It is kind of amazing how long it has been since I started my chastity adventure. I realized the other day it had been years since I logged in here and I thought it was about time to give an update. Life has been wonderful since my wife and I started this journey. It has not been without challenges but once we really let ourselves go and began to do whatever felt right for us things have mostly been amazing. When we first began discussing chastity we were very new to the dom/sub lifestyle. At least openly so and with each other. I won't bore you with our life story but we were very fortunate to become involved with a local BDSM group that has members participating in many lifestyles. The guidance and support we got from that was incredible important. The one thing I wanted to share with you all though is to not be afraid to give up total control. I know for many the tease and denial is a big part of their life and if that is your thing then don't let me talk you out of it. But if you are on the fence about long term lockup I encourage you to try it. Like many we started with a schedule. First I would be locked up for a few days. Then a week. Then a few weeks. Everytime I was released I was able to orgasm, usually sex with the wife, or at least some sexual assistance from her be it blowjobs or handjobs or what have you. And usually I was unlocked for a few days. It was about a year after we started with chastity that I realized that several times after I was released we would have an argument within a few days. Sometimes I had already been locked up again, sometimes not. I also fell back into a more "male" mindset. I would feel the need to call up an old friend and go play trivia or poker at a bar. Have a night out. I realized it and I hated it. When I was locked up for weeks I felt different. Better. I was a better partner for her. We don't have a traditional mistress/slave relationship 24/7, and although we do take on those roles often neither of us truly needs that. What I needed was to be emotionally and physically submissive, which put me in a spot to serve her 24/7, be it as a traditional submissive slave or not. It is harder to describe in words than I thought when I started writing. So I am sorry if this isn't coming through. But basically I realized how much I loved her and how much I truly adored and worshiped her. I wanted her to literally be everything to me. I needed to put myself into a position where I am willing, without hesitation or question, to serve her every whim. If that is getting her a Starbucks coffee at 9pm or sucking a cock it is all the same to me. I am making her happy and my only happiness comes from making her happy. I have been locked in chastity for just over 5 years now. I have been released 6 times for no more than a few minutes each. 5 for doctor visits and she is in the room with me, unlocks me so that the doctor can preform a physical, and then locks me back up immediately. Surprisingly it was much easier to find a doctor than we thought that was okay with this by the way. She even did some research on possible medical conditions and had a talk with us about them. We were already aware of them but it was nice of the doctor. The last one was just a few days ago so we could take some measurements for my first new cage since the jailbird. I really do feel great. I have separated myself from virtually all of my friends and family (I did not have many of either and do not miss them) and truly live to serve her now. She is my whole world and there is nothing I would not do for her. And it makes me as happy as I have ever been. So for those of you considering long term chastity I say give it a try. Let go for a while. Let your keyholder lock you up with no promise of release and see how you change after a month or two. Stop thinking about your physical needs and free your mind to think of the physical and emotional needs of your keyholder. My mind already wanted to be able to fully surrender to her like that and the chastity allowed me to do so physically as well. And it has been fantastic.