hey - still new to all this i have received numerous sweets posts and also many inbox questions about my views on different subjects, ( thank you- and i thought it would be good to share with others some of my answers and views. I have learned already that this forum is good at sharing So - with the help of Google Translate - hi-hi. Here we go: Hurdles in the beginning? For me two things was major hurdles at first: 1. that i was all vanilla - as you call it , and had NEVER before been into any kinks, and I had this, i'm sorry, impression that people who had, was obsessed with sex and not so much with love and care. 2. I fell in love and married BlueEyes because he was, and is, a strong lighthouse for me. Inventive, creative, talented, a man how dared speak up in the crowd, a commander who took leadership and got the job done, when others only saw problems or came up with excuses for not doing anything. Yes he was an alpha- male, and he still is, when I'm not around - hi-hi When he first introduced me to this he did a good job in explaining that it this was not all that strange, and that he still would manage to be MY MAN, - who could protect me and provide, when needed. But looking back i can see what an impossible job he started out. I was listening, but i was not convinced, to say the least. Well, he kept saying that he did it all for me, for us, but i could not help but also to see it at first - being him having traded one kind of kinks he had practice for himself with another. He showed me all kind of stories on the internet of the supposed benefits of this lifestyle. That was rather annoying in the end. It all seem so - "happy happy" - and I was suspicious , and not convinced at all. What changed my understanding over time: 1. The discovery of all the advantages, he taking over on so many levels of household, and he started to spoil me completely. I could not resist that It was so sweat, and I have had so much more time to do what i want ever since. 2. The shift from - at first to focus a lot on sex in chastity, he changed mentally to focus entirely on my needs and showed me real love and care. Well sometimes he overdid it a little! I do not want a pet in the house, - but it was nice. 3. In action - he managed to convince me that he indeed still could be my man, when I so needed. That he easily could manage to be Alpha when he was not under my command;-) Both were very reassuring. 4. that I took the change and told my best friend about it, and found out that she got so jealous;-) 5. He opened up - gently my eyes to the power of this lifestyle, and the fact that friends around us had great troubles in their relationships, and gets divorced and such, made me realize that this bond between us, and all the renewed affection, love and play we now had in our relationship, all came down to this change in lifestyle. It was a little weird/disappointing at first to realize this - that it had to be this that recharges our life together, but i have come to realize that it does not matter at all. It is the result that counts, - and they are very very good. Sexlife? Our sexlife has never been better - for him it seems;-) and certainly also for me. Today I feel lucky!, and sometimes i have this feeling that i live a dream that simply cannot be true. So good is this for the both of us. I get a lot of attention, love an services. He knows like never before to please me, in and out of bed, -and he is hardly getting any.hi-hi. And he is so happy! I felt sorry for him at first and thought he must be weird to not getting any, until i understood that he really really was satisfied in every way, when my pleasure was taken care of. Still puzzles my mind from time to time, put I have seen enough proof, to accept it as a fact. He has become so good at serving.He even got to serve my friend Anne i Berlin, on my request/setup and that was in the heat of the moment- very hot I no longer have a man that rolls over once he is done He serves when i tell him to. Most of the times without getting anything himself, and even when he gets something he serves me afterwards. Very very nice indeed Turning back time? I would rather not turn back time! This has been wonderful for our marriage, and I like it to stay like this. Of course he needs to be challenged a little more now and then, and I have come to like seeing those little extra proofs of his devotion. That kind of domination is ok with me. I have to admit that it has revitalized our sexlife and our lives as such - a lot. I thought it would not, that it would all be so artificial , but it is oh so real... I hope it will never change. I have learned that long denial of him seems to protect this from changing. So... no - I no longer feel sorry for keeping him locked up and to deny him release. (hi-hi- i am used to comment that my husband post are very long- and here i am doing one myself ) God morning - He is asleep, and I'm sitting in bed writing this. He will be up in an hour the make me wonderful sunday breakfast. Life IS good!