Kicking off My Longest Lock-Up Yet

@Thatgirl has declared that I will be locked from our anniversary, the 23rd, until Valentines Day. Three weeks. That is three times longer than my longest lock up yet (10 days, and that was once). This coincides with a renewed interest in discipline on her part, unfortunately for me. When we started this she found some reason to bend me over the bed and redden my ass nearly every day, and I think she's noticed a certain slackening of obedience since she stopped all that a bit ago. She's also mentioned more than once that she likes how affectionate I become after a 3 or 4 days of denial, and wants to see more of it.

So, on the way to work today I receive this video:

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Being surprised with that video on my way to work earlier was a real kick in the ass. A turn on for sure, but also an "ahh shit" moment. When she doesn't use the KitchenSafe, I generally know I can get out before too too long because @Thatgirl struggles with lack of PIV during my lock-ups about as much as I do. But she seems more serious this time. And in general lately she seems more serious about chastity, discipline, and submission on my part. I think a long lock-up is her way of trying to get more submissiveness out of me, which has been lacking. The following is a snippet of the ensuing conversation:




She likes to use pegging to express dominance. But since she got her hood piercing she has also been able to bring herself to orgasm easily and deliberately while pegging, which has turned it into a way for her to satisfy her needs AND express dominance. She also seems to REALLY like to make beg for the strap-on - something I find very embarrassing (asking, specifically) and will only do if she's denied me long enough and teased me hard enough that I really really need to cum.

Our "long" lock-ups are the times when she actively looks for new ways to make me feel embarrassed and submissive, and when she more frequently employs the methods she already has at her disposal. Things like tying me to the bed so I can't take as much control when she's having me service her, or making me kneel at her feet while she makes dinner. So this, my longest lock-up yet, is going to prove difficult for me. But as long as she is having a lot of fun during this three weeks, then it will be worth it.

 

Sorry for the size of that screenshot. I meant to shrink it.

 

She may well. I know she likes using the little videos of the KitchenSafe mechanism locking as a bit of a mindfuck for me. And she doesn't normally go through the trouble of setting up the key in there and filming it locking to send to me. That only usually happens when she's been putting some thought into things. We shall see.

I'd imagine Thatgirl will post some updates as his lock up progresses. I will too, particularly if she requests that I do so. But generally speaking she's the more frequent poster, and frankly she's more well liked around here, so she usually does the postings

 

We've been at this around a year now. Not sure where that falls in the "just starting out" scale. I suppose that's relative.

Regarding my lock ups - I have no real say, and never have. But I do appreciate your approval had that been the case...

@Thatgirl simply doesn't favor long lock-ups. It's not a function of our newness or not-newness to the lifestyle. It's a function of her love of sex, and the reality that I do it very well. Chastity is fun for us. Other than liking the bit of submissiveness that comes out when caged, and the uptick in cuddly affection, there is no overarching goal. No masturbation / porn addiction to remedy, no selfish attitude in need of adjustment through denial. No longing on her part for a "real" FLR. Just a very loving and attentive man who knows how to please @Thatgirl far too well to be kept locked away for long (her statement, not mine).

It seems to be often assumed that our shorter lock-ups are some sort of prelude to when we really start practicing chastity. I will accept any length of lock-up @Thatgirl demands, but for the the reasons I just listed and many others, very long lock-ups are not likely in the cards, as my cage-time is hers also, despite all the myriad ways she orgasms on a daily basis. There's simply no substitute for my penis and how I use it (her statement, not mine).

That all out of the way, there's no denying that our fun game has crossed over into a lifestyle. I am in the cage 100% of the time that I am not being utilized to please her. I am pierced, originally for the sole purpose of true security (she has come to LOVE sex with the big CBR I have, but that was just a happy coincidence). Security is a must with chastity for us - the physical, emotional, psychological impact of the device against my skin, and restraining my erections so that every one is a reminder that she, and only she, is my only avenue for release from the device, and the sole provider of orgasms, caged or uncaged, is 100% essential to her, and thus to me. The control it gives her is absolute. Her utilization of that control is based on our love for each-other, and our desire to have fun. She uses her power to heighten my sexuality, rather than to tamp it down, to encourage me to explore things I would not otherwise have been willing to explore, and to push the limits of my otherwise very limited capacity for submissiveness. The thought of going uncaged is no longer acceptable to her. Thankfully for me, the thought of not having sex with me, or of having sex with another man is also unacceptable to her. So we fall somewhere in the middle I suppose - I am caged for her pleasure, and as i have always done I take great care to provide plenty.

We like the dice game you described, and have a handful of multi-sided die which we have used for similar things in the past. I think it would be nice to take the dice out again and integrate them. We'll have to see what @Thatgirl thinks.

Thanks for your reply, and welcome to the Mansion! Hopefully you'll stick around for a while and we can get to know you.

 

This, btw... Super hot! I would not mind if @Thatgirl adopted a policy such as this She already likes to keep me locked until I'm forced to request orgasm via pegging because she knows I find it humiliating to ask for such a thing. We'll not likely go months without release, but I can certainly see her progressively becoming more willing to be arbitrary and "mean" with her humiliation. As you allude to, that takes time for her to grow more and more confident in doing that. For my part I just assure her that she is unlikely to be meaner, or more humiliating than I can take. Just to try to make sure she feels comfortable doing whatever she wants. The few times that she has arbitrarily decided I would not be released on the day that she originally told me would, I found it very much a turn-on, oddly.

 

Yes. Yes, it really is. The electronic mechanism of that KitchenSafe can wake me from a sound sleep. Especially when I know it's opening not closing! But @Thatgirl sending me that video to kick things off was a stroke of pure, mischievous genius. She's done it before, but it's been a while. It's a signal of her seriousness, and her resolve to keep me from sweet-talking my way out of the cage and into her prior to the declared date! But she still has to restart the timer in 10 days .

First of all, you have an excellent memory to remember that she almost never gives me declared release dates. Bravo. Your remembering something like that is much appreciated!

Second, I will say that one thing I am grateful for is fhat while she certainly won't be allowing me more than a couple or so during this 3 weeks, @Thatgirl is still training me to beg for the strap-on when I am desperate for release, and as such, when/if I do breakdown and grovel a bit for a prostage-O she will generally grant it. She's said many times how powerful it makes her feel to be able to make me cum without ever removing the cage. Plus she very much likes it when I swallow my pride and beg - which I can tell by the ear-to-ear grin on her face when she answers my plea for the pegging-O with "yes you may. Go in the bedroom, over the side of the bed face down and hands behind your back". So at least I think I can reasonably foresee a couple of releases along the way to help me along.

You know, I've made much ado many times about the fact that before chastity was ever even on our radar that I've always done my best to pamper @Thatgirl. But I've certainly never knelt beside the tub and hand bathed and messaged her as she bubble-bathed (and obviously never nakes but for a cage!). There is simply no getting around the truth that if a true FLR is what you're after enforced chastity is fairly vital.

Chastity for us has started to evolve rather quickly again. At least in my head. I don't know why, but I've experienced a seemingly sudden surge of what we call "puppydogishness", and what most would simply describe as submissive feelings. I really have not always been a great candidate for chastity / submissive training, but for some reason over this last month since visiting my childhood home caged for the holidays, this all seems to have really penetrated my psyche. I've mentioned as much to @Thatgirl and made sure to note that it kinda makes me nervous. It's a very vulnerable feeling and not one I'm accustomed to. But far from expressing any trepidation herself, @Thatgirl just smiled broadly and told me how much she loves this and how happy she is with how it's progressing. So she's aware of my current mindset and is very happy to push on, and push me along with her. And at this point I trust her, and trust trust that she wouldn't let things go beyond where she's comfortable taking responsibly for. So for my part I'm just trying to focus on letting go even more and letting her take me to where she wants me to be.

And along with that certainly is more things like bubble bath messages and deserts. Because in this state of mind it does feel oddly good to try to make her smile even more, beyond just satisfying her sexually.

 

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She would be wise to do so - that's for sure. I am in a bit of trouble for my behavior yesterday of course. Thankfully there's still a couple days left till that timer hits zero. Time to get back in good graces.