My story

It's a false narrative that sissies are into humiliation and degradation. This is true only in a fleeting masturbatory sense. What sissies want, or in fact anyone on the gender continuum wants, is an understanding partner.

As you outline, men have about zero constructive outlets for dressing, face ridicule for doing it, and realize life would be easier and more straight forward without CD compulsions.

Let's toss in another fact: most women hate-resent-and-are-highly-turned off by CDs.

I never really found a space for myself dressed, mainly because I could not effectively pass (my face is too male.) I took risks (going out), met with two Dommes (dressed), but found peace when (1) my urge to CD dissipated and (2) I met a women into bondage and control. She tolerated the dressing, but was not into it, so, in the end I adapted to her kinks. Obviously, its much easier being male. The role is much more straight forward. In some ways, clothing just gets in the way of a relationship.

I still love the art and porn of feminization -- and marvel at the ladies (the few out there) who embrace men with this inclination. I also love masculine women.

Thanks for putting your story out there. My two cents: don't go to war with your own penis or masculinity. See if you can blend it all together.

 

You are 100% right to view "dominance" as something personal and not formulaic. There are two archetypes, the maternal domme and the bitch goddess.

I pretty much hate bitch goddesses - but some bitchiness is sexy.

As for being a trans-domme -- I think that is uber-sexy, albeit, probably complicated. I am interested how things go for you on this front.

And your penis has been emancipated. I commend you for your experimentation.

 

Glad you've got things working.