Discussion in 'Female led relationships' started by chris82, Jul 11, 2018.
Do you think maintenance whippings are a good thing? And how often should they be done?
I lthink a maintenance strapping is a good idea. If we get disciplined when we do things wrong over time the strapping will , or should , become a lot less maybe even going for weeks without needing to reset your servant. With a maintenance strapping you you are put back in your place before you wonder and do things that aren’t pleasing to your Mistress.
Over the years that Miss Shelly has been spanking me , over 25, she has more or less discontinued the scheduled by weekly spankings that I use to receive and now uses any reason she chooses to Tan my backside.
The importance of a routine maintenance spanking is to keep your servant in place and stop him from even thinking of doing things that are unacceptable. It works.
Maintenance whipping what a woderful phrase. I remember being punished as a child and protesting my innocence afterwords.
I was told take heed if thats what you got for nothing just think what you will get if you something wrong.
There was no right of appeal back then. I very much doubt if there is any with @Mistress Jules.
That’s a good way for your Mistress to use Maintenance spankings to keep us under control. When we do something wrong it gets even worse. Nice
I've been getting it about every other day. Usually in the morning, while I'm kissing her feet, she'll lay into me. She gets really excited and sometimes she'll make me lick her to orgasm. This is usually just as she's heading off to work. We've only been doing it for a few months but it's brought out a side of her that neither of us new was there. She really gets off on it.
As others have said i think its a good thing to have a whipping or punishment out of the blue for no other reason than Mistress fancies doing it, but it does serve to keep reminding you of what could happen if you do make a mistake.
Maintenance discipline is part and pacel to good slave training! i highly recommend.
I am not sure about maintenance whippings, I think it is probably a good idea. I got a sound strapping yesterday just because Mistress Linda thought it would be fun. It was for her
I am not an authority on this subject...but for me i associate whippings with discipline for having done something wrong....not just for the sake of inflicting pain.
For me, maintenance is key to maintaining submission. I don't want to rely on punishment only, for as @Mash2214 says, there can weeks before the need arises, and I need the periodic and scheduled maintenance spanking to stay on an even submissive keel. Being regular and scheduled is important for me, knowing that I have my weekly or bi-weekly session pending, knowing that my time to submit is coming, I can feel the clock ticking. I get out of sorts when we're is too busy or tired or distracted and my maintenance slides. Just like chastity is the physical manifestation of my sexual submission, maintenance makes real my physical submission, forces regular acknowledgement that testosterone and muscle are nothing the face of loving female authority.
I have no interest in maintenance whippings or spankings or any such thing. I enjoy the complete control of having @lockit at my mercy as I make pretty patterns on his skin and I love watching each and every reaction from him. These are done as and when I please and totally for my enjoyment, although I have a sneaky suspicion that he enjoys them as well.
If he deserves punishment that is a whole different ball game and a whole different mindset.
I don't do "funishment" It's either fun or punishment and I am pretty sure @lockit knows the difference.
I find that the difference between funishment and punishment can be the verbal and body language of the mistress and not the actual action itself.
Going back to the original post - I think you need to talk to your future wife, not online forums!
I totally agree its not the act itself it the reason for it. I think the mind set makes a big difference.
Its hard to explain the differnce between pain and enjoyable pain.
It's funny that this has come up as I'm writing a Fem-Dom story and I wrote about this - 'Maintenance whipping' a couple of months ago - so shows other people on same wavelength! I've also written about 'Conditioning whipping' not quite the same thing!
She thought it was a good idea, was even going to make a calendar, but I think it was too much of a work schedule for her so didn’t start.
I like maintenance spankings. They serve to remind both parties of their position and reasserts her authority. Also keeps the endorphins flowing.
I don't really go for the punishment side of things at all. I would want to obey and would consider punishment complete and utter failure. It would ruin the connection.
I would see maintenance spankings as being different to punishment spankings.
My punishment spankings were always weekly. I think I only ever made it through a week once where I had zero strokes. I can't imagine adding a maintenance spanking on top of that. Occasionally she'll give me a swat to remind me she's in charge, but no maintenance spanking.
We do maintenance the first of every month. It's a full blown session. There's just a slight difference between a punishment and maint. for us. We use the maint. as a means to keep me focused on her.
Since we don't play as much as we did in our early years, she found the idea of maintenance spanking something worth trying.
First weekend in june she explained to me that each sunday after kids go to sleep I will spend up to an hour bound on the sofa while she watches one of her series and whips me during that time.
I hated it the first time as she went hard on me. She promised me she will be bit more gentle next time, and since only once again she whipped me hard. Other times just enough to get my ass really nice and hot.
She also doesn't tie me anymore, I'm just blindfolded with ear plugs in place.
My wife most certainly uses the whip on me at times just because she can and wants to.
“Strip and get the cuffs put on the bed!” can have several different outcomes for me. I never know which.
I dont get maintenance whippings, But I did get a real hard set of 20 from whip yesterday. Mistress does enjoy doing it to me
My wife will not spank me but will give me a stern warning when I do something wrong...which is often because she is very particular on how I do the housework.
I just got back from lunch.
Sitting at the next table was a young lady wearing shorts with bruises peeping out.
Now I couldn’t tell if they were or weren’t Caused by BDSM whipping but if I had to bet I’d say yes and some were straight and looked like they came doom a cane.
Anyway, seeing that made me think of this thread.