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    Hello all!

    Long story short, I have desired to be locked into chastity for years by my girlfriend. We finally tried it and it failed. She got very overwhelmed because it was just too much for her too fast. We stopped for half a year. It recently started again in an odd way. I turned her down for sex one night. Admittedly, I had been masturbating about my fantasies 4-6 times a daily and I saw my excessive masturbation to be the cause of my lack of desire for sex. So the next time I saw her, I told her my theory and was wearing my chastity device, and gave her the keys. It has been about three weeks now and it has been going pretty well. The two rules we have are that I am locked up whenever I am not with her/whenever she desires and that I am not allowed to touch myself unless told to do so by her. . This has led to me being locked a lot lately. Slowly working into it has made this time around a lot less overwhelming for her. My question is, how do I help progress things along? As it is right now, I'm locked a lot, but there is no real tease or denial. She is slowly working into it all, and I love that, but do you guys have any suggestions of smaller things we could try or she could implement to keep my chastity, tease and denial fetish growing? I am completely open to any ideas! Thanks!
     
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    Give her massage, attension, make her your princess... Maybe paint her nails?

    For us, when my princess was feeling special she started to do things for me... The way she think I like it... And that is not cumming . Instead teasing and take control... It can take some time, but don't rush into it...

    Every couple is different, but that is working for us
     
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    More communication and more open and hones communication is key! Take your time and don't force her!
     
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    Pay attention to what she likes and what bothers her or makes her feel good. Often the smallest things RP does or says travel straight to my heart. They tell me he is paying attention and being thoughtful. I also very much agree with DonnaSue and ddh067. Be patient. Women take time to process things. She may surprise you.
     
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    Joroincharge Lock em up - 24/7/365!!

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    Yes. First, suggest she join here after you have ecplained what you've long needed. Next, be sure you don't 'top from the bottom': so easy even in good faith in your situation. Ideas are there aplenty, but it's what she wants that matters. That said, you seem to have made a good start. So take it slowly and don't push. See where she takes you and go with the flow.
     
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    What went wrong the first time is that you tried to force the pace too much. Are you now trying to do that again?
    Accept that it will take time for her to get more involved, enjoy what you have and that it will be frustrating waiting for her to develop. Believe me, the less pressure you put on her to make changes to YOUR requirements, and the more you can do to keep HER happy, the better the dynamic will develop. Guys think that because a girl doesn't say something, she hasn't noticed, but what girls don't like is being rushed into something new before they've had time to understand it.
    There's got to be benefit for her, once she sees that having you locked means she gets sex when SHE wants, she gets a foot massage, back rub [whatever her favourite is] when SHE wants/needs it. It's not just the sexual side of things... chores around the house, just do them for her, make a joke of it [eg: "I took the garbage out darling - because it was that or wasting 5 minutes looking at porn, and in my condition that wouldn't have been very productive!"], but let her come to her own conclusion that having you locked up is making her life more enjoyable. And that WILL take time.


    PS. You're getting frustrated that things aren't happening...
    Don't you see? That's effective tease and denial!
     
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