KH doesn’t like me touching her .

Do as she tells you. Make it clear you'll obey. Let her discover her own needs. Don't overwhelm her. Make it about her, not your fantasies of her. Don't blow it.

 

Be patient be very very patient

 

There is no way am I allowed do this in chastity. Just except it and things will get easier.

 

First thing is to find out if she even enjoys oral sex. Some women are comfortable with it at all. So you can't push for something she may not enjoy just because it fits your desires. Communicate, let her know you want to please her, but in ways that meet her needs. If she does want you to please her that way, be open and tell her she will need to instruct and guide you, so she receives the pleasurable results she deserves. But remember it's about her not you. Good luck and enjoy.

 

I agree!

 

Start kissing her feet and slowly climb higher up her leg, slowly, lots of kisses. Stop moving when you get near the spot, but don't stop kissing. Then place her hand on your head and go back to kissing. If she pushes your head down oblige the lady. If she doesn't respond, start kissing up to her breasts. Start to tease her nipples with your tongue. If she likes it use your whole mouth. Show her how you would pleasure her clitiorous. Encourage her to grab you hair and guide you as you alternate between breasts. Eventually start moving down again and see if she responds on the way down.

Just keep in mind she might just not like it.

 

It's possible this is something that your wife doesn't enjoy. I think it's perfectly fine to say that to her. "Honey, I know you don't really like head, but I want so badly to give it to you. Do you think we can practice and you could tell me what you like, what you don't like, so that I may do it right for you." (keeping in mind speed, tempo, technique, ect...) All about approach, and phrasing boys...gotta tell a women what you want correctly.

 

For a lot of women it’s a problem because of the geography: this is the same place that both urine and periods come from, so someone lapping it up is just not a comforting thought. (Not helped by being so close to the anus, either).
Maybe have a shower together and make it obvious everything is *really* clean, then try some of the good suggestions in this thread.
You don’t have to convince her you like it down there, you have to let her realise it *is* ok down there.
Good luck-it’s a tragedy any time a woman is missing out on receiving oral!

 

I agree with @RC-Oz - some women see 'that' area as a taboo, even to themselves. It takes quite a while to re-code yourself to enjoy being touched and some women might be worried about not orgasming quickly enough for the man, that it takes longer than he's willing to spend on making them feel good - so they make the whole area a no-go zone. Genuine interest on your part, no rushing, no pushing - and perhaps she will change her mind. Note I said perhaps.

 

If i may: it's the genuine interest, and holding Her more important than that interest.

 

@Atomic please why dont you ask Her what She wants you to do then. She migt not want anything and if you keep asking Her things She dont want then She will get fed up and be angry with you.

 

In our early years of marriage, I made attempts along these lines. There were times she actually guided me to herself. But I felt she felt it was wrong or nasty to be doing it. The times she seemed to really be feeling pleasure and maybe even orgasmed she would stop and push away.

Any reference to try again was met with NO or its nasty remarks.

If the lady doesn't like it honor that a MO E on. Her vanilla upbringing just did not adopt that twist mentally. Think she was ashamed it felt good and should not in her mind.

Even today in a movie that even suggests oral leads to negative comments from her.

She quickly says all she wants is a good cuddle not sex for her pleasure. That is where I have my efforts to get her trust back that I can be close without expecting any sexual return for me. My battle continues to prove to her I can accomplish that.

I finally heard her after decades of marriage that so much was done because I wanted it. I am committed to never put her there again. My ignorance and horny male attitude blinded me.

 

Give her time and space do as you are told no pressure. I agree it is hard to go slow but it is the only way she will come around to being in charge at home.

 

Making maximum effort to do that. Has been difficult this week leaving right after she pulled the pin. We normally communicate every day when on the road varying forms sometimes more than once a day. This week has had me worried sick that I really screwed thing up. Will be finding out soon enough. I just keep my routine contacts the rest is hers to decide.