Mistress needs your help to enforce and dominate.

Sounds like he will be learning a hard lesson. Hope you made him thank you before he is given reward of pleasing you orally.

 

My current GF/Mistress is also completely new to this lifestyle and learning from me.

It almost doesnt matter what rules you make him follow or how often you change them. He is yours and has to get used to doing what you want and not doing what he wants to do. Train him to learn slave positions, that's what they're for. Obedience training. You count off numbers and he shapes his body to your command instantly. This trains instantaneous blind obedience by assuming each position perfectly.

Keep him in drag all the time hes home and with a collar locked on. Hes your pet, your doll and you should always choose all his clothing. As a man he should dress to impress you. Hes in the presence of a Goddess after all....

Parking: His body is yours and it should only move when you permit it. Therefore get him used to parking . This is where you immobilize him and leave him there tightly restrained when his chores are finished and hes not needed. Slowly increase the time parked until all his idle time is spent bound and helpless. You'll see how eager he is to serve you when this is the alternative.

Keep that cock locked away for a very long time. Only take it out to beat it with a cane or crop. You'll see how happy he is to stay locked up. But eventually the beatings will start to replace sex for him, at least some of the time. When he wants to come out to face the cane and then go back in.

If you're willing to take over washing and shaving him you could start a no touch policy where he is cuffed when the cage comes off and you clean it instead of him. So hell never feel his own touch down there unless you permit it. But not often. Lol


I've got a million ideas and could help more if I knew more about what makes him tick. But I'm happy to help you in any way i can. PM me if you like.

 

First off I think it’s amazing and awesome how enthusiastic you are to dominate your man! Sounds like the two of you are really into it and want to see where you can take your relationship. I don’t know what your background is with kink and the sort but here’s my 2 cents if you find it’s worth reading.

You obviously have certain goals listed out that you want to achieve, it’s more or less finding the best ways to achieve what you want so you and your sub hub are happy. You’ve stated you want to totally cut him off from PIV because he’ll still exhibit macho behavior even if he doesn’t orgasm. Versus just cutting him off cold turkey you can baby step him away from it while finding ways to use his cock without him feeling emboldened. For instance, you can tell him that if he’s going to be allowed use of his cock that he must be completely (hands and feet) restrained on the bed so he can’t touch himself or touch you. Ride him until you think he’s about to O and then climb off, use his mouth to get you over the edge while his cock twitches in agony hoping you’ll sit back down on it (which you won’t ). This way you’re changing the dynamic of how he’s allowed his PIV and you can still get the feeling of a real cock. To further things you can always use a numbing cream and a condom on his cock so he can’t feel a thing when you’re bouncing on top of him. This will turn PIV into your thing, not his.

I don’t know if you are into anal play or willing to venture down that road but for many subs it’s a preferred source of pleasure if not allowed PIV. In many cases it takes the place of PIV as a source of penetrative sex for the couple, it can give you both that intimate feeling that penetrative sex gives couples except you’ll be the one giving him the cock and he might get to a point where he starts craving your strap on and wanting that more than anything else. I can’t imagine much else that would make one more submissive.

If you allow him to cum then make it known that he has to eat it if he ever hopes to have another O. If you’re new to this I know that sounds gross but you wouldn’t believe what kind of submissive feelings that can manifest. My wife and I have been practicing chastity for over 5 years and the first time she had me eat my own cum was a few months ago. This is something I go back and forth wanting to do. I always think I can before I cum and then when I do cum I want nothing to do with eating it. Well that particular instance she stuck her breasts out at me which were covered in my cum. I went forward and licked it and ate if off of her. There was zero physical enjoyment from it but there was a lovely embarrassing humiliation aspect about it, I looked into her face and eyes after I licked it all up. She gave me a naughty smile and I just blushed because I was embarrassed but never felt so submissive to her. The feelings it gave me inside was a lovely mixed angst but my overall submissiveness won out appreciating the experience. This is not something that we do on a regular basis but it’s now part of our relationship and knowing that just makes me feel more submissive to her..

Overall I would just take things at a gradual pace and make sure you’re both moving the same speed that you’re comfortable with. He may agree to permanent denial and that might sound sexy in the moment but jumping into that to fast can cause problems and arguments especially at only 3 + months into chastity. Us men can be weak sometimes and need encouragement and motivation, a Dommes work can be difficult at times. I think you two are on a great path and I can’t wait to read more about what you decide to do! Good luck

 

in my experience, I can say there some things that can improve male submission and loyalty:
1) no PIV at all, better if he not involve at all in wife sexual pleasure
2) permanent cage
3) humiliation, but not too hard, something light but really constant

 

Make sure your subby knows HOW to pleasure you orally first. Many men dont know how since porn is a very bad teacher and many Women dont know what they want/need either if they haven't gotten it.
Pussy needs to be eaten with passion!


I had saved this for another post but maybe your subby should read it too:



*My friend, you cannot be squeamish about pussy-eating. Enthusiasm here is indeed a requirement, you must show enthusiasm. You need to eat pussy like a ripe peach, a juicy mango, or half a juice-dripping papaya; put your face into it, eat pussy like you mean it. You need to put your face against her vulva, open your mouth wide so your tongue can work on the entire area. You have to “give her face,” make out with her pussy, kiss her pussy as if it was the last time you were going to kiss it. You should kiss her pussy the same way you passionately French kiss your woman. You should kiss her pussy the way you savor her lips, the way you suck on her tongue, explore her willing and deserving pussy. In my opinion, your tongue should not be sticking out of your mouth, your tongue should not be visible. Remember, this is what you see in porn and the reason for "lizzard-lick" her pussy has very little to do with your woman's pleasure.*

 

LOVE THIS

 

Love this suggestion!

 

I'm so glad I've found Your posts, not sure how I've missed before. Your sub is one very lucky sub.

I believe that You are definitely on right track of one or two orgasms per annum!

 

Another option would be for him know that whenever he has an orgasm, he will suffer post orgasm torture until his cock will be too sensitive to even touch for days. This video illustrates such a scenario.

Post Orgasm Torture POV - HOT BUSTY Brunette DRAINS my COCK of CUM for TASTING her TIGHT PINK PUSSY - Pornhub.com