Looking for femdom ideas! Please help!

Welcome 'noob' MissyCripsie! With respect, use the search function as there are many threads on your topic. Read up and take control. Good luck and do let us know how you're making out.

 

Try T&D first? Edge him for ages then tell him you're going to "save him for tomorrow".

 

While your waiting id ensure he has as much fun as possible before hand, that way when you have him locked it will really hit home and he will do most of the work for you to try and earn a release ☺

 

I know you said you didn’t know how to talk dirty etc...well if he is sexually submissive, it doesn’t have to be too scripted it just has to be firm.

Example: get your face down here now.
I’ll let you know when your done.

Give directions the way you want, or you could even tell him to sit and watch for awhile, and you entertain yourself. Tell him that he better pay attention, he needs to know how to please you.

My point is that it doesn’t have to be some super erotic sexy talk, it can be just you being firm and telling him what to do and how to do it. Once you know his particular kinks, you can integrate them easily enough.

Good luck

 

My mistress has told me she has s tough time with knowing what the "right thing" to say is or how to say it. What she found that works for her is simple, she just tells me what to do, gives me orders and the time frame she wants things done. The fact that she bosses me around is a lot of fun for us both and she's really cone to enjoy it... maybe a little too much

Anyway just start where you're comfortable and slowly grow things from there. Start at your own pace and move along to what's comfortable for you. There is a lot of good info here at the mansion although it can be a real task to find sometimes. There are also a lot of decent books on Amazon that have to do with chastity and Female led relationships.

Also welcome to the forum!

 

That is the reason for the chastity. Once you have a device that he can wear indefinitely, you have full control of him. No more post orgasm let down.

 

Start slow. And realize that most things you're reading on here are fantasies and not realistic of what is actually going on.

A good way to start is simply giving orders. "Massage my feet." "Sit here and wait until I tell you." "Use the vibrator, make me come." "Lick my clit but don't touch yourself." Whatever you want him to do. It doesn't have to be complicated and starting out with more than you can chew is going to make it difficult for both of you. Be clear and direct; you're in charge. Femdom is about making you feel good and him serving that need. His desires come second. Too many couples end up giving up on femdom because the man tries to "top from the bottom" and the woman feels like she's just catering to his fantasies.

Talk to him about what he wants and have him listen to what your needs are. You both need to be on the same page. My KH and I have a "weekly meeting" where we both talk about what we liked or didn't like about the past week, how we're feeling about our relationship, and what needs are or aren't being met. This is a "safe time" where you both break character. He can't be punished for anything he says and he has to listen attentively to what you say. Same goes for you. You both promise to be honest and not to get upset with each other during these talks.

Establish a safeword. Practice using it. It will feel silly and awkward but do it anyway. If he (or you) says the safeword you have to stop and ask what's wrong. No one is every allowed to get upset at the other for using the safeword. He might tell you what you said was too much. If you're playing physically something might have hurt too much. You might both agree to continue with less severity or stop and talk about it. You will learn each other's boundaries this way. And you never have to worry about doing too much or constantly breaking character to ask if he's okay, because after you've practiced using it a few times you know he'll use it if he feels the need.

 

That is a pretty flippant attitude. Be careful what you say about other members.

 

I apologize; I did not mean to offend you and I was not referring to anyone specifically. That should be reworded to "many things you'll read about", referring to the internet as a whole but I cannot edit the post now. The online kink community is rife with embellishment, wishful thinking, and misconceptions. I'm just respectfully suggesting the OP takes what they read with a grain of salt is all.

 

My favorite was when my wife came to bed. Said “I hope your hungry “. Then climbed on the bed and sat right on my face. Once she was done she simply laid down to go to sleep.
Let him beg and try for more. The answer should be no

 

You said that your boyfriend is submissive in bed, but you did not talk about when he is not in bed.

To start with, recognize your power. When he is not in bed, tell him to do something, and refer to "later". You don't have to say "when we are in bed", but he will know. "Wash the dishes and you MIGHT get a reward later" is an example. You don't have to talk dirty to let him know that you are in charge.

Remember that what YOU want is most important. It may be difficult, but once you start practicing this, you will enjoy the power!

 

@Willing2 gives good advice! Take it slowly and the key is to communicate with him about what you are doing and what he is to do in order to please you. Explain that any rewards that he is allowed by you will be the result of his meeting or exceeding your expectations. With such open and free communications, your journey can be fun and lasting for both of you! Without good communications, you will surely encounter resistance and fights and it will not be fun for either of you , long term.

 

This is some fun ideas that we found or made up have fun

Full condom
Sissy is to cum in a condom through out the day min 5x. Then to pour it on mistress body part of choice then lick clean.

Satin lunch
When siissy opens his lunch bag and finds a note or his panty bag. He is to immediately stop and go put them on and send pics to mistress for proof.

Fun trip to work
When entering sissys truck and there are panties hanging in the rear view mirror im to change in the truck and send pic to mistress for proof.

Dirty panties on command
When mistress texts her sissy he is to stop everything and cum in his panties and send pic as proof.

Satin handoff
When we go out to eat mistress slips her sissy his panties. He is to change in the rest room and give her his guy underwear.

Frustrating day
When mistress texts her sissy he is to stop everything and edge with out cumming 5x.

Short sex
Mistress sissy is to please her to full satisfaction then he is to masturbate as quickly as possible and lick clean his mess.

Pure evil
Sissy is to put his cock vibe on and kneel in his panties and watch mistress masturbate to her full pleasure with out touching ones self the whole time. If sissy cums before her spankings will follow.



Long distance fun
When sissy has to travel he is to have his panties on him at all times so when she calls him he is to put them on and send pic proof.

Choking hazard
When told sissy is to select his cock for mistress strapon. The put it on her and kneel in his panties only and suck off mistress cock. While masturbating in his panties and cum on her cock or in your panties. Then sissy is to clean his mess by sucking the cum off her strapon or licking his panties clean.

Cool treat warm load
Save your cum during the day and freeze it to a cum cube. While mistress helps you ypi are to suck on the cum cube and only when it is gone you may cum. Which then you are to lick up the new warm mess you just made.

Pleasure and pain
Sissy is allowed to masturbate while mistress helps him. He can take as long as needed. But the number of mins it took to cum is the number of spankings in his panties he must take while over her knee.

Snake eyes
Mistress rolls 3 dice the total number is how long you have to cum. If you fail double the number that is how many spankings you must take on your knees in your panties.

Front porch sissy
You are to be in your panties with your cum cup. First mistress will roll a single dice to see how many times you have to ruin orgasm in to your cup. Then when done sissy is to go on the front porch in his panties only and must have a full orgasm in his cup. (Blindfold for extra fun) only then can he come in. He must give his cup to his mistress and kneel before her as she pours it in his mouth to swallow or to leave it in his mouth for how ever long mistress wants.

Find the keys
Mistress has her sissy in his panties blindfolded on the front porch she tosses the keys in the yard then takes the blindfold and robe. Locking the door as she goes in he must find the keys in order to get in.
Driving trip
Mistress puts a signs on the rear windows that say honk if you like panties she is to drive while her sissy is in his panties in the back all fours with his ass in the air. Every honk he is rewarded later.

Road trip
Mistress sends her sissy out on a road trip once in the car he is to pull his shorts down to his ankles and complete the trip. He must rec his whole trip with out pausing the camra for proof.

Panty clean
Mistress sissy is to make his mistress cum in her panties. Mistress then puts her cum soaked panties ober his head and the cum soaked are over his nose and mouth. Then he is to cum in his panties while licking her cum. He must clean his panties as well

Cant stop now
Mistress ties her sissy down to the bed were she makes him cum but she doesn’t stop she keeps going till he cums again or how ever number she wishes.

Blind fun
Mistress puts her sissy in his panties and handcuff his hands behind him with a blindfold on. He is to make her cum the she leaves him there for however long she wants then does it again. After mistress is satisfied she uncuffs him and puts him in his cage till the next day.

Big tease
Mistress strips naked and pickes her fav toy. She masturbate while you watch not allowed to do anything but watch. When she is done you are to lick her toy clean and clean her pussy with your tounge. She then puts you back in your cage to cum later when is her choice.

Waiting patiently
Mistress blindfold and handcuffs her sissy in his panties. There is to kneel beside her until she is ready to play. Sissy must wait in anticipation and squirm qhile she reads a book or watches her fav show.


Porn or not to porn
Mistress ties/handcuffs her sissy to the queening chair. She then puts on a premade porn collection that he made. He is to sit there in his panties and watch for how ever long you wish. He is then caged and denied a orgasm. (Bonus if he is caged the whole time)

Panty hanger
Sissy is to get hard and stand there next to his mistress. She then takes off her panties and hangs the from his cock he must not drop them. Use dice to determine the length of time.

Hanging on the edge
Mistress rolls the 2 dice . One dice is the number of edgings her sissy must do. The sec is how many times in a day he must do the edgings.

Panty shopping
Mistress is to take her sissy panty shopping. Mistress can say what ever she wants and have staff help pick out items for her sissy with them knowing there for you.

First and foremost
All sessions start with satisfaction of mistress. You get no pleasure until she is completely satisfied.

Training
Sissy is to masturbate for 20 mins total daily. If sissy gets close he must stop and cool down for a min which doesn't count towards the total time.

Beat the clock
Mistress rolls the dice (2). The total number is the mins your sissy must last in his duel cock vibrator. If he beets the clock he can fuck his mistress. If not he gets double the number in spankings and caged till tomorrow when he will try again.




Tasty treat
Sissy is to edge as much as he can in his cum cup with out orgasm. Then he hands it to his mistress where she pours it in to his mouth but not swallow. He must then orally pleasure mistress to orgasm with out losing any cum or swallow. Once done he is allowed to swallow.

Pegging training
Mistress fucks her sissy with her strapon. Durning his fucking he is allowed to masturbate till he gets near cumming. He must stop and let mistress fuck him to orgasm. If he cant after a predetermined time the he goes into his cage till tomorrow. He will also be spanked for the same number that the time was givin exp: 30 minutes = 30 spanks

She has the controller
Mistress has her sissy on all fours with the fuck machine and his dildo hooked up. Mistress will lay in front of him and he will orally pleasure mistress. She will be running the controller to the fuck machine while it fucks her sissy. If she cums before him he will stay there being fucked while mistress whips him till he cums where he then will clean up his cum.

Its not the end
Mistress will give her sissy a handjob to orgasm but when he cums she will not stop until her sissy cums again no matter how bad he begs her to stop.

Sneek peak
Mistress will have her sissy put on his hot pink panties and athletic shorts. He must then go to the salon of choice there he will get a mani/peti. He must choice hot pink nail polish for both hands and feet. When he is getting his feet done he must leave his legs open so she can get a peak of his panties. (More fun if its one of your girlfriends doing it)

Lone training
During his showers he is to practice with his dildo so he is ready to be fucked by his mistress where and when she wants. Also he is to milk his prostate and learn to do it quickly so his mistress can milk him to drain all of his cum out.



Whats in the bag
In a satin bag mistress will have 50 black and 25 white stones. Sissy can pick up to 3 stones if its black he will have to do his mistress punishment for every black one picked. Every white one picked is a reward of his choosing. After all have been picked play them out in the order picked from the bag.

Teaser trailer
Tie your sissy up in his panties only in the queening chair then do what ever you want to him. Take your cloths off, rub your pussy in his face or lap, jerk him off, play with your self moaning wildly. Then stop get dressed and leave him there for at least 20 mins and do it all over again.

Cant feel a thing
Mistress will put numbing cream on he hard cock and then put on a condom he is then to fuck his mistress to pleasure. He is then allowed to cum in a certain amount of time. If he cant then he will get caged up till next time.

Dirty car
Mistress will have her car washed by her sissy in his panties only. Be quick or run the risk of being seen remember to duck behind the car if anyone drives by.

I see the light
Mistress will tie her sissy in his panties to the queening chair. He must keep his eyes closed for what ever time mistress deems. If he opens his eyes he will be spanked for the same number of time as in mins.

Scrabble
Play the game as normal. But when it is mistress turn you are to do what ever she wants. When its your turn she will tease you any way she wants. First to 400 wins if sissy can spell orgasm he will get to play if he does not mistress choice of punishment. Sex words are worth double.

No hands
Mistress will tie her sissys hands behind his back and place various types of tous on the bed for him. He can only use his cock to turn things on or his mouth. He gets one hr to cum if not then mistress will spank him for equal amounts to mins 60 spanks for 60 mins

In a form of a question
Sissy will be given a question sheet or txt but no questions will be on it. He is only allowed to answer yes or no or a.b.c.d. when completed he will then be given the questions and must do as he answered them.

Between the sheets
Mistress will put her sissys flesh light between the matress and box springs. He then will fuck the flesh light as he orally pleasure mistress to orgasm. If she beats him he gets to cum on her breast and clean it up. If not he must stop and get caged up with no orgasm.

To the line
Sissy is to milk him self while his mistress masturbate to her full pleasure. When she is done he is to mark on his cup on how full he got it then drink it down. Next day is round 2 you must beat your old goal to fuck your mistress. If not then she will spank you number is her choice

 

It is hard to be dominant if you are not naturally so... As a guy that likes strong women I think a lot about kneeling before her... Some dominate things you could try is just having him on his knees with you standing over him. Have him perform oral on you. Make it known it is about your pleasure. MAKE him please you.
Try to change your mindset during sex that he is just a tool for your pleasure. That's what I am looking for anyways. haha. Good luck and have fun

 

Work slowly at being dominant. Many find that having power is very pleasurable. You DO have power. Tell him that he can't cum until you give him permission. He is not allowed to play with himself unless you are present and give him permission. The first time he asks tell him No, not now. Maybe later if you please me adequately. Tease him. You will enjoy the power or learn to enjoy the power. Just try it.