Kh poll, what if he wants to stop

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if he said being locked wasn’t as much fun and wanted to quit how would you feel?

  1. I’d be fine with quitting this, I do it for him anyway

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  2. I would rather keep him locked, I started to like this

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  3. I would be relieved, I don’t particularly care for all this.

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  1. Nicoftime
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    ok, your fella suddenly says he isn’t having as much fun being locked up anymore, how would you feel.
     
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    I think it goes back to the reason for being locked (I am not). Often it's to prevent masturbation, which most women take as a sign of disrespect. Sometimes it's to prevent infidelity. What was the purpose in this case?
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Oh I’m sure she will see this eventually, I think I know her answer.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    It’s a general question...the man brought up chastity, she agrees, he changes his mind...how does she feel.

    Wearing a cage on your privates because you can’t be trust not to diddle someone else is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard of...trust is gone. Nothing says I love you like “I’m not cheating on you because I can’t”.
     
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    Depends on their situation. But if she's enough handles and the power to require him to stay locked, and that's what she wants, she'll surely keep him secured regardless. He came to an agreement: he should abide by it.
     
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    I think there is a lack of options for the replies. I wouldn't keep him locked if he genuinely didn't want to be however, I would not want to completely stop immediately. What about an option for renegotiation of the situation, where there is maybe less locking or less FLR. If there was negotiation going into this, surely there should be negotiation for changing it?
     
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    Oh maybe I didn’t word it right. I meant how would you feel. I assume that if he really wanted out, he isn’t a prisoner.
     
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    This must be a consensual! However, negotiation and some serious talking should be included. Finding out why he is no longer having fun, and maybe find a way to make it more fun...
     
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    I must not have worded it right...it’s asking how a key holder would react...mentally....emotionally. Would they be disappointed he didn’t want to continue, indifferent because they were just doing it for them, or happy this experience is over.
     
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    She wouldn't answer the pole. She said "stop messing with me about this. You're locked and that's that.
     
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    No, you worded it right for what you wanted. And right now it's 100% would want him locked up nonetheless. But very small sample as yet.
     
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    I am not going to answer the poll directly for Elle but we have talked about this. During the set up of our arrangement her feelings went through four phases, each roughly taking about three months.

    The first was the first answer you provided. She was doing it for me and wasn't real sure what it was all about. She recently told me her initial feeling wasn't one of disgust or disinterest but more one of are we really doing this? It might be fun but it's a bit weird.

    The second phase was when she started to enjoy the dynamic that was developing. She told me at the time that she would stop but that she would be disappointed as she was beginning to see how much fun both of us was having.

    The third phase was I would have to have a good reason to want to stop. She wouldn't stop if I was bored or just fed up with being locked up. She had got to the stage where we had stopped doing this because I wanted to and now we were doing it because she wanted to.

    The final phase was when she told me the only reason we would stop now was medical. This is now permanent. Not permanent as some define it, either in the sense of being permanently locked or permanently denied orgasms but permanent in the sense we are never going back to how we did things pre-Chastity. I will wear a chastity device for the rest of our lives and will only orgasm when either she says I can or I have one of my unstimulated ejaculations.

    So her reply would be an option you didn't give.

    Tough.
     
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    Enjoying the results so far!
     
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    It sounds like she would feel very disappointed if you wanted to stop:D
     
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    It wouldn't really matter how she felt. If I was done with it that's it. There have been plenty of times when she hasn't wanted to do something and said no and I had to get over it.. This would just be another example of something she would need to get over. My feeling is if this ruined a relationship then you never really have one to begin with. It's just a game. Go play another one.
     
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    Again....apparently I wasn’t clear, misspoke, and in general have made a mess of this poll. It was regarding feelings. How they would feel if they were told he wanted to quit. Not if they would quit, not if they are allowed to quit, not what would she do... it was how they would feel. Disappointed, apathy, or relief.

    As for you mcfeely...many things can ruin a relationship, most of which aren’t really related to the acts that upset the other. Failing to pick up your socks isn’t really about tidiness, it’s about failing to do something that means something for the other. Chastity could easily be one of those things. There are a million things that are small that could ruin a relationship, it’s not what the acts are, it’s what they represent. A lack of trust, effort, empathy, or understanding that really upset people.

    Compromise, understanding, thoughtfulness, and selflessness are cornerstones of a relationship, and to dismiss something that means a great deal to the other, out of hand with the only reason as “I don’t wanna” would be a genuine flag that one or more of those traits are missing.

    Anyway, the poll was meant how would a kh emotionally respond if told he was having issues and wanted to stop.
     
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    Nicoftime, you are very well spoken and articulate. You have a unique relationship that started with a unique foundation. I think the question was well written and I think like most posts on CM the men are answering with, in this case, almost no feedback from actual KH. My point is that relationships are a two way street and it does bug me when I see postings that very one sided. There are far more men that are being emotionally abused then one would think but social mores prevent that aspect from being exposed. Women have no ideal how much they hurt their spouse with the little catty games they play but the guys are expected to man up or man down as the case may be. I would be interested in seeing some real feedback ( which is what you are looking for) but would be suprised if you got any real answers. I think most of the polling answers are by guys who are locked and want to give an answer to reenforce that position and their desire for lack of control in their lives. Just my theory.
     
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    To answer the asked question. It would be done.

    The real question I suppose would be why? What happened? Or didn't? Was it a breach of contract? SPOKEN or otherwise. Was it a breach of trust?
     
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    How to fix that breach if it worked so well...
     
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    Lol ok, I’ve explained this a few times, it was asking about how she would feel if told that. Not if it would end or what would you’d do.

    So would she be upset or feel disappointed. Apathy, not caring one way or another just did this for him anyway, or happy that this was finally over.
     
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    Sadness. Grief.
     
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    I don't think I could face the attitudinal casual and flappy cock of vanilla again.
    If he was adamant about quitting then I would surely negotiate.
     
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    Tell us how you really feel. lol
     
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    I answered for my mistress since this topic already came up between us several months back. We got into an argument over something and I can't even remember what it was this point. Also because chastity wasn't going the way I wanted it to I wanted to quit, I was being a total ass about it. The argument had upset her and I could see she was holding back tears. Things eventually calmed down and we were talking normally and I asked for the key to take my cage off. I thought chastity was done with for us at this point I'd "put my foot down", I was ready to toss my cage into the garbage. She looked at me and flat out told me no. I was a little shocked and wasn't sure if I should feel upset or happy. In the end my cock betrayed me and I got hard lol. That was several months back now and marks another turning point in our FLR but she was damn sure my cage was going to stay right where it was.
     
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