Key holders: why long term denial?

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  1. Shepherdsflock
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    The big fascination that has developed for me over time is trying get inside my wife’s head and understand her excitement about my denial. She really gets excited knowing I am locked up, or even when I happen to be unlocked but not allowed to use my cock. But it’s the long term aspect of it that really gets her going. The thought of me never penetrating her again or experiencing orgasm gets her going.

    So, for the keyholders out there who keep their men in long term or permanent chastity/denial, why do you do it? What about it do you find appealing?
     
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    Sorry I know your question is directed at KH, but I'll offer an answer for my wife. She likes how I behave when locked. She is less thrilled with how I behave when unlocked. In other words she doesn't enjoy the denial so much as wishes to avoid the release. This lead her to extending lock-up periods so I would have less releases.
     
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    I think I'll just wait until all the "non keyholders" have finished replying.
     
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    Perhaps your wife mike like to comment. Why are wives so reluctant to participate on this website?
     
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    Sounds fair. I’m busy today and probably won’t have time to read any responses until all of the non-direction-followers have had their chance.
     
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    My wife's the same way. She just loves the idea that I can't orgasm. She was going to allow me periodic releases to full orgasm since I can't come in my cage, but she's discovered a "hands off" way to make me leak to the point where I don't seem to spontaneously orgasm, and she lives that. She lives having me go down on her after iveIleaked until my cock goes down.
     
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    Mrs Edge just kind of stumbled into her... fetish? Preference? Turn on? Whatever. That is, the general idea of me wearing a device is, for her, just okay. But when I'm *actually* wearing the device, she never wants it to come off. Like, ever

    When I'm locked up, she prefers for me to wear a replica strap on. When we're having sex, she really, *really* enjoys the feeling of my cage bumping or pressing into her ass. There's just something about knowing it's totally under her control gives her a rush of excitement, which compels her to keep me locked up for longer and longer periods

    The harness allows us to have sex, which she prefers to oral, so for her, there's no downside. I've asked her any number of times, but she never has any concrete answer. She just likes what she likes

    Women, eh?
     
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    Come on key holders, why? I know why Mrs Chaste does it and am curious to hear what drives other key holders!
     
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    If you don't use orgasms as reward you try to increase the thing, so you prolong chastity, one time you reach the level of permanent. It is a symbol of total control over him. It is a statement that only the pleasure of the Mistress counts.
     
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    Simple: the longer males are in chastity and teased/denied, the hornier and more attentive they are to my needs.
     
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    Your going to have a long wait :D
     
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    It’s a very interesting question you ask @Shepherdsflock and one I would be more than happy to answer as a KH. In the beginning before I really understood chastity I didn’t realise how much I needed it in my life as much as my sub. I found it quite annoying and couldn’t understand the true appeal until I gave them ‘freedom’. I then needed them locked back up for my gratification more than anything.
    There a few things as to why I do and what’s appealing about long term chastity for me:
    1. I now think it’s odd when his cock is out of chastity.
    2. I enjoy the person my sub becomes when she is teased and denied.
    3. Her need to please increases as well as her effectiveness in most tasks she does including work.
    4. I very much like the control of her orgasms - I think for my sub release is an addiction.
    5. Infact, I just like control. Unfortunately my sub opened that Pandora’s box and now I am unwilling to relinquish this intoxicating feeling.
    Overall, it’s a pleasurable and fulfilling experience for both parties that both benefit.
    LP
     
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    In a word: biochemistry. A strong concentration of prolactin in men is not a Dominant's friend, in most cases. Dopamine, on the other hand, is a wonderful ally when prolonging stages of arousal.

    The science is still largely unknown from what I can tell, but I look forward to learning as much as possible when more studies arise.

    Short-term denial limits access to deeper levels of subspace. In comparison, long-term denial enables nearly instant access to these spaces. Makes My 'job' much easier... And more entertaining. ;)
     
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    I curious about the difference between LT and ST denial as you see it. Weeks, months, years -- there are many denominations of time and probably different ways of seeing them.
     
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    I haven't had the luxury of pushing too far yet, given our current long distance status. I've little interest in denying him for years, although that's been a whispered 'threat' during pillow talk.

    There's a really sweet spot that is quite evident after even just 6 weeks (I'd say that's pretty short-term) ... As such, I have no interest in letting him spill every month. That's around the time things start getting really fun for Me.

    He's currently experiencing the longest denial I've given (almost four months). He's been more productive in areas aside from sex - a huge bonus - but his arousal is also on a hair-trigger. So he's able to entertain My sexual whims as needed, with little to no effort on My part.

    I think we're both enjoying it... Maybe Me more so than him? :D Looking forward to redefining 'long-term' once he's in My grasp every day.
     
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    My wife is the same way. Is been nearly 400 days. I egged her on early in our chastity lifestyle about long term denial, but never really thought it would happen. I think she's pretty much set on never releasing me. She lives it this way not b.c sure v her exact reasons other than agreeing sex makes me lazy and not focused on her.
     
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    For us is it real easy. My wife is not interested in sex with men. I get a few a year only because she loves me and gets a kick out of my reaction when I have been denied for a long time.
     
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    Such wise words! But of course also 100% correct!


     
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