Hello everyone i am very excited about hopefully soon becoming an active member of this wonderful society. I am writing this to gain a little more information and hopfully usuful ideas. i have two concerns that i need help with. Firstly and the hardest does anyone have any ideas on how to introduce my lovely sexy very very nilla wife to this, she will be opposed to this idea i just know it, but from what i have read this is a perfect solution to many of the problems we have in our marriage. The more i read about this lifestyle the more its seams this is the perfect answer, i have a huge masturbation problem and waste every single spare hour away from her doing just that, with me not being able to wank would mean i would get so so so many other more positive things done that would help our marriage. I have sexual problems with arousal during sex, again from what i have read her contorling me will help with this. She has major major trust issues from catching me wanking years ago and cannot forget this and again her contorling this will stop both conerns about me wanking and fucking behind her back. One other advantage is her sex drive being stimulated, i cannot for the life of me see a downside. LAstly it excites me so, the thought of her having total control over my sexual activity. This leads me to my next delemor in that although when hard i am average to a tiny bit over average (for australia anyway) but flacid i am smaller than most, many years ago we did dabble with a leather device but i found that i could very easily slip out of it, i am reading lots about various devices and i know there are ones out there that i will not be able to get out of but if she goes for this then she will want me to wear this for long periods of time (as i work away from her at times) up to a week at a time. I am thinking a birdlock mini, i have heard that there are ways out of them though, can anyone offer me advice on this? I would also need to be able to wear them under my work clothes and work on constructions sites thus me leaning toward the birdlock for better concealment? any advice would be greatly apprecitated soon. Just one other thing too, does anyone have any technical or non bdsm / sexual references for the advantages of being in chasity that i can show to my wife, if i can produce scientific evidence then i know she will be more keen on the idea.