Update. So the other night my Wife and I were just watching some tv and when the show was over, I causally mentioned chastity. I said I really would like to try it again, if she was into it. She replied with a bit of an eye roll and quickly pointed out I should just put it on, but she wouldn't ask me to do that since misplacing the spare key. I then mentioned the techniques to keep keys in a common spot with some kind of key management device. (Thank you @harddenial for bringing this back to my attention.) She seemed to like this idea very much as it relieved her of the duty of having to be responsible for the key. With a key lock of some kind, we'd both have access to the key if necessary, but only she can access it with a lock code. In an emergency I would be able to break it, or ask her for the code which can be reset later. The key lock, less than $10, was ordered within minutes of our conversation. To my amazement our communication grew by leaps and bounds once she was relieved of being the sole keeper of the key. She wants me to go through a break in period of locked time again. In times past that has meant as long as 3 months. We went over our concerns and expectations, and I am chaste again. This time I am focusing on the things I've done that I know have detracted from our experience. I have mentioned before how the feeling of neglect can really ruin everything for me. When this had happened in the past, I would become needy and ask all kinds of questions and basically beg for attention. That is what I will be trying to avoid at all costs. When times get crazy, and they will, or I feel a need to play with myself, which I will, I am going to remember to be strong and what this chastity thing is all about: pleasing her. She has said that if I can without mentioning chastity begin foreplay with her, she will tease me. This seems ridiculously simple, but, in the past as much was never stated. In the past I would selfishly mention chastity first, and this was a problem that would basically require a time out to reset everything. Well, time out is over. And I have a renewed resolve to really really focus on being an excellent servant to my wife's needs and pleasure, and if all goes as planned I will earn her attention. Her pleasure must come first. I need to be stronger. I need to be more submissive with her, and to do this I need help. The chastity device really goes a long way with reminding me of this. We are also considering a birdlocked as a way to allow a break from the Lori if I am exercising. One other thing she told me really bothered her was having to unlock me so i could ride a bike for example. We are looking at a birdlocked as a possible answer to this. If a birdlocked could be used for such occasional breaks, she said she would feel more in control, because she doesn't approve of breaks --- holy shit that was a turn on.