My lil journal

I've been semi obsessed with chastity for about 3 years and Into femdom/BDSM for as long as I can remember - sounds ridiculous but even as a young child I had fantasy's of being captured by a beautiful woman and being tied up, not able to escape.

3 years ago I bought a cage and put it in and showed my wife who laughed out loud and thought it was a joke. I told her it was something I wanted to do and she obliged, clicking the lock shut ona second silicon cage. Then we had a family bereavement and we're trying for a baby so it fell to the wayside.

Our baby's almost a year old now and I've started wearing the cage again. Working from home has made my masterbation habit really bad and it's something I want to cut down on. I also find I need to drink alcohol less when caged (another bad habit) and generally feel calmer and more content.

I've been self caged for a week and my wife knows but hasn't paid it a great deal of attention. I've taken it off to have 2 baths and also to change to a new cage (the postman gave it to the wife and when she'd shut the door she said is it a new chastity cage and I was ashamed so lied and said it was a mother's Day present. Bad I know)

But yea I am starting again and hoping to gradually get her interested by not pressuring her about it and just trying to be the best husband and father I can be.

I kind of like not having orgasms but I want to worship my wife so bad and just give her pleasure but I she isn't really a sexual person and we are still getting used to parenthood and are both exhausted all the time but I'm hoping patience will pay off. If she asks about it I'll have to be brave and tell her this is something that I would like as a permanent arrangement, chastity and also a bit more of a femdom lifestyle. But I love my wife and if she says it's not for her and she doesn't want me wearing the cage I will probably stop but I worry it will make me sad and I will end up masterbating like crazy and drinking again.

But we will see!

 

Just packing up as we've been away for the weekend. Been locked for the whole duration which has been nice. Wife fully aware of cage now and slept in it the whole time. She sehs ok with it. After the second night she asked if I'd bought the keys and I said I had and did she want them and she smiled.

On Friday night was stroking her leg,bum and side and she said 'someone's horny' (Normally a sign to back off) and I said maybe but stopped stroking and we had a nice cuddle and fell asleep. Saturday night had a cuddle and I think she was quite horny so made out like we usually do and I went down on her and then we just went to sleep after I gave her a nice little orgasm. Was lovely.

Cage was chaffing a lil so have put some vaseline round the ring and that's helped. The tube of the cage has made little dent marks on my ballbag which isn't painful but a bit of a concern.

It's a semi new cage because it has a padlock and I think the wife would be more into this if she became my key holder than the barrell lock. Might switch back to the barrell lock cage as it's a little more comfortable. I already have too many cages and should seel some of the others I didn't get on with.

 

Thanks! You certainly seem right so far

I try and always make sure she has an orgasm in vanilla life but that's usually always followed up with one of mine. Trouble is I think she quite likes a penis in her and it turns her on seeing me cum. I've thought about proposing the strap on to her instead but think she needs to get on board with chastity first.... Plus if she's in charge it's up to her whether income or not. I'm still happy to not be masterbating all the time

 

Home from weekend away. The cage I had on whilst away was quite tight on the balls (heavier than I'm used to with round ring rather than oval) and also chaffed the skin at the start of the penis. Have switched back to original cage and so much more comfortable altho used the longer tube. Last night had a bath without the cage to have a good clean and let my bits breathe. Put it back on in the bathroom and then came out and laid on the bed pretty much naked next to the wife and she didn't comment much other than asking if it hurt when I got an erection. I said 'not really, it just sort of stops the erection'.

Tomorrow is at least 2 weeks since I've had an orgasm and i'm starting to get a bit horny now... The wife is on her period so no chance of sex... I'd rather give her an orgasm but that's off limits now. I'd love for her to just tease me and play with me a bit but I'm just trying to be patient. Worried that she feels me being locked means I'm off limits to her.

Will see how things go for now. Tempted to present her with the keys. Also thought about getting her a nice necklace. The more comfortable cage has a built in barrell lock and the keys are so ugly. The one that chaffed has a padlock which I've switched for a nice heart shape lock which i think she'd prefer and has a nicer key.

 

So this morning my wife gave my cage a little squeeze and I moaned and started kissing her and she laughed and asked what cage I had on. I can't even remember what I said in response - I think I said it was feeling right right now - but I told her I'm starting to get horny now as it's been 2 weeks since I came and she laughed and said maybe you should give me the keys (!) I didn't hesitate and grabbed them off my desk and said here you are and kissed her some more. She said she'd put them somewhere safe and were my balls getting heavy (a joke we share as I used to say my balls were so heavy if I hadn't come for a while)

So here we are! I no longer have the keys. Not sure of she's aware but she also has the spares which she's had for about w years from when we last played with chastity.

Kinda thrilled and nervous now.

 

So after I gave my wife the keys I went about my day,not much to report. We got in bed and watched a TV show she liked that I don't mind but it's her thing. Towards the end she started stroking my leg and moved up to my balls. This normally means I'm gonna get some but I thought she was on her period so just thought she was being playful. She laughed and said with the cage on she can't play with me as usual. She got up to go to the bathroom and came back. She was wearing her usual pyjamas but then took them off to reveal a black body stocking. My dick immediately expanded and I groaned as I was already quite horny and turned on. I won't go into details but we made out. She unlocked me which was so hot - the barrel lock was a bit tricky , with my cage u have to sort of push the tube of the cage in to take the pressure off the lock - but having her pull the tube off my swollen dick was quite the feeling. I made her cum orally and then again with piv and the second time I couldn't hold it and just sprayed cum everywhere lol. I don't think there's ever been so much, it was like a porn shoot.

It was amazing and I'm so grateful my wife indulges me. We sleep separately ATM because we have a baby. The whole of the above was with the cage ring on, no way that was coming off with an erection.so I lay there alone processing what had happened and felt great. I did start to think about putting the cage on, whether my wife would want me to or whether she thought this whole episode was a one off. Whether I wanted to or whether I felt I should. In the end I kept the ring on but left the tube off. In the morning I put it back on and left the keys to the side.

This all happened a day or two ago and I've been locked since. I thought about asking her to take the keys again but don't want to be too pushy. There's a small part of me who thinks it's a shame my run of 2 weeks is over but really I loved having sex and am INA good place as am locked again. I'm hoping to carry on being good with my drinking (altho had 2 beers last night) and hopefully being a good husband.

I think abstaining from sex is making us both more interested in it when it does come around and the fact that we do it when she wants makes her more into it. Hopefully things carry on on what I see as a positive upward trend. Still horny tho. Haha.

 

Just a quickie as this journal is for me to look back on really. Had a nice day, went for a walk. Took the baby out after to give the wife a break. Needed to have a good clean as it had been a Few days. Wife went to bed and said the keys on the side - you better not have a wank. I don't think she realises but I loved this comment

 

Last night watching telly and about to go to bed wife starts kissing me and getting me all hot. I start to get a bit hands on and ask if she'd like an orgasm. She laughs and says no. Squeezes my cage and says she's going to bed. Leans over and picks up the keys and says she's taking these with her. No idea where they are now

 

A busy few days, on Thursday watching TV in bed (writing this journal makes me realise we do this a lot lately! The lives of new parents). my wife starts caressing my balls again, I'd just had a bath/shower and relocked, and she was pleased as my balls were a bit looser than usual- because of the bath/shower. Then naked attraction comes on (for non UK people it's kind of like naked blind date) and she asks me if its weird her stroking my balls while we watch a load of penises on the telly and I tell her I wasn't paying much attention to the telly.

Things develop and she unlocked me altho with an erection we can't get the cage ring of so we always leave it on. However with my cage the ring has a hook to in corporate the barrell lock and it scratches her and I feel terrible. We do carry on tho but I really struggle to not cum but manage to give her an orgasm before I explode. Being locked up and not masterbating means I have so much sperm when I do cum, I think she does really like that.

The next day the weather was freezing and a ball popped out which got me quite down as I don't want to be able to escape and I've had trouble finding the right cage. I have about 8 at the moment and had settled on this one. I do have a smaller ring but then it's too tight and my balls turn dark blue.

Later that day I'm horny and watch some femdom joi and jiggle my cage. It gets me going and intend up having a caged orgasm. It felt better than nothing but not a proper orgasm and I feel guilty for having cheated.

Later that day I change cage to one with a hinged ring. It pinches a little but easier to remove entirely. The gap between the cage and the ring is kinda big tho and more flexible and I think in the past I've come out but I think let's give it a go.

That night I'm looking after our baby and he's not well which means I have to get up every hour to calm him down. This leads to lots of pinching and pain and by about 4am I get fed up and awkwardly pull the cage off (keys in the wife's room)

Spent the whole of the next day uncaged up untill the evening. My wife's in bed with the baby and I'm downstairs and she texts asking why the cage is on the side. I have mixed emotions as normally she's quite ambivelant (sp) but she might also be angry as Ive left a cock cage in our babies nursery and we had people over today. I'd pretty much forgotten as had had no sleep and we had people over and it was a really busy day. I think just be honest so recount the story and she laughs (via text). I also think she might be thinking that I've cheated and had a wank so I message saying that that wasn't the case and she said she'd know if I had because the sheets would be stiff. I ask if I had had a wank would I be in trouble and she says lol yes. I ask if I should put the cage back in and give her the keys and she simply replies yes. No 'lol' or kisses. I then text back yes mam! But she's fallen asleep.

I love the directness of the last text and it turns me on. My current cage is like the one in my avatar.

I'm tempted to get this one https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/971138753/men-chastity-devicestainless-steel?ref=cart

Or

https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/971...male-ergonomic?ref=cart&variation0=1880301934

But I've got a cage with that type of hinge and it's very stiff/awkward.

They're also twice as much as I'd usually spend although I should enquire about returns.

Anyway thank you for reading if you made it this far and thanks for putting up with my bad spelling and grammar. Any advice on cages would be great.

 

Have ordered a new cage
https://www.houseofdenial.com/collections/metal-chastity-devices/products/steel-hod-s99 hopeful that it'll be as good as my current one but easier to fully remove. Would like a padlock as I think the wife would like this and the key wouldn't be so clunky but maybe one day I'll find this cage with a padlock

 

New cage arrived A bit tight on the balls but a bit more space in the cage so there's no less foreskin snagging but still very snug. There is a little pinching on the hinge but I've got some shrink tubing I've read about on here.Have had the cage in since lunchtime yesterday .

The wife came in the office room and saw the box so I confessed I'd bought a new cage and explained the hinged ring. Also mentioned that I was selling others on eBay posted 2 today and waiting for payment on a third. She finds it all hilarious which I don't mind as it's better than her saying to take it off. Last night she asked to see it and laughed her head off but played with it a bit which really got me going as it'd been a week since I last came. But then she left to sleep with the baby. I asked her to take the keys as I didn't trust myself.

It's been a bit more punchy today and the tubing arrived but the wife's had the keys. She's actually work them on the cheap necklace they're on which is a first. I really need to get something nicer as the necklace is just one of those crappy metal balls on a thread. They type you might have a lanyard. I really wanna get a nice key as well but they're so expensive. I e seem the tutorial on here but even that's pricey and it all seems to be in America.

I'm really horny today and I'm desperate for some play. I don't want to come but I'd love it if we got out our toy box and I could just make her cum over and over again. Id love to use our strap on on her but the dildos only ever been used on me and I don't think she'd like to have it used on her if it's been in my ass(even if it's been cleaned thoroughly) I really need to talk to her about some of this but I think she'd clam up and get defensive and I don't want to ruin the thing we've got going on.

Also going to try and get the 50mm ring..I need to put the tubing on as well but reluctant to ask her if I can take it off. Lol what a life! I must sound mad.

 

Busy few days. My journal dates are a bit off where sometimes I start entries and don't finish them till the next day.

Friday night the wife started playing with me and I got so revved up - even thinking about it now is getting me turned on. I told her I wanted to go down on her so bad and she said I could which she very much enjoyed as did I.

Afterwards my balls turned dark purple and ached in a pretty painful way so had to take the cage off for an hour to calm down. It was lovely lying there cuddling the wife - or rather being cuddled, as I was under her arm which was nice in a sort of submissive way. It was nice to have my penis free for an hour too.

Really hopeful a larger ring will help as I really like this cage. The tubing round the ring helps a little but it's slightly to big so the pinching has stopped but there's a little chaffing from the edge of the tubing. I think I should have used a longer bit of tubing. Or a smaller size...but that's hard to get on the ring as the opening is wider than the hinge area.

When I put the cage back on before bed the foreskin got pulled back and I thought let's go with it. So that's been interesting as my exposed head has been pretty snug against the end of the cage. It's been good as there's been no foreskin getting pinched. However the bunched up foreskin mid way through the cage is trapped and kind looks a bit like a big blister. I'll probably have an uncaged look and maybe replace the tubing today.

Yesterday was also the 1 month anniversary of when I restarted wearing the cage seriously.

It's been amazing. I've only came 3 times! Some days I'd wank 3 times. I've cut down my drinking (altho was at a party yesterday so had a few beers) and my wife's said I've lost weight which is nice. I think the wife's had about 6 orgasms in that time. I'd like to give her more but she seems happy as isn't as sex mad as I kinda am.

I'm hoping this all continues and I think she is starting to quite like it and beginning to see it as the norm. I think next steps will be to get her a nicer necklace (she was wearing the key round her neck Friday day for the first time!) Try and get the bigger ring, and hopefully settle into this cage as the main one (or at least get to the stage where i wear my other one and maybe she tells me to swap if she wants use of my penis that night- that would be so hot!)

 

I'm updating this journal too much but after taking off the cage later in the morning I was shocked to see my foreskin was badly swollen in parts. Immediately rolled it back up over the head and if I wasn't so worried I'd have laughed at how it looked. I didn't know what to do. It didn't seem too serious as the colour was mostly normal and it still had feeling. The sane part of me said don't lock up again but the part of me that wants this lifestyle said if you don't then your wife will ask why and then she'll see and she will panic and call it a day. It feels bad hiding this from her but I thought it might just settle. I compromised by relocking but in a larger cage with the foreskin back in its normal place. It's also been kinder on my balls than the cage I was wearing. So a day off has been good. The swelling seems to have gone down but will check it out tomorrow at some stage.

I know this probably sounds really bad but I don't think my wife would have liked seeing this but it might all be ok. Well I hope so lol.

Other news is that before I discovered the swelling I bought a fancy jewelery/hidden key for a barrell lock...while now my cage is a padlocked cage but I think there will still be use for it and I think I might be destined to rotate between 3 cages ... But we will see.

No chance of play tonight but that suits me as im a little tender.

 

Thanks headtrip! I did try a better size but couldn't get it through but I hadn't thought of a bit of lube so I will give that a try will report back tomorrow

 

Thanks Tarknassus!
My puffy swelling seems to have gone back down and sounds like the same thing you had! Glad we are both ok haha. Love your journal btw!

 

Hey Headtrip! Thanks for the tip, the lube worked really well