Thank you again for all the feedback. Ok... I guess my last thought is that part of this is (mostly) an evolution. And the rest is a pick and choose part. Not all submissives are into fem stuff and those that are range from full blown transexuals happy to be in a situation where its "ok" to people who just want to cross dress to those that use it as a tool for humiliation. I'm just barely able to grasp the long term relationship with a sub. I'm sure you have to do it and find it enjoyable to really get it type of thing. But like Parachuting that first step is the last time you have ANY real control... Correct? M.W. your so right about one of the first things you said. You have to have a ton of trust in the person holding the keys to go forward with this... Its only now that I really understand that...
Jim, I have ED issues too due to a extended run in with cancer and the meds that come with it. April and I got on the road to chastity when the only way I could cum was by hand job. What started off as simple hand jobs turned into tease and denial, which led us to look at chastity play. You can't understand this kink/life style unless you try it. Just last week we did an extended T & D session that did not end up in orgasm. We cooled off my cock until it could fit back into the CB3000 and over the next couple of days we just go up stairs, hug, play and give her an orgasm. By day 3 I was toast. But the orgasm that followed was well worth the wiat X5! And as silly as it sounds chastity play has had a positive effect on my ED issues. It takes the focus away from your performance problems and turns it towards your relationship. And once you do this and stop worrying about your own issues you will find that your ED issues will be greatly reduced. My wife, April is normally very "V" and when I approached her with this I felt the same when I asked her to marry me. She accepted it and now thinks it's really neat and like the side benefits. We are not 24/7 and use it to enhance our time that we have together between work and medical misadventures. If your sitting on the fence I suggest you do more research on this subject and focus on the mental aspeccts of it. There are a wide range on people here from one end to the other. The only person who knows what is right for you, is you. And if you find that indeed this is for you and you want to get your wife into it as well then treat it with the same importance as when you asked her to marry you. Take care and I hope this helps. Steve
Hi Steve: I got here from a google search on Strapons. We use one when the Viagra runs out and DW likes the "variety" that the silicone gives us. I have to admit curiosity kept me here to read more. That and the "evil" Mistress Watchful who should really be renamed Mistress Eyeful "woo woo!" ;-) Anyway, I appreciate your comments and I'm sorry about the Cancer and post treatment issues. I've ducked Cancer so far and thank God for that. Am I on the fence? I would be dishonest if I said I was. I think its so soon since I even KNEW there was a fence. M.W. said that you have to try it to understand it along with what you said its all very "interesting" and some of the real life experiences are hot but... I think the path that I see with Chastity at least in my first look at it is difficult to see me doing. In my youth I guess you would class me as the "Alpha Male" and I was.... Well lets say that the nice married guy I am now precludes me from going down that path again. Anyway thats the blathering thats going on in my head right now.
Lol @ me being "evil" :bigsmile: You never have to try it... ever. Or you could get one and use it for a weekend just as another little sex toy. :angel:
Well if you ever sold anything I think it would be the rare person who would be able to say "no thanks" Your a good saleswoman. Yes, well.... Ok not "EVIL" but at least naughty! And still very cute! I have this mental picture of you sitting at home rubbing your hands together and doing that Mad Scientist laugh "Moohoo haha! - all we need to do is get him into one of these and then its TOO LATE FOR HIM!!!" ha! Which is I think part of the thing that makes it appealing to some? Surrender? Which is maybe a step in some changing the traditional sexual "roles" etc? We have kind of ramped up what we do in bed to make up for medical issues and have that all working pretty well. Right now I'm trying to make up for lost time so to speak so denial is not as appealing. Plus you don't want to see a grown man pull his own head off in frustration do you? Wait... Don't answer that I have gotten to like you... If I had that Chronic Masturbation habit I think it would make some sense or if I was straying or seriously thinking about it.
I used to sell sex toys. I was very successful. :angel: I believe it is pronounced "Mwahahahahahahahahahaaaa" :nerd: Ok.... I'll let you off for a little while! Anything more than once, ever, in a lifetime, at ALL is a chronic masturbation habit in my (not so) humble opinion! Maybe I'm kidding..... maybe I'm not! :crossedlips:
Well I'm honored to have such a georgous women want to see something done to me in a sexual way... Or err NOT done to me? Humm... Well thats really the question. Some of this is really mostly about sex. *Even if its focused on female orgasm. Which is one of my passions! ;-) Some of it is mostly about domination. And some of it is some combo?
Chastity play is all about sex... And when you run into ED issues it no longer is about how many orgasms you have but what quality are they. And it's all about playing to, whether your like us, random, 24/7, FemDom, Forced Fem, or under the thumb of a Mistress or Master it all about having fun. If you keep messing with Mistress Watchful you might find yourself ordered to buy a CB3000 and sending her the only key. Yikes, what a thought! Steve
Whew... Well as big a fan I am of the georgous *but semi evil ;-) Mistress Watchful I think my SO would not find it a good system. Well.. err I think so? ;-) that might be scary to find out she did! I'm been reading that Bacon and Lettice blog. I think at least in my old OLD days I was the "Don" type. Not so much the "J" type. I don't see me even in my bad old days doing MFM stuff. Thinking back to that I suppose my one experience was being the Hot-wife's ahh dude or stud or whatever. So that part of the kink I do understand. Anyway your guys are scaring me. My vanilla situation is too good to complicate it too much. It does make some interesting reading however!
Get them in Touch Jim, I'm not normally one to post a dare but considering your post I think I have in this case. I dare you to PM Mistress Watchful your wife's E-mail! There I did it. So what do you say mister? I strongly suggest you info the wife first! Take care pal. Steve :xd:
Adding You Jim, I tried to add you as a friend it the system would not let me do it... I'm waiting feedback from Mistress Watchful to see if it's me being a tard or a system. If we can't get it figured out try adding me to your friends list. Take care and have fun. Steve
Ok, lets say I'm way more open to this then I am. What are you proposing? That my SO and M.W. conspire to what? Match me up as M.W.s Bull? Or to see if my DW might be into locking my Svanch up in a CB300 and handing the key to the good (but slightly evil) Mistress Watchful concept (is it getting hot in here?) would probably result in a large hammer to my head for any un-pure thoughts (alone) that I might have. Anything closer to reality would probably require me to be supervised in a hospital for several months while the missing parts region healed :sad: As great as it might be to do something that deserved this I think I would have to say I'm retired from that ahh type of service. As to the second as I said I would be greatly flattered to have someone as hot as M.W. suggest "anything" but I am also very very careful about what I wish for! I like (REALLY REALLY R E A L L Y ) sex. Orgasm for me is like almost pass out from pleasure so as much as edging might (in theory) make it better I also don't want to have a stoke! oh: BTW M.W. you look like that and have 4 kids?!?! How???
Photoshop. :bigsmile: And don't worry... I'm not the type to conspire with anyone to do anything to anyone's SO (to the disappointment of many). Not sure what's going on with the friends list. I just tick the box that appears in the request and it works fine. Try going via the Quick Link for friends and contacts...
I'm marking down less evil more of a dominate sweetie... Photoshop eh?? Hummm... How to get myself into the scanner...
Loao Jim, When I read your reply to my dare I laughed until I cryed. I'll mess with this system some more and figure out how to add you to my friends list. Have fun. Steve:bigsmile:
I'm glad you figured out how to add me to the friends list. Like many of my other friends you seem to want to get me into huge amounts of trouble... But thank you its still fun!