Hello all I wanted to start by saying I have been wanting to do this for years now. I have been married for 6 years and I have wanted to be dominated for as long as I can remember. All the porn I watch is dominatrix punishment and cuckold, I finally took the plunge and spoke to my wife about it at the beginning of the month but I eased into it. I mentioned to her that I want to wear a chastity cage and she was all for it. But she does not want me to wear it all the time and always wants me to fun after I pleasure her. I recently have bought new toys so I can pleasure her and deny myself, she is really tight so I have had to buy toys slowly increasing in size lately but she always insists that I cum afterwards. I don't know how to transition from having fun with a cage to doing it full time I need help! And I have a 1 and 3 year old which makes it hard as well.
My wife called sex without my orgasm, fake sex and still sometimes does 4 years later. It is very common for a wife to measure your sexual desire and attraction to her by your orgasm. I used to try to push her hand away to make her stop but she always insisted that I orgasm. The way I got around that was to ask her to just deny me once to see how much more intense my orgasm would be the next time. She tried that and I did a bit of acting to show her how happy I was when she denied me and how much better I was and my orgasms. I made a big deal when I finally had an orgasm. We did that for awhile and then I suggested we try longer next time to see what that felt like. During the times between sex I would volunteer to massage her body or feet. I started doing all the cleaning up after meals and stopped arguing with her. I only thanked her if she denied me an orgasm, never when she let me have one. Then I showed her how to ruin an orgasm so she could see results but still deny me. I would make such sounds during sex when she teased me that it would turn her on and she was and still is having some of the best orgasms in her life. She got used to ruined orgasm and eventually she reduced those to just once a month since she was denying me for months at a time. Currently on a 6 month denial schedule to see how that goes. It took a good 3 years for her to get rid of any vestige of guilt she had over denying me an orgasm. One thing that helped us a lot was establishing a safe word like we had in our BDSM games. I told her not to worry about me or what I say during sex because if I really needed an orgasm, I would use my safe word to discuss it with her. That enabled her to ignore my pleas to let me orgasm which she took for real pleas. Now I can beg for an orgasm but unless I say my safe word, she will ignore me. Good luck and always remember that unless you want to be denied, it will never work because you can easily masturbate in the CB6000 or any other device quite easily at that. All that any device can do is to provide a speed bump to give you time to decide if you want to masturbate and cheat yourself.