Mistress needs your help to enforce and dominate.

a good coating of EMLA, a condom and a 20 minutes pause for things to take effect and foreplay... and you should be good to go?

 

Welcome!

My Wife/Mistress is in complete control of our sexual relationship at this point, though we have a fairly egalitarian day-to-day relationship. I've written a few blog posts about our journey (link below) with more to come!

She agrees with you that male orgasms are not necessary and are detrimental to good behavior for me, so she has decided that I will be denied indefinitely. Mistress prefers orgasming from toys/oral so PIV isn't a huge consideration in our relationship, though she enjoys the control of having me inside her without permitting me to orgasm. We haven't needed it but some have mentioned using numbing cream, condoms, Lidocaine, etc. to permit PIV without male pleasure.

All the best on your journey -- look forward to hearing more about it.

 

Deny him for 6 months that will give him time to learn how to serve you in the way you enjoy it. His existence is for your happiness go off of that and you can't go wrong.

 

Hi Mistress Max,
I'm quite new to the scene myself but my Queen has trained me on exactly how she likes to be pleasured so maybe you need to show him exactly how you require it done ie. properly.
are you able to make yourself cum?
If so tie him down straddle his chest and show him how you do it.
Let him know you expect more from him and that he is to learn to be more than just a cock and that ego will not be tolerated
you say you have tried toys, what kind?
And why or in what way did they just not do it for you?

 

My wife very similar to you in how she likes to orgasm, but I don't know the frequency you enjoy them at (daily, weekly, etc)... I guess my point is make sure you are getting enough for you first, and maybe you will find some other activities you enjoy doing to/with in the event you feel he is getting too much pleasure.

You might find you enjoy doing other things to/with him as a certain frequency. Keep it interesting for yourself and have fun.

 

You may wish to become a Verified Female (contact L-U-C-Y) so that you may have this conversation with other dominant wives and keyholders without the chastised men.

 

One correction that happens with me is my wife making me eat food I hate, and everyone hates something. She stays away from "increasing a lock up time" since it is whatever she wants it to be anyway. I am sure you are creative and know what he doesn't like... Just make sure you enjoy doing it too.

 

Not all toys are created equally, have you tried anything from vixen creations?

 

How about you use the strap on on him and fuck the ego out of him.
leave him caged, tie him if you feel the need and enjoy the power trip.(some women have been known to come from the feeling of your total Dominance and his total submission)
after you have finished (hopefully you have made him dribble his cum while pounding his prostate if so wipe some up with a finger and put it in his mouth) then casually (but hard) slap his ass and say something like "now that's how you really fuck someone" strut out the room leaving him lying there his mind still asking did that just happen?
then return to the room untie him and straddle his face and tell him to resume his training.
You will break his Ego.
you may need a different dildo for the strap on if he is an anal novice or if you know he can take it maybe go larger. If so why not get a realistic type but make sure it's noticeably bigger than his cock and keep referring to it as a proper sized cock. you don't have say it but the idea is to make him think that you want a bigger cock than he can offer. his mind will do the rest, making him feel inferior so by default you are naturally his superior Goddess .
i've just read that back to myself lol
OMG i'm a pervert lol

 

I have read they are good too but a bit pricey I thought.

 

You definitely get what you pay for.

 

good to know.
any recommendations?
asking for a fiend

 

I own a Bronco (the most expensive dildo I have ever purchased) it honestly feels amazing, but I wish it were just slightly longer. I also bought a Wanderer (which is a hitachi style wand attachment) ...But I haven't tried it yet.

 

thanks i'll take a look.
but I don't want to hijack this thread with dildo shopping chat.

 

They may be pricey but well worth it.

 

My fiance and I are in a really great FLR with a contract making it a lifestyle for us. We did a couples workbook on Amazon on FLR that goes over all of its terms and helped us along the way.

Not all tease and denial sex is about constant chastity, and in our case my Goddess frees me for PIV sex and the occasional other activity a few times a week. Immediately after, our thing is that it goes back on. We have occasional long stretches and she strap on fucks me quite often. We are quite sexual people, so we took steps to add that into the FLR.

I would caution both of you to do some reading and keep the dialogue open and flowing. An FLR is a wonderful thing but unless the correct steps are taken and maintained, like romance, love, friendship, and the good parts of your relationship with one another, it can absolutely damage a relationship, sometimes with things so deep, they dont recover.

The sexual part of an FLR is certainly hot, but it is a peice of a bigger puzzle to truly give/take control. Good luck!

 

Wow....this is a sub who has obviously seen the good and bad side of the equation and gives some very sound advice. Nicely written!

 

Denying him PIV and orgasms forever, sounds hot, but takes away one of your most powerful motivational tools. Hope and wishful thinking is extremely motivating. There are techniques that can be used to immediately return him to submissiveness following release.

As mentioned above, Vixen makes great dildos and sleeves. The quality makes a difference. We use both. Heat them and the lube in hot water before using.

The strapon works great since he does not need to be unlocked. It does take practice to learn how to use since it rests in a different position on the body. Using one really messes with your mind. You thrust, you see it, yet there is no feeling. Your brain really gets messed up.

A sleeve provides better control. I can feel the movement and pressure, but I doubt I could climax. The slight feeling provides a sinister tease. You go through all of the natural motions, you can see it, you can feel a little, but not enough.

There is nothing like using one of these to reinforce submission.

Part of his training should include PIV with denial, without an attitude change. If he wants PIV, he needs to learn to manage his emotions and aggressiveness. Again, when he does, you gain great motivation.

You should not be denied. He needs to make it work.

 

Any updates? Have you had time to try your new purchases?

 

Sounds like you are getting him very much in hand

 

Better living through electronics. Get a remotely control electronic device for his cage. You may offer pleasure or pain, he will respond to either . If you need to discipline he will do anything to avoid the pain. Mistress uses a Tens unit in my Nub that is hard wired so when I am bound mistress has max. control . I assure you it works all too well.