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When i get horny enough not much will stop me. I use a CB6000s. While not easy and nowhere near as pleasurable. It's still doable and after about a 3 week lockup we'll...brb
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Most men can. Until I ended up in a PA affixed device I believe I could also have made it to orgasm with enough fiddling with the device. Especially after a decently long period of denial.

Now that the current device is affixed via the PA, “tugging” and pulling on it the way you describe would not work. Now, the only ways we’ve found to get me to orgasm in the cage require a vibrator (does not feel good AT ALL. It can get me to O, but at the end I’m sore and red), the use of a flesh light (feels ok, but still, orgasming from penile stimulation while in the device is highly not a great experience. Though the benefits of denial are still lost), and lastly, through prostrate stimulation, which is its own entirely different beast.

In short - penile stimulation to orgasm while locked feels much more like a ruined. It was doable more easily before the PA, but now requires the use of some sort of tool, all of which @Thatgirl keeps locked in her chest.

 

Not a lot of people have a device from rigid chastity like mine, but its design is that the piercing prong is "rigidly" attached to the cage. 99% of the penis is covered and the only exposed part is the tip, which if vibration is added, hurts like crazy. I think if given enough time...45min to an hour or more of serious hitachi wand action, I might be able to get there, but certainly would be a lot of work and not something I could just do.

I had other cages that were less enclosed and I noticed that when I was cleaning it in the shower with the shower head, it felt good enough that I could use that to get off if I wanted. Tried it with this one, and it hits the piercing and water goes in and just feels like I have to pee, but nothing like sexual pleasure.

But all my other cages were able to get off in them if I wanted to. I never did, not because I am so noble...the thought of having an orgasm in a tiny cage sounds painful and messy.

 

Not only possible, but easy too. This is why I always say that if you want chastity to last long term, you need self control. No one is going to watch over you 24/7 to make sure you do not masturbate.

 

I have found none of my devices can stop an orgasm from the hitachi. Even without the hitachi you can get there after a few weeks, but like others have said its not that enjoyable but does give a sense of relief. The only thing I could suggest is maybe a full belt or something like kali's teeth. I have not heard of many men being successful in a belt and the kali's teeth would be downright painful in the worst way.

 

Not to get into your business...but what's he doing trying to get off? I understand it is frustrating not being able to cum, but that's kinda what we signed up for when we wear these things. They really are orgasm resistant, not orgasm proof. Curious to your reaction. My kh would be furious if she came home to find me fiddling with myself. She told me once that if she found me cheating like that, she would either give me a year of lock up without any release, immediately with no questions asked, or hand me the key. She has since said she doesn't plan on giving me the key back ever so it would be the year long sentence.

So, what are you two's plans with chastity...is this something you were ok with?

 

Yes very easy to cum while in chastity. Definitely not as pleasurable tho. I can achieve orgasms from just jerking up and down on the lock. But like everyone is saying you can't be watched 24/7 so it's more self control. But you must be prepared for the punishment if caught.

 

We have a KTB - not the actual, but a 3D printed version. It is HIGHLY effective. As in 100%. Any man who can sustain the level of pain even a partial erection causes while wearing that thing for long enough to get himself to orgasm should, IMVHO, be allowed to cum and celebrated as a hero. The thing is brutal. @Thatgirl used it on me primarily for times when I need to be out of the cage for whatever reason, but also the occasional punishment (rare).

I can say this though - if you want to put a dead stop to any attempts at becoming erect, let alone achieving orgasm, a KTB is a sure bet. And the 3D printed one we have was under $50.00

To be truthful, I sometimes - and increasingly often as time in the cage adds up - look at porn despite being caged. At a certain point it becomes pretty pointless if you’re unable to get off, as I am. And eventually it just becomes more uncomfortable than anything; attempted erections in the cage can be somewhat exciting in and of themselves, but after a while it just starts to be more and more uncomfortable.

That fact is why when she wants me to beg her to do something to me that she knows I don’t necessarily want done, she’ll tease me and keep me excited for a long while, until I finally just want to either be allowed to cum or allowed to become flaccid again bad enough that I’ll essentially cry “uncle” and ask for what I know she wants me to ask for in exchange for her stopping what she’s doing at that moment. It’s a very frequent technique of hers, and one she delights in employing.

 

I wear a fully enclosed metal cage, and there is zero possibility of me achieving an orgasm while locked. We've tried...it is impossible for me.

 

I actually look at porn a lot now. It's weird when u know it's not going to end the way it always used to. At some point I figure out that I'm wasting time and go about my business.

I have had times where teasing was something I wanted to stop. This morning was a perfect example. I was just barely awake, hadn't peed yet and was contemplating getting up to do so. She put her hand on my cage and rubbed the little that is exposed. Well I knew it wasn't going anywhere, and it was borderline painful since I hadn't peed yet. If she was going to remove it and play with it I would have been all for it, but as it was I almost wanted her to stop. Not enough to say anything, but it wasn't something I could have kept quiet about for too long.

 

That's a shame. I do hope you stick to your guns on this. There is a certain amount of neglect that happens when someone gets themselves off. I guess I'm talking about the men...women in general can handle sex and relationship obligations without neglecting either.

I would suggest some punishments, mixed with some positive reinforcing for when he stays true.

Hope all goes well.

 

I have found that it depends on the device being worn. I have been able to masturbate in some devices but not all.

My current device is sized rather "compact", and it is anchored by a urethral tube and a PA piercing and I have not found a way to get satisfaction while wearing it. There is just not enough movement due to the size , the piercing and the urethral tube. It also gets very tight when I get aroused, and clamps down, which reduces movement even more.

I suppose that I could try a vibrator, but I believe that it would be ruined and not pleasant. Instead, I buck up and stick it out.

So, I think it is possible to find a device that would work, but it takes perseverance and a lot of trial and error.

 

sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it too lol. He likes being controlled in chastity but also still loves masturbating to porn. If its important to you that he doesn't masturbate then like others have said your going to have to put a stop to it. I think there has been some good suggestions so far so I would take those under advisement. You may consider just talking with him and letting him know how disappointed you are and that if it doesn't stop you will take matters into your own hands. One other suggestion i would make is that there are ways to prevent him from watching porn at home through things like opendns and then password locking the router. Though that will not prevent porn viewing on his phone. We use a device called circle by disney to prevent our kids from using their phones to access undesireable sites. That could be an option for the phone if its a problem. Either way it will probably take some money to stop it. Good luck.

 

First, the answer is yes, if he really wants to orgasm (while it will be much more like a ruined orgasm) he can even in a cage ... some cages make this VERY difficult and can involve overcoming pain but the simple answer is yes. Further more some men can achieve "orgasm" without ever really getting hard (thing Erectile Dysfunction), so for that kind of man defeating the cage would be even easier I imagine.

Now onto the more important discussion. It would appear that there is some sort of "disconnection" between the two of you (speaking from experience, not pointing a finger). So in simplest terms, instead of working it out with you so that both of your needs are met, he most likely gets lazy and has an event like you described. In my experience this situation needs a loving and serious sit down talk that is not just a sit down talk it out in 10 minutes and everything is resolved. He obviously is struggling with masturbation which in turn most likely causes you to struggle with feels of him not wanting you. Again speaking from my experience that is not true, he more than likely wants you 24 / 7 and would prefer to have sex all day everyday. And well in the real wold that just is not feasible. So instead he sneaks 2 minutes here and there to help quench his "wants" which is masturbation.

I in the beginning agreed that I would let my KH control when and how often I orgasm ... well I would still tease my self and mess with the cage etc ... not to orgasm but to try to alleviate the "wants" ... well like your guy I got "caught" and I explained I was only teasing and that I needed more ... so we had our "sit down" and it was agreed that I was not to touch myself anymore and that my KH would touch me at least once a day. Seemed fair and well it has worked out VERY well for us, I don't know when I get my touch each day and sometimes it is more then once a day ... and she gets my affection and feels wanted because I do what I can to give her that so that she gives me more ... yep it is a game and yep we love it ...

I hope this helps you two figure out your missing piece and can grow together more, because for us that is what chastity is about, a tool to help us be stronger together.

 

Frustratingly, I have never (even before chastity) successfully masturbated myself to orgasm. Not for enough trying...