My new life

What happens is your decision now. And quite right too.

 

You are correct I don't want it or like it and I am not submissive, I think those things are one reason she wants me locked. I am on this site to try and understand why some men like to be caged it still eludes me, but I am caged and I have a constant desire..........

 

Once you understand constant desire you understand half of what we chaste submissive husbands seek -- to break down the barriers to intimacy with our wives and show her our need without the alpha mask. Once you understand constant desire and begin to act on it you will begin to understand why she wants you locked -- she is tired of alpha male emotional avoidance and wants you to acknowledge and confess your need for intimacy with her.

 

Sorry you don't understand, she likes alpha male. I am 66 years old and I like to be a boy all the time she just wants me locked. I try to keep the peace and remain.

 

I probably do misunderstand. So pardon my asking: why does "she just want (you) locked"? What is she seeking that she doesn't get with you unlocked?

 

She is not seeking anything, she doesn't want me to have access to my stuff and she knows that if I am out I will get a stiffy and I will love being out and all that goes with that. She says she wants to prevent that, and I see how much she likes it this way so..

 

Quite right too!

 

Well that's more or less how it is with us.
I don't get out except to clean and erections are not allowed
if fact attempted erections whilst caged is all I'm allowed
and I do not know when or IF I will be allowed another orgasm or even an erection
to be honest the only sexual pleasure I get at the moment is the feelings associated with attempting an erection whilst locked.

To be allowed an erection presently has more appeal than to be permitted an orgasm.
Its all part of her price for being my KH and now I've got used to it I'm happy to pay it.

It dopes get a bit much from time to time and the desire for either is often replaced with a more pressing feeling of Need. But as my Lady quite rightly says 'it passes'

 

Tried to edit the above but 5 minutes was not enough...

 

You can always to a subsequent amended posts. 5 mins is I know a bit tight. Not long ago it was only but Jules announced she's increased it. You can always also report and ask Admin to increase further.

 

I know I am not puter savvy at all. Sorry I don't really get that in that I would not know how to access a subsequent amended post.

What I'd like is to be able to copy and delete... paste into word ..rewrite and then copy and paste into a fresh attempt.

Actually the ability to delete your old posts could be a good thing too.

 

Sorry that you lost but it sounds like a fun game....sort of reminds me of the old board game "chutes and ladders"...3 steps forward ..then back 2

 

I totally agree with you. I'm always surprised when I read here on CM how much focus there is on (not) cumming. To me it is the caging of my erection that is most profound, I don't have erections like a real man anymore -- she's caged them and converted them to affection and intimacy and submission.

 

I’m I kind of in between. I initiated chastity play and am excited by the idea. At the outset there was a lot of bondage, penetration, and teasing, and orgasm denial. Over time, my pleasure has decreased. Few climaxes, less pleasure, more denial. I’m not sure I like this or where it is going. M does like it though.

I’m sure that if I complained enough - real complaints and I was not happy - M would back off. I think. Problem is, lack of control does excite me and straight sex is not as exciting. I’m wired to want some chastity, but not too much.

So, yea, I’m being pushed out of my comfort zone by M.

 

ya men were made to orgasm it makes us strong

 

poor guy

 

Sounds very much like my situation but why the long face. It's about making the KH happy and making sure she's sexually satisfied. Women don't need our cocks for much except creating babies. Wearing a dildo enhances our lovemaking and i am more submissive and accepting of chastity knowing i, too, might never again be unlocked. Enjoy it!!!

 

Your post made me throb in my cage, thinking how your wife has grown as a person, in her authority and her will, how she has accepted her leadership and decided to live as a full powerful and complete woman. My wife is still getting there, life seems to get in the way, leaving me in this sort of locked stasis.

Remember, friend, that just as she is growing as a woman so are you growing as a man, learning about and experiencing all those parts of your emotional life that we as boys were raised to ignore and push through on the way to a stereotypical alpha emotionless manhood. Privately satisfying our erections has allowed that wall between us and her to just get higher. The feelings of emotional depth and need, and how you feel when she holds you and tells you she loves you and everything's going to be all right that grow out of your chaste erectionless submission, out of giving up the false macho alpha persona, are making you a better man and a better husband.

I do think there's hope though, that when she thinks we have truly achieved submission and she trusts the durability of our new emotional personality, she may permit us to experience the pleasure of orgasm again. Maybe?

 

Now do you mean experience the pleasure of orgasm or just to be led by the carrot of potential orgasms?