My wife and I met with BDSM as the theme, me as the Dom, her sexually submissive. She will do anything sexually that I have an interest in doing. I consider myself a switch and enjoy being tied up from time to time. I have had her tie me and I enjoy the loss of control, however she just does not have that FemDom streak in her, at least not with me. It's just the way our relationship has evolved over time. Lately I have been masturbating to porn more than I should. It has affected our intimacy which I miss. I am considering male chastity so my load will be for her, not my selfish needs. I have been to a Mistress for some BDSM sessions in the past and enjoyed them very much. I was wondering if anyone else has a similar situation where the sub female of the relationship is perhaps the keyholder. Is a FemDom/Mistres somehow involved?
You sound like me. My wife had tried every fetish I asked her to try and as a bonus, she is bi so we got to do lots of stuff with other women. We were in a poly triad with my wife's girlfriend for 30 years. When we moved away from her, I started to masturbate to a lot of porn. We were not used to being just a couple anymore so sex was not so good, especially since my wife does not like any penetration. Chastity came to the rescue for us. My wife is in charge of our sex life but it ends at the bedroom door. Her girlfriend was the one who was the sadist to my masochist. My wife assisted her on the milder stuff, but left the bedroom when we go into the more advanced and painful things.