Maintenance Spanking

With us it is not usually about me doing something wrong. When I make a social feau pas and it is pointed out to me I feel sorrow and apologize. I continue to feel badly.
The every day spankings that I receive are actually a service that my wife does for me. The pain from the bamboo back scratcher across my butt and upper thighs is extremely painful and during the time I receive the strokes I suffer greatly. When it is over I am relieved but the pain stays for a few days but is renewed daily.
When my wife reminds me that it is time for my spanking, which can be at any time of day, I feel excitement and dread. When I am in position I feel loved. When the strokes begin (She counts out loud.) I use all my strength to stay in position.
She might give me 15 strokes or 150. I never know. When it is over part of the ritual is that she demands that I thank her. Sometimes she makes me kiss the implement.
Often when the kids (grown) or grandkids are here she whispers something about my last or next spanking.
This dynamic works well to keep our private relationship on the front burner and I am grateful.
I do not know why but this works for us. ss

 

i've already asked for (submitted to) much more than i thought my Queen would consider. She knows She can do as She pleases with me. Not willing to tempt fate any further. Chastity was my idea and my Queen agreed, making positively sure that i agreed that it was NOT a game.Careful what you wish for. Jus' sayin'.

 

I have been asked to respond in this thread as to why I have implemented maintenance spankings so here it is. I am not a Domm however I am very controlling and even manipulative. Chastity for me is about controlling and manipulating behavior in order to elicit a desired response. Maintenance spanking is also a tool to condition and elicit a response. As much as I enjoy chastity, cuckolding is where my passion lies. I have learned that in order for me to have my needs met via cuckolding I need to maintain my cucks submissive headspace. Maintenance spanking works for me to condition his feelings and behaviours. A successful cuckolding/chastity relationship needs to work for all involved and I work to meet my cucks/chaste husbands needs. I thrive off the rush of the power and control gifted to me. I never take my responsibilities lightly. If I want to enjoy this life I am willing and wanting to put in the effort. Cheers

 

In a response to how long effects of the maintenance spanking last. Consistency and predictability is key. If my husband knows he will be spanked on a regular consistant basis ie nightly or weekly I find it to be much more effective at maintaining subspace than random. Random can be fun but predictable is more effective and longer lasting.

 

Passion. That is the key. Mine has always to be a submissive, to suffer intense control (chastity), punishment and 'cruelty' from a woman in a loving way. It's as cruel as it is hot.
The success for us came when we discovered cuckolding. When the Mrs got a taste of the ultimate power a woman could have over her man, the flood gates opened for both of us.
Myself freely giving her that power, and her accepting and owning it.

I'm not at all saying that cuckolding is the solution to getting maintenance spankings. I am saying that for a submissive to find Nirvana, to be taken into complete and total immersion into the subspace of which only a submissive can truly understand, their partner must be equally impassioned themselves.
You cannot find your Nirvana if she hasn't found hers.
Find her sweet spot and you won't look back!

 

We are beginning to include discipline in our FLR and learning how it fits.

For her, she likes the control. She uses discipline to improve my service.

For me, I accept I always need to improve. Discipline helps. Maintenance is very helpful when I have been locked for a long time. I seem to fall into a cycle running between calmness to being pretty antsy. A weekly spanking keeps me on an even keel.

What I am surprised by, is how deeply, very deeply, I feel love toward her after a spanking.

 

When me and @GoddessMWilspoon where together we used to do regular maintenance spankings, sometimes 2-3 times a week, but always at least once a week.

Essentially it was incredibly helpful for me and something she brought into the relationship i hadn't even heard of at the time. After about a month or 2 i crossed the submissive divide and instead of being hyper focused on the acts or the kinks that we where doing, i instead became more and more focused on her and wanting to please her.

It really helped establish a bond to her in a way i've never had before to another person and always had me in this lower level of subspace where i was just content, happy and felt cared for 24/7. It's really hard to explain, but i always felt that tug of the connection to her, even when i wasn't with her.

Still trying to come to terms with it after the fact, because that invisible tug is still there :/

 

Love and gratitude, and a feeling of euphoria, it's overwhelming.

 

Maintenance is as the word suggests - maintains subbie state. Thats why what happens when Im in maintenance doesn't happen as a punishment for wrong bad stuff because its then a funishment. She likes spanking so why would I get it for real bad stuff? Usually if im inconsiderate I dont get maintenance and she doesnt give much sex attention, and that makes even my own wanks not feel good because Im guilty and wish it was with her. She not just spanks but basically makes her presence over me in however she wants. I like her doming me and she likes maintaining my place for her. But it isnt to maintain my submission as much as it is me trying to offer myself to her and letting her keep that state in me on her terms, rather than my wrongs used an excuse to get whipped (thats done for fun )

 

This is a core insight for us. When I know I'm going to be spanked at a regular time -- 5:00 pm Sunday -- it organizes and reinforces my submission. I can feel the clock ticking down. I know I will submit, that i will be made to feel again that I am a submissive husband. It hurts, it's not play, it's the establishment that I, a strong male, am submitting to my wife -- and will do so again next week. It's a reminder that I don't want to get a punishment spanking. And it's concrete for both of you: it's impossible to act like some alpha toxic male around her when you know that you'll shortly be bent over the bed for your submissive spanking.

And I feel such love as I kiss and worship her feet as she stands above when she's done.

 

I wrote wifey a letter telling her I would love to be more submissive to her and I would be pleased if she would give me tasks to do and if I didn't carry them out she could punish me by spanking or whipping me.
Took a while for her to get into the swing of things but now she has whips, paddles riding crops, wooden kitchen tools, leather belts, wartner wheel etc.
I do have maintenance spankings just so she can reinforce her dominant position....and it makes me feel more submissive too.
She now also whips my cock with a small fine whip too, this is a pic taken this morning from last Fridays cock whipping

 

Yittlejon3263 needs a sore bottom with his diapers on so he constantly feels his sore diapered butt

 

I have used maintenance spankings on my current sub since he first came to me. He knows the routine and has to cooperate or else. Every Saturday night is reserved for his spanking. I usually tell him at dinner what instrument I will use and then he has to bring it to me at precisely 8 PM. I usually use either a spanking strap or a belt for maintenance. For punishment I use those but also a switch and if really necessary, a whip. So, this particular Saturday night I announced at dinner "I think we'll use the long strap tonight." He has to agree and say " yes mistress. I'll bring it." At 8 he comes to my bedroom and presents himself. "I'm ready mistress. Here is the strap." He then knows he is supposed to take his pants off and then grip the bed board at the end of the bed. He is to bend over and get his butt as high as he can. I first have him pull his panties down. Then he bends over and says "Will you please spank me mistress." I then give him 10 strokes and he has to count each one and ask for the next. Some nights I allow him to keep his panties on for the first ten. He knows I will stop then long enough for him to pull the panties down. Then I proceed with the next ten. When its over he is to thank me and return the strap to his room where the punishment instruments and restraints are kept to always remind him of who he is. I usually leave the cock cage on for the strapping. He always gets a hard on when he is spanked so the cage controls that. After the strapping and he has returned the strap he returns and asks me to diaper him which I do. he wears a diaper and plastic panties most nights. Sometimes after he has been spanked I unlock the cage and let his cock out so that he can masturbate. I learned at the beginning of our relationship that he always jerked off after he was spanked. That is until I started keeping his cock caged. I confronted him and told him I'd allow him to continue but only when I felt like it because I had the key to the lock. He also had to jerk off while I watched which didn't seem to bother him, in fact one time he admitted it made him harder.
I usually start getting excited about 30 minutes before he reports for the strapping. I found that I get really wet so I started wearing a pad in my panties to keep them and whatever else Had on from getting soaked. I started that one Saturday. After I had finished with him my girlfriend came over and showed up early. She just walked i and came to my room. I had been wearing white pants that were quite tight. She looked at me and asked what happened that my panties got drenched. I was quite surprised then realized she could see. So after that no matter what I wear I always have a pad in my panties. My sub knows this too because one of his tasks is to buy his own diapers as well as the pads I wear.
The maintenance spanking is an integral part of his training. If he thinks I have forgotten he reminds me. All the other domes I know use maintenance spankings in one way or another.

 

Maintenance spankings, usually downstairs, by hand, and over her lap, have become a more frequent aspect of our FLR. They are very much the "Mummy" side of her, dealing with the "man as a little boy" side of me.

They are usually unexpected, painful but not extreme, and provide a useful level of humiliation to remind me of her control. It is especially effective when she encourages me to imagine how this would look to anyone observing it.

As with all spankings, afterwards there are cuddles, and I say thank you to her.

 

The spankings are increasing in frequency, often mornings and evenings. Hand spankings are not at all painful for me unless she puts me on my back, lifts and spreads my legs and spanks me bare handed just under the balls. Very sensitive. She likes it because its quiet and effective.

Otherwise the cane or a long spoon shaped paddle that I made for her ( after she broke serveral wooden spoons over the last few months ) is used to great effect. I hate it, and I love that she keeps me in line. It's confusing. But I always kiss her afterward and try to thank her for correcting me.

 

@SheMastersMyDomain, I love your five principles, and that you recite them while you receive your humility.

 

Very nice summary and update to you thread. Sounds like it is just what you both need and want.

 

Every two weeks I'm sent to a ProDomme and often the central activity of the session is a maintenance spanking.
In our case it definitely works,because being it a scheduled event ,it requieres the appropriate mindset as to submit voluntarily to the torment knowing there is a superior goal ,that you are there to become a better submissive.....

 

I was left uncaged last night, something Mistress does on occasion to facilitate morning sex, which did occur. I failed to keep from cumming for the first time ever. She was calm... after I showered she tied my ankles and wrists together and then proceeded to thrash my ass with a large heavy wooden spoon.

I doubt I'll ever do that again.

 

This is beautifully written. Thank you.