(N)ever go back ?

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  1. TheKeyIsMine
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    Hi,

    me and my husband discussed our lifestyle last weekend. We live in a pretty normal relationship with house/kids/jobs but with chastity and light FLR.

    We spoke about our lifestyle and that we are at a point of no return...means that we never ever want to have a „normal“ vanilla sexlife again.

    We both are a bit afraid of what this could mean for our future. Maybe chastity for him forever or for a long time ?!? Maybe never inside or cuckolding ?

    We are practicing this lifestyle for so much years now we can’t imagine to go back to normal.

    What’s about you ? Are there ways to go back ?

    TKIM
     
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    We are basically where you are.
    Kids, relationship, kinky from the start...

    Relationships are always evolving. That goes for vanilla as well as ours.
    Years ago I would never imagined us where we are now.

    To answer your question. No, I don't see us going back. Even as we never had vanilla relationship, I believe we are past the point of no return.
     
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    We introduced the cage to add a bit of spice to the relationship. We go back all of the time, she's more likely to reintroduce the cage these days than me which is great.

    I think it will always be a part of our relationship, it that becomes 24/7/365 then that's fine for me, I'm long past trying to push for that though, it seems to put too much pressure on the whole thing.

    We aren't in an FLR, we're partners. She doesn't want me to be a doormat, I don't think I'd be happy being one. I doubt we'll ever introduce other people into our relationship.
     
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    Things evolve, life changes. Makes it interesting. You seem to have a good thing worked out.
     
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    We are at the same point. The idea of going back to "normal" just doesnt seem likely, it would be so dull.
     
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    Why would you ever want to go back? As long as both partners are satisfied (with sex or lack thereof), TPE-based relationship is much more wholesome, deep and honest than vanilla.
     
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    I dont see us changing our current way of life. We are equal partners except she 100% owns my/her penis.
     
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    If you both have sort of rewired yourselves into needing this lifestyle in order to cum/satisfy yourselves I doubt there is "going back".
     
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    Change is inevitable. We're in a place where we never expected to be.
     
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    Fluctuating yes but going back...no
     
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    Change is inevitable. Why worry about it? That being, I fully anticipate that I will be locked 24/7, no PIV indefinitely, with my beautiful wife/KH enjoying nightly orgasms, as long as we are both alive.
     
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    Can't imagine going back. We are both content this way.
     
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    I really like the changes to the relationship my wife and I have had over the past 6 months. The main thing that has changed is our communication level, not so much on my end though. She is a lot more vocal, seems more assertive with her position with everyone, and differentiates between what she wants and what is mandatory.

    As far as the bedroom goes, chastity has completely curbed a lot of other "interest" that she wasn't interested in to begin with. I really like that she has the driving wheel with most things now.
     
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    I heavily disagree.
    Beeing in a FLR and being a doormat doesn't belong together.
    I think it's actually the opposite way.
    Since 1 year I am living in a FLR which has and is still developing.
    I never had that much trust and opened in a relationship and I am not feeling like a doormat (at all and would also never accept beeing one).
     
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    Maybe?

    One of us might get really bored with it, or health issues show up. This is a long-term relationship, with luck we'll be together another 4 or 5 decades. Will I be locked that long? Who knows.

    What I do know is we like it the way it is now. And I don't foresee that changing in the short to medium term.
     
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    Never is a sort of absolute term. I would prefer to remain in chastity and continued to be owned or Dommed by someone. But life can change so that this lifestyle isn't appropriate or possible. So i'd have to say i'll prefer to remain owned, locked, and submissive, as i am now to @MistressS .
     
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    I don't see this life as being a linear journey. Over a period of many years we have encountered peeks and valleys and there has been an ebb and flow in our progression. Never in my wildest imagination could I have foreseen this life I am living. Going back is a phrase I can't relate to. That being said life always and ofter doesn't quite work out the way we imagine or want. Life can throw a curve ball and we need to learn to move with the tide. There is only one constant in my journey and it is my @BR_Saiph. No matter what the wind blows our way, what peeks and valleys we encounter we will be each other's north star.
     
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    You can heavily disagree mate, to each their own.
     
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    @TheKeyIsMine, i asked Your question to my Keyholder Wife, @MistressAMA, and She said She hopes we never go back and i concur. We've been married for 27 years and doing FLR for 15+ and our sex life just keeps getting better and better.

    Anything can happen and we had a good life prior to diving deep into chastity and FLR, but this is definitely our shared preference.

    asa
     
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    Your experience of being in an FLR is not the same as anyone else's. Every one of us has different motivations, different needs, different aspirations. You can't take your experience and declare that is what FLR is. That's what it is for you. Not for anyone else.
     
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    Mrs Edge and I have been into this for over 20 years, but we would take lock-up breaks once in a while. Sometimes for a few months, sometimes longer, but enough to reset our minds, and go back to it refreshed and enjoyable.

    That said, about 3 years ago we had been on a break and started getting back into it. A combination of things eventually led us to not just a "Never inside," but to a "Never unlocked" situation.

    It's both hot and scary for me, and mostly just hot for her. We have no desire to introduce a third party; her needs are being quite well met by me wearing a harness and a Vixskin. It's been over 2-1/2 years now, and neither of us have tired of it.

    The important thing to remember is that you're driving the bus. You (and your husband) can take it where you find interesting. There are no rules except the ones you make up.

    Go enjoy, and try not to over think it.
     
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    Always forward, never back. :love:
    (Besidee, this is all way too much fun!)
     
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    I read this yesterday and it came up last night with Mistress. Although we know our relationship will evolve it has already evolved so much. But we both agree we will never go back to a vanilla relationship and FLR and chastity will always be a major part of who we are.
     
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    We are sort of in the same boat. The more you engage an FLR lifestyle, the more normal it seems to become. We tend to switch back and forth but the FLR phases are becoming longer and longer. I don’t think there is any right answer, do whatever works for you and feels natural. It’s really strange how traditional “norms” are so embedded in our culture. Nobody bats an eye at a traditional marriage but why should “society” and others dictate how you live yours?

    I don’t think there is anything “doormat” as the husband in an FLR any more than the wife in a vanilla marriage a doormat. In fact, maybe it’s just our FLR, but she has told me she feels more protective and caring than ever before.
     
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    Only if you consider a "vanilla marriage" to be an "HLR".
     
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