KHs, Your experiences with online chat?

Gaia,
A lot of chat conversations with men here at CM are skewed towards masturbation fodder.
I've been a member for so long I'm quite hardened to it. it's best just to ask right away if they had some specifficquestion in mind or topic they wanted to discuss. Don't feel guilty about nipping it in the bud.

New boy problem. On the whole I would say yes and that it works both ways. It's only ever new boys that try and cybersex me these days. I have no time for it whatsoever and let them know right away that i will report them.
How does it work both ways?
if you are a new girl then some of the old boys will also have a go and see if yo are potential wank fodder by leading you into a specific area of chat that gets their rocks off.

Anyway, it's easy enough to get rid of them as I'm sure you know. But somehow i think your worry is based more on the window you now have into male chastity and the people it tends to attract.

The other thing to bear in mind is that above all the topic of male chastity is penocentric so it does tend to attract some prety low types with fully penis oriented minds.

Having said all that, this site for me and many others is like a sanctuary or safe haven compared to others. I have made good friends here and also had some fun and very interesting online sub experiences that have influenced greatly the way that I've dealt with my own "hands on subs"

if you want to know how to make the most out of an online/long distance relationship then I can offer you some handy tips and advice as to how to get the best out of it. not here in this thread though ;-)

You will find diamonds here if you want to dig or like many many other female members you may just choose not to log in again after experiencing "Icky" advances.
It's about being able to see the sunrise past the dirt on the window. lol if that makes sense.

xx

 

Ps, @Goddess Gaia,
it might give you some hope to know that I rarely experience advances like that anymore.
if I do then it is , as you mentioned, from new boys.
And pps, I hope the ickyness doesn't cause you to leave.

Personally I think the most icky thing is when loads and loads of guys post in a thread aimed specifically at female members. That's down to a lack of respect which creeps me out more than being wank fodder.

 

Most guys, when they discover Female domination, do so on porn sites, so their initial impression is fantasy based and nothing to do with reality. Some discover this site and it's like an Alladdins Cave for them, which may result in a bit of fantasy-based frenzied activity. Some never get past this stage and it's all about wank-fodder. However, there are those of us that really appreciate inter-action with genuine dominant women and genuine submissive men and how much we can learn about submission and about ourselves. I do understand that it can be very off-putting for women to be used as wank-fodder and I'm not trying to excuse that type of behaviour, but perhaps a little patience, especially with new guys, could help them move on beyond fantasy into reality.

 

Whilst I do think it appropriate for guys to read posts by women intended for women if you are doing to improve your insight into and about women. Where else are you going to encounter such a potential mine of experience.

Im sure I have probably done it and might be doing so now...but I do think it is inappropriate for males to comment in such threads unless invited to do so.

So in that sense perhaps this equally in intrusion. So I do apologise for that but do feel a little justified in that I'm offering an explanation why some of us read these posts.

 

It’s to bad that more men are t polite and respectful to women. That old saying off being a gentleman seems to be lost with so many people.

I’d like to think I’m a gentleman and treat ladies here and everywhere with respect but I even slip from time to ti e and get disciplined for it. It is a Pleasure to have more respected woman on this sight. I kneel before you as I sign of respect.

 

@ Goddess Gaia If you seek comments and opinion from only those that feel the same as you, it will not be all that surprising to find your own opinion confirmed as correct, when that may or may not actually be the case.

All I was hoping to do was to point out that many of us men may start out seeking wank-fodder, but we learn quickly and move on to being every bit as genuine as anyone else on this site.

I can and often do read without commenting, but when I feel that a particular thread is becoming biased and/or when I also feel I have something to contribute, then I will do so.

Please feel free to read this without commenting. This is not a judgement or criticism. just wanted to point it out.

As this site becomes more popular, I dare say that the problems you describe will increase, which will be a turn-off for many of us and not just for you.

 

Gaia and Ladies:
I've been here for about nine months now.
Had my share of gross remarks and advances, mainly from the new boys, but as fast as they are with their claims towards masturbation they also disappear fast when they know it will be fruitless for their wills.
The first months I had my learning of how to get rid of them, most important is how we present ourselves to the world, the ones who read our posts carefully know why we are here and act accordingly. I learned my lessons and I'm sure they learned also, as I had no more problems with the wankers for a long time.
As in real world, we make a circle of people with whom we talk daily, sharing points of view, chatting about life and, of course, chasting and the honoring of the female powers.
I like people here, as a sexual fetish site CM is the most agreeable and respectful place for a female and the only one I visit now and then.

Gaia: I have to tell you I love your occupation: Healing the world with Love
There's nothing better to do in this world as spreading the true love, love heals all.

 

"Dear Mistress,
Wow you're so totally amazing. All I want is to serve you.
Here is a huge list of my kinks and demands.
When can you do all of this to me?

Your new slave"

Copy & paste to every profile with a picture I like the look of.

UGH!

 

I an happy to accept what you said. Usually don't comment in such threads... but I am sure I have done in the past.. so point taken... My apologies ...no offence or advice to any of the ladies was offered or intended ....I will though not consciously offer comments on such threads again.

I dont tend to initiate single 'Chat' and very rarely particiapate in open chat so that won't be an issue at all.

 

I'm quite sure those questions do excite the uninitiated. I've found that many submissive types are prone to 'frenzy' and while it's no excuse, it's certainly a valid reason as to why they are unable to control themselves at the onset of someone promising.

Neurons are firing that they've likely never felt to the fullest potential, and they are desperate to satiate those desires; that deliciously confusing biochemistry has a way of overriding how someone would normally carry themselves.

Again, not an excuse, endorsement, or permission to act this way, but Ma Nature has a way of wielding her unyielding power over us all...

This happens to Me (and pet) as well; I guess a certain type of value within someone is socially 'confirmed' when they clearly have a partner already. Despite any additional kinks, desires, or positive personality traits, a coupled person seems to be more attractive almost by default in many cases. At least, that's how it's been in My experience!

Couldn't agree more! It's quite obvious within a matter of seconds if the chatter has read any of My posts here. I thoroughly enjoy engaging like minds or intellectually inquisitive types with little to no experience...

However, I have zero interest in regurgitating some of My thoughts and/or opinions when they're clearly available for literally anyone in the world to read before contacting Me.

I think this is important, even though it's been expressed that male opinions aren't desired on this thread. And I'll tell you why...

My now husband started out very similar to this, in many ways. We both knew we wanted a certain sexual dynamic, but there was much to learn about one another before anything truly progressed. We've both learned a lot, so I'm not saying My knowledge knows no bounds... but I'm confident in saying I was far more sexually informed and experienced than he was. This fact led to many questions from him, but never was he rude or annoying about them. Obviously, I rather enjoyed indulging his curiosity - as it helped feed My own.

The differences between him and all the others I've encountered online are indescribable and innumerable, as I luckily (and unexpectedly) found a best friend in addition to a kinky partner. I'm sure this isn't terribly common, particularly given the setting in which we met: a sleazy sex chat site, greasier than FetLife and FAR less polite than CM.

The proverbial needle in a haystack, indeed. Except that haystack was actually a pile of garbage, and a large part of Me was shocked to find Myself within it. It worked out swimmingly, though.

When men (or just people in general) crave something specific, intentions can get clouded with action. I know it can become annoying and even painful while you're separating the chaff from the grain... but rest assured @Goddess Gaia, he's out there. Hopefully not tossed to the side already, because he was too excitable at the start. It took Me about 15 years of online interactions before I found Mine.

I wish you the best of luck finding a good pet while navigating this sea of fuckboys. You're more than deserving.

 

so honest and sensible......and someone to follow and take notice of!

 

I concur with Ms Amanda (as usual), but really......I've also tried to ask questions specifically of women in some of my posts and had my request completely ignored. Of course I'm only a guy; but the lack of respect for the women who are trying to communicate on a specific topic saddens me.

Guys please note: I HAVE confused a thread myself inadvertently (and recently) but I was held accountable, apologized and requested my off topic (not off color) topic be deleted.

Admins have the power to delete threads and it's my understanding they will do it if both poster and commenter specifically request it (and if time permits of course.)

 

Ah, I don't know much but this seems like a genuinly earnest message from a sincere individual.........maybe