Master or Mistress

Depending on where you're located this can be hard.
The standard advice is to join your local BDSM community. That works to a point but is also dependent on the location.

IMHO as someone who has "corrupted" several vanilla folks I'd say you just have to be open and honest with what you seek. Don't freak people out with too much too soon, but don't wait too long either. Subtle hints and questions aimed at seeing if someone is receptive, what their personality is like etc sets up more intimate and more detailed discussion.

The bottom like is it's work. Believe me I know. As someone also seeking but not doing so very actively I feel for you. But don't give up. If you keep looking and do the right things you'll find them.

 

I would go to Fetlife and sign up, then search for a "Munch" in your area. Munches are usually held regularly in a vaniila place and dress and provide a place for BDSM folks of all types to socialize and meet one another. They typically begin by everyone introducing themselves by first name and whether they are a top, bottom, sissy, switch, etc, etc. They usually have a brief program on a subject of common interest and then mix n mingle. You can meet lots of folks with lots of differing fetishes at a munch. You don't have to be a BDSM "player".

 

Am intrigued. How did you 'corrupt' those vanilla folks?

 

your not the only one, sounds like the start to a good story

 

There is a BDSM scene within an hour or so of most towns. But yea, small towns make it difficult. What's so bad is some of those busy bodies may also be the most kinky people. People are strange. And I know all about how if someone in a small town doesn't like you one lie can make your life hell.

I used to like Fetlife, but IMHO its now become a place for many players, fakes and phonies. So use with caution.

Anyway, good luck.