I met someone that offered to be my mistress. Things were going ok until she told me the rules. One of which was I wasn't allowed to question anything she told me to do unless she gave me permission to question it. I may be wrong here but that kinda sounds bad since I can't question what she tells me to do unless she allows it. She pointed out that asking permission to question was a question so it wasn't allowed. I think I should run away from this arrangement. Any advice?
Sounds like the typical Femdom/Mistress scam, they eventually just ask you to sign up on various sites for no good reason other than to get them referrals.
Generally I would say two things. One go with your gut. And it seems your gut is saying she’s a scammer or unsafe. The other is what was the context that she said this. Too many guys top from the bottom and want to use our lifestyle for sex, so she may be starting harsh. Unfortunately, I know those are opposing thoughts. It’s why so many of us recommend munches and getting to know people in the community, it gives you a chance to make friends and to know others. But going back to your question. This can be a big red flag. But if she was otherwise ok, it may not be a deal breaker. Is she willing to respect your limits? Is she willing to use safe words? Is she known in the local community and have a good reputation? My suggestion is either go with your gut and don’t look back. Or take time and see if she’s ok and just being extra protective of herself. Neither is right or better. So you will need to decide.
I would only be concerned if it seems she is only interested in money. Has she mentioned fin dom or payments? Has she told you to do things that seem unsafe or dangerous? If you really want a domme-sub relationship, you are going to have to make that leap of faith and do as your told. Just be careful and pay attention as it begins. Good luck and enjoy.
oooh. please how then can you know if you not allow to do something if you cant ask Her. and if you do it then you get punish cos you cud not ask. it not fair i think
Sounds strange but you don't mention any attempt to obtain money from you yet, so perhaps go along with it and take care. You can always bale out at any time. Good luck.