Loss of control over finances

Interesting. Not sure if the contract is binding but no matter. But a good start.

 

Contract not worth the paper it is written on legally but fun to write. My Keyholder/wife just gave me $40 because I asked her to. It was that easy and no contract either. Seriously, we tried giving my wife financial control, not because of some D/s game, but because I am a spender and love my toys. I also tend to buy things late at night and do not remember buying them. Yesterday I got a package for an E-xacto knife I ordered. Seems that I ordered 6 of them. Sometimes I order the same thing twice. I take Ambien to sleep and if I wake up I lose all memory of what I did. Sometimes it is quite funny.

Our verbal agreement did not work out. Seems that if I cannot use some of my money for enjoyment, I lose my drive to work as hard as I do. So I can buy whatever I want. That is why I got where I am in my career. Not for fame or power. For the money to spoil myself.

 

Yes. But can also depend how the financial control is exercised.

 

Not even in my most submissive, horny, desperate state, would I ever hand over my paycheck.

I have no clue why financial domination is a thing. Even in a FLR, it's based on leading, not taking. Discussions are had, compromises made, and although one might not get a desired outcome, respect and consideration is given.

Reminds me of stories of women in the 50's, no job, no money, no resources, totally dependent on her husband. She also was trapped to take whatever abuse was thrown her way, no options. That kind of physical and emotional blackmail isn't much of a turn on for me.

So no, I have never tried that way. Sounds like you enjoy it though, best wishes.

 

yeah ,even if you do trust her 100% that she wont run away with the money, how sure are you that she will make better decisions than you on financial issues.

 

Our money is all joint property period. There is never hers or mine regardless of origin.
We are not big spenders and both respectful of responsibilities.
Before we married we attended church based classes covering many subjects. We learned that much marital discord is about money. This has worked for us since 1972.

 

Contracts of this nature would not hold up in court, but i guarantee my contract with Mistress holds up in the bedroom! It is important to have a written contract between Mistress and slave simply because it shows intent--it shows that i am Her slave and She is the Mistress on all matters, including financial. In a FLR it makes no difference whether things are "legal" outside the relationship. It does help immensely if there are what i call "Female enforcers" involved that can settle arguments (misunderstandings on my part is more the word) about my Mistress/slave contract.

i am a long time slave (over 30 years) and long ago Mistress determined to conduct monthly reviews of my service. Admittently these have not occurred every month, but often enough that each of the two enforcers in my life (my Sister-in-law and Mistress' long time Girl friend) have both photo and hand written material that is, let's say sensitive and that i would not want distributed to the wrong people. Truthfully, i doubt that either enforcer would distribute sensitive information--but, i am 100% assured that i am under Female Authority. Essentially i have a "prisoner information file" at three locations--and all locations are under Female Control.

i do have a financial budget. Can i finance a man cave remodel with it? No, but i can afford reasonable expenditures on femme wear items, make-up, and the things in life that are important. W/we are not rich, but Mistress is well dressed, W/we are able to host maid served dinners and evenings--and i am in charge of all panty and lingerie laundry that enters Mistress' home! i love the FLR life style--i would not trade it for any other. O/ours is not the "whip and chain" relationship pictured in male fantasy porn sites--it is the day-to-day worship of ALL THINGS FEMALE! Female company and their delightful control of it is fun, exciting, and ultimately rewarding--i would wish it no other way! Screw the legal vs. illegal argument of slave contracts--have you read how to make a locking brassiere @ brassierred.com. This is what W/we need to focus on if what W/we believe in is to have meaning, i think. There are Ladies out there that care, so long as we stay focused on their delightful feminine form, their natural and manufactured scent, their imagination, their very movements, and etc.

Am i chastised? i am (6month, 3 days but who is counting). Have i experienced a climax? Yes, if you count the times Her panties have been subjected to an oral laundry cycle. Do i experience frustration? 24/7. Am i happy? Who wouldn't be!

 

I think it depends on the relationship. Of course a contract of this nature will not hold up in Court. But a vanilla structure where she controls all the finances and the assets (and does not mention kink or chastity) certainly can if done properly. Especially if he's too much to lose if the relationship comes to an end. And which in turn can also be a very good handle for keeping him locked up as well. A separate agreement (or other collateral) for this while it can't of course be enforceable as such can nevertheless be an 'expression of consent' to the extent that it is for anything to which consent can be lawfully given (may depend bit on jurisdiction). And other handles like last post's 2nd para can be the cement for sexual control as well. That way she's got him by the balls with one hand and by the £$£ with the other. Checkmate.

But it's not for everyone. In some relationships it's just not appropriate.

 

For me it's the best option for FLR when the wife control 100% of finances and has total control over the assets. Everything what husband want and what he can do is depend from her will. He can't buy whatever expect his allowance, he can't do any valuable action without her know. Every time when he open his wallet he will think about his marriage position. When the wife has all assets in her name, it's amazing power for her. She is the real queen - her house her rules. I think many woman like the idea when the husband want some money he have to first kiss and massage her feet....exciting feeling for both of them

 

So you think letting his wife control their finances is CRAZY, but letting her lock up his cock in a little cage is completely sane...

 

Are u the same fella that put a picture of Lucy under his wife's side of the bed at her request? Either way your response to my comment lacks respect or sense.

If u would have bothered to read, I didn't say anything was CRAZY, I said i had no clue why financial domination is a thing(kink). I didn't say anything about having a problem with a wife having control of the finances, in fact if you would have bothered to read it stated that even if it is a FLR, it's based on leading and not taking, compromise and discussion....you know I'm pretty much rewriting the whole post...did you read any of it?

Next time read first, comment later. Better yet absorb what you are reading, put it in the proper context, create a well thought response, then comment.

 

No I'm not that same fella. If you had bothered to read the posts you'd know that.
So your response lacks respect or sense.
Next time read first, comment later. Better yet absorb what you are reading, put it in the proper contex, create a well thought response, tnen comment

 

Because I didn't go through your entire history and just asked?

Go sell crazy someplace else, I'm all stocked up here.

 

No

No because you opened your mouth without checking your facts

 

I believe that's what started this with you. I'm over going back and forth on this with you...mostly because I'm over 7 years old. So the ignore button is now in play.

 

Ok. But next time get your facts right.
Take care

 

We are retired....and i cannot go anywhere without my Wife. Not to the mall, store..anywhere. Lately, She has been keeping my finger and toenails painted, so that makes it impossible for me to out anyway. I am way too shy to go out in public like that. She occasionally grants me permission to go to the mall or store if we need something and She doesn't want to go. So, I don't have any money in my wallet. i don't have an ATM card or credit card in my wallet, because it is not needed. When we go to the mall or store and i want something for myself (like a beer!), She gives me the money without question. So, at the end of the story, I don't need to have money with me. I do however, take care of the household budget.