My Wife admitted her disinterest in PIV.

I feel for you! It was kind of a shock to me as well. She always seemed to enjoy it but once the cage was on she said it was whatever for her. Kind of like when she told me she felt bad about the chastity. I told her not to feel bad, I enjoy it! She told me that she didn’t feel bad about it so much as she felt bad that she had no desire to let me out!

Hopefully you get out and are allowed release more often than I have been since then. Enjoy the ride!

 

It sounds like she was just messing with you based on her intrigue with tease & denial.

But if she has truly lost interest and you really love PIV, then you ought to have a conversation about your needs, her needs (or lack thereof), and potential compromises/solutions. For example, would you be okay with being cutoff indefinitely? What about permanently? Would something like a fleshlight satisfy a craving for sex? If not, would she be willing to offer intercourse every once in a while even if she doesn't enjoy it? Could you even perform knowing she's just compromising?

I may be more of an extreme case where my wife and I mutually decided to stop PIV and keep me pussy-free forever (for reasons listed in another post of mine). Before it was just playful tease & denial that I could stop at any time, but now intercourse is not even on the table... and I'm perfectly content with that even though most guys probably wouldn't be. For what it's worth, I don't find it humiliating or emasculating as there are plenty of other ways to satisfy and feel close to one another.

 

This is similar to my situation, except my wife made it very clear that she does enjoy PIV a lot, and it's just my penis that she doesn't enjoy.

My penis is quite small, and she could only barely feel it, even insisting many times that it wasn't in when I knew it was. I also have very poor control over my erections and orgasms. I have always had a problem with premature ejaculation, but I also had developed problems getting and maintaining erections due to age, alcohol, my need to be humiliated, etc. The two problems intersect when I finally get hard enough to put it in but then immediately feel the need to ejaculate.

Anyway, my wife gave up on PIV sex with me a long time ago, and it's strictly forbidden now. But she still enjoys PIV and allows me to use her favorite dildo whenever she wants 'sex'.

 

I fully understand @Carry_a_Load's wife. Clitoral play can be much more satisfying than PIV, especially for older women or after having children. And you can stop and start and edge as much as you want; there is no extra effort involved and you can switch between different types of stimulation. Let's face it, PIV is only one way to make a woman climax, whereas oral or finger play can deliver a variety of orgasms. Nothing personal about the husband's size/ability, it's just individual preference.

 

My wife and I haven't had PIV in years. She lost interest in it and I couldn't force the issue. Not sure if it was part of our aging, my small penis, or just changes. But it is where we're at now.

 

Yes, when you're four or under like us, it makes sense that she'd look elsewhere for her pleasures.

 

For me, it used to be. LOL, even tried padding my crotch when I was single. Now I'm glad I'm small as it fits with my fem desires as a sissy.

 

It may not be your anatomy or stamina. Having a smaller penis and premature ejaculation is not required for PIV denial.

My wife’s told me “your penis does not give me any intrinsic pleasure. I don’t need your cock. It’s ok. You can stay locked.”

She prefers clitoral stimulation, especially with her vibrator. She’s not interested in other men, huge dildos, or being fucked.
She’s called me infatuated and narcissistic about my own cock. It’s a nice size. In 2013-2015, I demonstrated endless stamina.

In 2016 she took over my chastity and piercing jewelry. She had notionally taken control in the bedroom in 2014. But she only took over as my daily keyholder - no more self locking - in 2016. I had finished stretching and she learned to perfect her ruined orgasm technique.

She could have kept my stamina going. But she chose to mold me into a quick cumming, always eager and grateful boy.

She’d hush me when I’d be nearly in tears as she climbed atop me, guide my cock into her pussy, and I was ready to spill immediately. She loved my intense reaction and got addicted to the power. She’d tell me it’s ok and she wants me to cum quickly.

I would want to avoid orgasm as long as possible because it would cut short the time I felt being inside her. But she wanted me to cum and pushed me never to hold back. She’s trained me to be easily spilled.

She wants me this way.

We spoke. If we ever play with other people, She said she never wants anyone to penetrate her. And then she added “except you” after a short pause of reflection.

She doesn’t want to be fucked. I’ve tried cock sleeves and she does not like them at all. She doesn’t want me bigger and longer. My cock is big enough.

It’s her gift for me when she lets me inside her. There is power in this. She loves that aspect. Being the bottom is not what she wants, at all.

I could be a good fuck. I once was. She’s molded me into this.

So, this adds to my frustration. I don’t have an ”excuse”. It’s what she wants. It’s not something inherent in me. It’s a choice. Her choice.



I know this table of diminishing orgasms and PIV will look generous to some of you. We can’t help but measure

But she’s guided me down a steady decline of PIV. Last year I was “the top” but only twice in sweet caregiving missionary.

I haven’t “fucked” since August 17th 2018. I nearly cried when she let me take her doggie style. I scarcely remember it except for my journal entry.

Anyway, my take away message is this: you can have a nice long thick cock and demonstrate infinite stamina, and proudly act like a porn-star/ sex-god and you may end up in PIV denial, orgasm control, masturbation denial, enforced chastity, endless frustration from tease and denial.

It’s her choice, once you submit to her.

I am struggling with this fact very much right now. And have been for the past 6 months or so.

 

amazing post Peter. Wow.

 

That's what our tongues are for !

 

You may soon be glad that you are allowed even that release!

 

Yes Ma'am, and they don't get tired and lose interest after one squirt!

 

My wife loves piv, being ravaged, she’s a bit of a size queen (she doesn’t think so but her favorites are all 8 inches or more lol), and she seems to prefer being able to keep up the pace for about 15-30 minutes. I’m not the “ravaging” type, I have little endowment, and I am more of the 15 seconds than the 15 minutes. So does that mean I am going to live the rest of my life without being inside her, because piv with me isn’t mind blowing? No

First of all, she prefers my fingers. They are bigger than my penis by at least an inch or more, I can adjust the thickness by adding subtracting digits at will, and can curve and move them like no penis can.

Second, as far as piv goes, she still does it, still enjoys it, just not for the same reasons. It’s something she does for me, not her. In fact she gets a little kick that as soon as I’m in I am ready to cum. She once told me it made her feel powerful that I couldn’t help myself. She enjoys the intimacy and she can even cum if she grinds her clit on it, so it’s not like she’s laying there, it’s still fun.

Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean sex is over, just that the preferred method may have been illuminated.

 

We share this in common.

 

My Wife has always been disinterested in PIV, but we still do it unless I'm in chastity. Most of the time I'm not in chastity.

 

From reading countless cuckolding posts on various message boards over the years (and my own conversations with my wife), the male half of the relationship is almost always the one introducing the concept to his wife/girlfriend.