be locked during her periods! She has told me that is non-negotiable! The problem is that means a minimum 5 day lock up and that should coincide perfectly with my new cage arriving! I hope it's a slow boat from China! Lol!
The start of my Wife's period often means the implementation of a fresh phase of training for me which continues after her period is over
This seems so natural and rational, the most minimal thing a keyholding woman, even an occasional keyholding woman, would require. It's the smallest thing she could require, and men should accept and be grateful that she is training us to take a time out and share and empathize with her female essence.
I agree that being locked during her periods is appropriate! And just to think I used to call it blowjob week! Lol!
None of us have full understanding of your circumstances and can not really offer any informed advice so you will have to make this decision for yourself. Whether or not you percieve the advice in that comment a good thing is entirely down to you.