I have to admit to being a lurker here for quite a few weeks now, so should finally take the plunge and introduce myself. I have been impressed and frankly amazed at the real sense of community and mutual support here. It is so nice to find a place where people talk so openly and honestly - compared to so much of the "dodgy" literature you find on the internet! So far I'm a big fan of xcite, mikebc and Mistress Watchful's journals - thank you so much for sharing! I have a pretty vanilla background, despite being together with my husband for around 10 years now. He's very much into BDSM - in fact I'm not sure if either of us realised quite how important it was to him when we married. For the amount that we talked about it, I think he was kind of just hoping he'd get over it. :anim_39: Needless to say, he didn't, and we have finally realised that our only hope of a fulfilling sex life is for me to embrace it! To cut a long story short, things have been looking up since he decided to introduce me to the pleasures and advantages of being a mistress with a house-slave! I have been making gradual progress with various spanking techniques, etc, which we're working on as a long-term project... although all efforts are limited by a 2 year old daughter, and attendant exhaustion! He bought a CB-something-or-other about a year ago, but was very disappointed that it didn't stay on - he's got rather unusually long balls, which don't seem to hold it in place. I thought it was a bit of a strange idea anyway, and didn't really get it at all until I started reading this site. However I have to say that chastity play has caught my imagination and would be very keen to try it properly, if we can find a device that works. Slave is away this week with work, and I have set him the task of writing an introductory post in a device forum here. If he describes the, er, problem, we're hoping that people will be able to give us some advice on what to try next. (I don't think he's got a username yet). Oh well. Sure to be plenty of excitement / frustration along the way!