My husband and chastity, the real world, not fantasy...

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    Maui,

    What a well thought out analogy, thank you for posting. You are right, there is always fantasy involved in an FLM/FLR, the way I interpret what you said is that everything is fantasy until it becomes reality, kind of makes you think. I really like what you said about fantasy losing touch with reality, that is a dangerous road indeed.

    Ms. June
     
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    Hello Ms. June,

    I have been reading your journal for a few years now and the similarity between how my wife and I explore new things is strikingly similar with regard to how you were apprehensive at first but now you are very dominant and creative pushing boundaries and leading your husband, we are still learning, but I, as your husband have the desire to serve. I especially love your mention that it takes a real man to submit to his wife. My wife is my Queen and deserves to be treated as one.

    Similar to your closet time for your husband, we have a dog cage in our closet that my wife uses for timeouts. We did get many ideas for devices to purchase from reading your journal, my wife not only gave me permission to make an account but to also post some pictures which I just uploaded to my profile, we thank you for the ideas!

    Crystal'sPup
     
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    Hi Pup,

    I looked at your pictures and added a few comments; it just confirms that chastity is not just for those that have a small package that should be locked away. I am thrilled that you purchased some of the devices I have mentioned over the years! That spike cage is really devious, I only use it when serious attitude adjustment is needed. I do have to say that the hardware is impressive if you do not mind me saying and I am not talking about the cage; here’s a little secret, I showed my husband and he got turned on by your pictures. I have talked about my husband not being small and based on the day after picture you posted pup, I can see that you are way bigger than that cage is and also by seeing how you fill it out, that must have been excruciating! For my husband, there are also day after marks from the spiked cage, but not like yours, wow! Crystal must be very happy with you; does she enjoy seeing you in agonizing pain when you misbehave?

    Yes, I strongly believe a real man is willing to be submissive to his wife and is still a man, not a doormat or a worthless human; I have mentioned that many times in my posts. I love my husband more than anything and what we do is an expression of us and not done to compensate for any shortcomings, he has none other than behavior that needs to be adjusted once in a while. I also like that your wife has a dog cage in the closet for you, how big is it? Are you put in there often? I have been thinking about getting one instead of just tying him up in the closet, I think he would like the surprise.

    Your wife is very generous to let you post pictures; personally, I am selfish when it comes to that. Was it for humiliation purposes or just because she wanted you to? You should be lucky to have a wife like Crystal, I hope you do treat her like a Queen as you said in your post! How long have you been married to your Queen , pup?

    Ms. June
     
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    Wow! Amazing info & very interesting scenarios.
     
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    Hey everyone, sorry I have not posted in a while.

    I was thinking about something the other night with regards to the dynamics of chastity. I have read many forums that say to lock up your male to prevent him from cheating, if he is going to be sexual with other people then chastity will not solve that, it does not prevent the psychological aspect of having another woman on the side.

    Again, these are my thoughts and some may practice chastity to prevent this, I am in no way saying there is something wrong with that if that is your dynamic. But the way I see it is that you cannot lock something on him to stop cheating. I prefer to think of chastity as behavior control, orgasm control, and a great basis for a punishment/reward system; as well, a locked penis is very, very, very sexy. For example, I do not lock my husband up because I am worried he is going to sleep with another woman; I do so to prevent him from pleasuring himself without my permissions but even at that, there are ways for a man to do that, even if locked, a vibrator, prostate stimulation, etc… I think the dynamic works better when the husband (a man) also has the desire to serve his wife (or husband), I can’t keep up with all this PC stuff, I think everyone gets what I mean. Being “locked against your will” seems like a fantasy but reality is him wondering when he is going to be unlocked, days? weeks? months? I never tell him and if he asks, I add time. Reality is setting expectations, rewarding and punishing accordingly. I think there is a mutual aspect to chastity play that has to be asynchronous if it is going to work. Having him locked up takes some pressure off too, if I am tired after work then I do not have to unlock him, that does not mean he is not made to service me (not like I have to make him), but sending him to bed all worked up, and locked up makes him such an obedient husband.

    I have mentioned that we have different cages for different purposes, our most recent addition is one of those tiny metal cages that squishes everything in like he has nothing at all which he does, so it is very humiliating for him to see his dangler mashed into his balls, and wow, when he gets hard, it is the sexiest thing seeing him straining against the little cage which is barely enough for his head, it really gets me hot when I see that! The cage tube cannot be more than an inch big, he almost has to make himself an innie to get into it; it is also great for cuckolding. He says that erections are agonizing in the tiny cage, not as much as the spiked cage we use; side note, go check out @Crystal’sPup's album, he posted some pictures that him and his wife took in a spiked cage, I use the same one. I have gone back a few times, I like looking at them. I may get the guts to post my husband locked up sometime for everyone, but that is a huge leap for us.

    I had these thoughts and I know this is the best place to get them out, everyone is so open minded and non-judgmental.

    Ms. June
     
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    Wow what an amazing story you have become such an strong and great women. Your husband is lucky to have such a women. Hope you continue to keep us posted.
     
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    Perfect. You have perfected a complete system that gives you total control of your property. I like the remote shock option, the property should always know you can apply the necessary encouragement at anytime. I have installed TENS pads into the stainless steel Nub cage which offers pain or pleasure as KH desires.
     
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    All Good ones
     
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    Quite an interesting series of messages. I'm sure your husband feels very lucky to get to engage the experience so deeply with you.
     
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    So I know posting pics is not usually what I do but there is a reason. I will have an update and explanation soon.

    Here are two more...

    Ms. June
     
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    Hey everyone!

    So, why all of the pictures? When I came across those, it got me thinking about the past and how hubby and I evolved. It reminds me of a missed opportunity that we had. I had mentioned year ago that there were times that all of this felt like a chore. While that is not true anymore, hubby and I have a great rhythm gong. However, I could have used the opportunity when we first started to use this to my advantage. Especially in the last two pictures that I posted it kinda summed some things up for me.

    Hubby is now locked up most of the time, the only time I let him sleep unlocked is after an activity if he was a good boy, which is his reward. But, years ago, locking him up felt like it took so much energy and I should have never thought like that. If I locked him up, he was satisfied. For me, if I was not in the mood to play then locking him up would have freed me for other things I needed to do. Even though I was not giving him direct attention, just him being locked would have made him happy, even if I was not actively participating every day. I could have forgotten about him being locked and he would not have cared at all.

    To be bold, I do not believe there is a guy out there that is “locked against his will”, I see that as just a fantasy. Maybe I am wrong, there may be some, but if you wanted to get out, then you could, that probably borders along the line of CNC, which some enjoy and is a part of their dynamic. I like one of the statements in the pictures about him staying that way until I need him again. Think about that, when I need him again, it does not matter when he wants what he wants but that I get what I want, when I want and locking him up satisfies both urges, I wish I had seen that sooner.

    I also mentioned before that we jumped into this lifestyle heavy and that some important growth opportunities were missed. As we evolved, I enjoyed everything more and we have even crossed some lines willingly with things like cucking; I mentioned a long time ago that I would never cuck him. Let me say, that mindset has changed. Cucking actually evolved from my MMF fantasies that I have always had, it started there and evolved into cucking.

    So to sum this all up, when I felt inconvenienced or too busy to play, it was actually an opportunity to lock him up and go on with my day, or whatever I needed to do (today, you could add a whomever to that). Then he feels that he is playing, and I could have just forgot about it if I wanted to. Whether a day, week, or month, it would not matter, he would be happy and I would have gotten the space I needed. We do have a rule that he is never to ask to be released or for anything sexual when locked. I think an important part of the FLR journey is when the cage is seen as a control device, not a kink or something sexual. While we have evolved into this over time, I wish I had seen the benefit of everything above when we first started instead of trying everything as quickly as possible. Neither of us see the cage as sexual now, where at first, we both did; big mistake.

    Just my thoughts… Sorry it has been so long.

    -Ms. June
     
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    Couldn't agree more. I dont see locking up as a kink for me anymore. Thanks for sharing.
     
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    Very wise words. Love your blog. Thanks for sharing.
     
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    Took me about a month or so to come to the conclusion that the cage itself is not kinky. To be flippant, it's a tool to prevent kinky behaviour when or if it is not currently desired.
     
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    Can’t wait to hear about your new cucking path you are embarking on!
     
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    junechas has a blog?! What’s the link? I’d love to check it out.
     
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    Hi what a wonderful woman and what a amazing relationship you have .
    I have been with my gorgeous partner four years now and we are in a developing FLR.

    Mistress has me locked 24/7 we have reached the stage where my release is becoming less frequent , in fact we are at the stage where she has told me there is no need as she satisfies her self on my cage to what Mistress described as a fantastic O .
    Mistress has promised to take me all the way , where ever that is ! She likes me to read your posts to her so hopefully! . Keep up you enlightening threads as we both are learning and enjoying them so much.
     
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    Hi Jail bird
    thanks for your like , what great blogs that sexy Mistress airs, her husband is sure a lucky man . I to would be interested in hearing the cuck progression, I have also been threatened with this during tease sessions, all fantasy but oh so horny .
     
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    Exactly, once tie difference is realized, it changes the whole dynamic :)
     
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    Thank you, this is my outlet...
     
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    Here, you are in it...
     
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    ::blush::, thank you, is your partner on here too? Taking you all the way without you knowing what all the way is... awesome partner, very devoted.

    I agree, releases are not needed, not for you at least...

    Ms. June
     
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    Oh, you know that you would not see cucking as a threat... I once said I would never do it, we do now, and we are not going back.

    And I am the lucky one to have him...
     
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