Ive been a KH for over 3 years now, off and on, when my oh suggested it, i accepted it but wasn't eager to become a Mistress and the thought of abusing/humilating my oh was laughable. I am submissive by nature and i know i lack self confidence so whilst being a kh was fine, being a Mistress, well, i didn't even think about it. Very slowly i've come to accept and enjoy my role as Mistress. About a year ago i decided my slave should wear womens knickers which was great particularly when he was at work and i ordered him to take a picture of his undies and send it to me. six months ago i /we decided that womens knickers didn't fit as well as they could, so i placed an order with dee cluttering and these are much better. He is now my permernant sex toy, for 6 months. In the last couple of months i've experimented with spanking my slave with a crop, cane and wooden spoon. Cane being the most satisfying. I am now happy to take pleasure from my slave and though we have had sex he hasn't been allowed to cum. I've tried milking him unsuccessfully but slave can, so i'm happy to watch him. he's not allowed to do it whithout me there to watch, & he must also consume his cum. I feel that soon i shall comfortable with being forceful and/or verbally abusive to him, just for my amusement of course. Keep watching!!