So, I've been pretty relentless. She's said several times that she wants to be the keyholder, but there has been a constant hesitation. I'm not sure what exactly is the issue that gives her hesitation. So I kinda chose to live a little dangerously. I've been sending her forum posts and other links a few times a week, and she typically does not respond. I bought her a couple books that she hasn't read. It's frustrating. So I sent her a picture of her butt as a reply, and told her that I would keep sending her nude pics of herself if she keeps ignoring me. She is very shy, and I don't have any nudes of her, so she knows that I would have to collect some. She threatened to lock me up, and I told her that it was the only way to keep me out of mischief. Then I sent her a link to a story on literotica that explains why I would even want to be locked. And once she had read it, I told her via email that sometimes women think that the chastity kink is indicative of their man's dissatisfaction with the woman. I explained that for me, I would never be able to give up this much to someone who I didn't love and trust completely. "You are my world, and I want to make that emotional reality into a physical reality". And I self locked and told her that I was locked again. "Good!" was her reply. When I saw her after work, she was glowing! I believe that my message was the reason for this. So I placed the key in her phone case, which seems to be where she likes to keep it. Her case is clear, and she tends to leave the phone face down on tables, so the key is showing when she does this. The key has the text "BDSM" on it, so anyone who gets a close look is likely to be able to guess the significance. I have no idea if she is aware of this. I think she probably is, and I choose not to tell her because I think maybe she likes the display, but would feel compelled to hide it if I pointed it out to her. Maybe it's a mistake, I don't know. In any event, we were at a karaoke party with her friends last night, and the phone was displaying the key for a long time. As far as I can tell, nobody noticed. So maybe we've turned a corner. Maybe it's only a tiny step. Time will tell.