I've been a lurker on the other board for a very long time. I stumbled across male chastity (and subsequently the other forum) quite by accident. I'm not (and don't wish to become) a slave or a sissy or any of that. I'm just a guy who really likes the idea of chastity and T&D. I've always been fairly kinky and fairly submissive, but it's not a major part of my life. My wife is somewhat kinky, but mostly vanilla. I don't think she's really sub or dom as such. She's just herself based on whatever mood strikes her. Like I said, I love the idea of being in chastity, but my wife is hard to read sometimes. I'd brought it up on occasion and she seemed amused by it, but not "interested" per se. There's no way I could justify an expensive device on the hope that she might get into it, so I set about to make my own. What I've come up with is a somewhat effective device that I made from a steel ring and a 1 1/4" PVC street elbow. It's not entirely secure. It's not entirely practical, and it's somewhat noticeable under clothes. I've been experimenting and refining it for a while. I (accidentally?) let her catch me wearing it once and she was amused by the idea. That was before I'd even found a way to lock it. Since then I've got it to the point of being a fully functional device and the other day I actually put it on and handed her the keys. She raised her eyebrow and took them, but didn't hide them or anything. That night she teased the heck out of me when she came to bed. It was wonderful and terrible at the same time. I was starting to think that maybe she was starting to get into it, but then she said she'd left the keys on her night stand just in case I needed to take it off in the morning. After that she's pretty much ignored it for several days. This is obviously a mixed blessing. I'm certainly not complaining. I've got a little bit of a situation here where I'm still not entirely sure that an expensive device is justifiable. Based on her response so far it seems like it would take weeks of lock-up to figure out if she was really interested or not, but my homemade device is not very practical and also only really wearable for a few days at a time. So... That's my situation in a nutshell (no pun intended). I've read just about every thread on the other forum. Some of them really wind me up, but I'm a bit nervous about sharing them with her. I'm not sure exactly where this uncomfortableness comes from, but something tells me I need to be very patient and seek out the right opportunity for each step forward. As of right now I've been locked since Wednesday (four days) with one night of her active participation. I let myself out today :sad: to see if there were any problems and to make some modifications that will hopefully make my device more practical.