hi guys and girls New to this scene (see previous intro post!) - but a question I'm wanting to get people's views on: When locked up and left without sexual release for longer periods than you're used to, does it make you more likely to 'loosen your tongue' and tell your partner more of your darkest fantasies ? For example. Since being locked up, I've found I'm obviously extremely horny all the time, really needy for some love from the wife but also found myself spilling out my desire to see my wife take a black lover. I didn't intentionally tell her, it just came out bit by bit in a teasing session. She seems to be open to the idea or at least she went with the kinky talk while getting off. But not convinced I'd ever have told her that unless I was in the state of locked up and denied for so long Thoughts / experiences ?
My "loose lips" while being caged have often got me in hot water! Having to think about what you say just adds to the control that She has over me, I think.
What many experience is that they are constantly reminded of chastity since they are wearing a cage but their wives/KH are not thinking about it much. That made me very chatty and talk about things like permanent orgasm denial, corporal punishment, wearing panties and bras, etc.. However, I have gotten used to chastity and I no longer annoy my wife with sex talk and chastity reminders. Just our nature to think of more extreme things when we go a long time without an orgasm. My wife thinks about my penis only when we have sex once a week. It is a non issue to her at all other times but to me, it is on my mind every day.
My gf/kh let me out after a week or so locked up, and had me masturbate while she sat next to me on the couch. After I was really worked up she asked me to describe what i usually fantasized about, and what I was fantasizing that moment. I told her things I would never have admitted to otherwise. I suppose she learned that trick in one of the books I bought her on chastity/denial or maybe came up with it on her own. Either way she never commented on what I told her. She didn't show any emotion or judgement. She just filed the information away in her memory and then she told me to lock back up. I thought it was really hot.
Mistress and I have been married 30+ years and she is still finding out things about me. Being locked has definitely made me more open about my fantasies to her. Case in point, I recently told her about how I used to try on my mother's lingerie while at home alone during my teen years. She never knew about that side of me and she was excited to know about it. Since then she has started to explore that and has had me buy a few articles of women's undergarments to wear for her and she has bought me some nighties that she likes to make me wear to bed from time to time.
I can see how that would easily happen, yes. The constant sense of sexual frustration could easily lead you to let out more than you ordinarily would. Hasn't happened to me, but I can definitely see it happening.