My Vanilla Wife... After She Agrees

I'll keep trying, I need my sleep though.

 

The a257 is super heavy, but putting a bowline knot on one side of the base ring then wrapping it around my waist, and attatching a taught line hitch to the other side allows me to adjust how high it sits and removes all weight. I think this is the closest to having a "Chastity Belt" I will ever be. I even tied a loop to the bottom and ran it out my underwear leg hole then up to the center of my lower back locking the whole thing in place to the back of the belt. Wow. Secure... Still can't sleep in it though. I go for a few hours, and then it's a one way ticket to burnt balls city.

I ordered a 50mm ring. It's coming from China so two to three weeks until it gets here.

Also surprisingly, the a257 arc is becoming more scarce on eBay without the ball separator hook. I'm beginning to think this is the end of comfort for anyone new chastity who would like to try that device. There are a few people still carrying the model without the hook, but it's even difficult to find a replacement base ring without the hook welded on.

 

I just got back from a week of volunteer work in an area with no cell/wifi where a chastity device would be NSFW. So I'm back... Anyway, the first night back I decided to try to sleep in my device... I was just getting used to it, and now it's back to square one. Even worse, I told my wife that I didn't wear my device all day and asked if she wanted me to use it at night. She said only if it will help you sleep.... It doesn't...

That's not the point of me asking... The point is so that she can say yes and I have to do it.... Ugh. So it's back to square one with that too...

Anyway, I decided to look at some porn yesterday (while wearing my device and discovered that a woman never... ever.... EVER! has to have her man take off his base ring, even for sex. You just lube the ring and flip it so that his balls get poked by the top (from behind his balls) instead of her pubic bone. Here is the video where I found this out...

https://mskittymischief.tumblr.com/post/121705407484/mistressandherknight-my-reward-for-taking-most

I'm sure that it will be there until tumblr takes it down then I'll have to post a different link, so watch it while you can folks.

 

A phone call and a few choice words can change everything....
She asked how my day was
I said busy
She had a list of stuff for me to do
I made a comment that I am wearing my device
She said good, she hadn't had time to ask about it
I told her that I would have cheated today without it
She said that she has been feeling like making love lately
I said that I asked last night if I should put it on and she said no
She said she wants me to wear it if it will help me go to sleep
I said that's not why I wear it to bed. I can sleep without it. It's to keep me from masturbating if I wake up at night
She said she didn't realize and that I need to wear it every night....
And said if that's the case why haven't I been wearing it...
I told her I didn't want to disrupt her evening since I was putting it on just before bed
She asked if I was not wearing it at night because I was hoping for sex
I said no I haven't planned my schedule and so I don't expect any sex until I do. I just didn't want to be the cause of her staying up later just so I could put on my device
She said I need to plan better to have it on before sleep time...

I am so turned on right now...

 

Yesterday I unlocked in the middle of the night... Night time erections... Ugh... I packed my device in my day pack and went back to sleep. I had a plan.. later that morning was my annual check up at the doctor. I dropped the kids off at their random camps, locked up at a traffic light and proceeded to the doctors office. I was nervous that he may want to do a hernia check, but he didn't. He did feel around my abdomen and his hands came dangerously near my groin. In the end nothing happened. I got a clean bill of health.

Last night i managed to keep my stainless HTv2 clone on all night. I woke up twice. The first time i managed to relax enough to stem off the erection. The second time I had to urinate to make it go away.

Today I'm at a water theme park... I'm with the kids so no device... There is a guy here though, who is wearing a Speedo swim suit who clearly has a device. You can see the bars right through the swim suit. His woman does not have a key hung around her neck or ankle so I'm guessing it's in her purse.

I wonder what it's like being on the other side of this observation. Does he want to be found out? Did she suggest that he wear the Speedo? Has anyone approached him about the device? What would he say if someone came up to him and said hey I've got one of those too? He obviously has it on here so how long has he had it on?

I'll never know...

 

@PouchPantyLover I know that you are right about the guy at the water park... I just wonder, was he made to wear the speedo (it was bright yellow and when wet you could even see the bars of his cage through it) specifically so that it could be seen... Did he do it himself or did his wife (who was quite lovely) tell him to wear it?

Now I have so many questions and I can't believe what I saw. I'm not put off by it. I'm intrigued.

Well, back to my blog... So my wife and I took a ride to the grocery store without kids and on the way I started discussing some things I wanted to see about doing or adding. She still hadn't reviewed our agreement, I wanted to order a book or two, I had concerns that our physical closeness hadn't been growing and that she wasn't showing effort in that department. Would she consider keeping the key for me so that I couldn't get out.

And that's when she let me have it...

She said she isn't really interested in this, and she would rather be living a normal life.

I said, It isn't easy for me either, and I'm the one putting in all of the effort.

She said that she hears about it too much and doesn't have time or interest in planning where it goes or what's next...

I said fine... There are things about this lifestyle that I like, but there are parts that are definitely not worth it if you are doing it on your own without your partners support. I said it's been a fun game and if she want's to play in the future, just let me know. It was fun to do something different and naughty...

So I stopped wearing the devices. She asked a few days later how everything is going. I said fine. She asked if I was masturbating too much... I told her not to worry about it.

So here I am. I'll just be me... I have some toys I can play with for short term. Things may change. I told her that if she wants to play in the future just let me know and we can start back up again... I did have fun. Just saying.

 

I may still lock up on my own from time to time... After all I was the one with the keys the whole time so why not right? If I do... It will be for my own enjoyment. I did like the way that the device felt.

I told her that It was just a game I was playing and that I hoped that she would play with me... I also told her that if she ever wants to play in the future, just let me know.

So i tried to leave an open door.

We'll see.

 

After days of going bananas and masturbating as though I were trying to break my penis, I decided to lock myself back up... I guess I'm doing it for me now... We'll see. What happens.

 

Yeah, well, that sounds great and all, but she has an issue with the fundamental purpose of the whole thing. She doesn't want to be responsible for my orgasm and believes that it isn't right to hold the key to someone else's sex. She believes it's a basic human rights issue. She won't think of it as a game, but has no problem with me using it a s a tool to manage my own issue of masturbation.

The problem is I kind of like wearing it. I really enjoy the snug feeling and weight of the metal device. The knowledge that there is no way that I can masturbate with this thing on is awesome. I get more stuff done around the house now and there are physical changes to my body that I didn't expect. My muscles have gotten bigger and stronger. I have more energy, and my complexion has gotten better.

I'm just saying I like it. She doesn't but has no problem with me doing it by myself. So I guess that's what I'm doing.

 

Hmmm.... We have had a lot of stuff to do lately, and I just told my wife, "I don't know if you are interested in this at all or not but I have been wearing my thing every day." To which she replied, "I am very interested. It seems to keep you focused and I like that."

So I can imply that we are not completely all the way done... She wants me to wear it, she just doesn't want to be in charge of wearing my device. Hmmm... Where to go from here.... I'll just keep doing whatever I want.

 

Now that my wife has decided that she is not currently interested in my chastity, I have decided to proceed on my own… After a short stint of freedom and seeing how unproductive and selfish I can be, I’m back in my device. There are definite benefits to wearing a device including the camaraderie that I have experienced here.

Yesterday was interesting. I’m coming back into wearing my device after a month of freedom. I put it on in the morning and was prepared to take it off before the family came home. Unfortunate timing caused my opportunity for removal to disappear. I ended up wearing my device into the evening. I was ready to take it off in order to snuggle with the kids and get a nice shower when my wife said we have too much going on and we have to do some planning. I told her that we could plan after my shower. She said she wanted to plan while I bathed. She followed me into the bathroom and sat on the floor with her note pad.

I really didn’t want her involved in my device use right now. I don’t want an hour long conversation about it. I don’t want her to think I’m trying to make her do something that she doesn’t want to do. I don’t want her to think that I’m doing something erotic without her. I’m just trying to get back to the way that I felt before. I want to get back to caring more and being more and doing more. I have plans, projects and objectives. There are certain feelings that a person can ONLY feel when they participate in chastity.

I undressed with my back to her, with my device on. I was very nervous, shy, and scared that she would find out or see. When I got into the shower, the release of emotional pressure caused me to shudder and the muscles around my prostate had squeezed just enough to force a ruined orgasm. I don’t know if that’s the correct term for it, but semen ejaculate came out, no different from a prostate massage. The feeling of urination without bladder release occurred and then I felt the flow of seminal fluid as I cupped my cage in the falling water.

In my opinion this is one of the best feelings and one of my purposes in participating in chastity. It’s as if any thought of her can trigger an orgasm… Who wouldn’t want the mere thought of their beloved to cause an instant burst of pleasure.

Where do I go from here? I don’t know. One of my least favorite things is getting what I want after such a long period of time; the orgasm. While intense is also painful after so long with much more hydraulic pressure and more muscular atrophy. It becomes a love hate relationship.