Someone wrote me asking what keyholder techniques actually work for me. He said his keyholder asked him to get working techniques. Here are some that work for me, perhaps you would share some that work for you. Techniques that work: 1. Learn what is a turn on: One of the best things I did was have my husband blog on tumblr about his experience and things he likes. It gives me tools to use to flood his brain with chemicals.. It’s a blog where he posts his chastity experiences. He he tells me what he liked about our relationship. It is at https://iluvzitwhenshe.tumblr.com/ Since everyone is different yours will be different too. Knowing what he likes is priceless since I want to keep him sexually high. Without keeping him at a very high sexual state the magic is gone 2. Be serious: I found the stricter I am about it the better he behaves. If I am constantly checking up on him he “feels it” more. I rarely let him touch himself and am really strict about that. I am overly serious about keeping him hands off. 3.Constantly Sexually High Don’ let him cum often but let him get close multiple times a day This used to be a chore for me but I make him do most of the work. I make him take off his hardware and wank, or leave it on and vibe the cage. He needs to be edged up several times a day. I used to do all the work but now I make him do most of it. If he is not full of chemicals it’s not working. 4. Knowing and adjusting levels I often ask him his level by texting him a single “?”. He answers with a to 10. This lets me know how sexually high he is. When ever he texts me for any reason he is to put his current level after the text. Sometimes I can see the number raise or lower after I say something. He can text me with a “?” And if I feel like it I will text him back with a satisfaction 1- to 10. I sometimes do it after each text, sometimes not. I don’t have to answer but he does. This lets me know where he is at. If he is low on the scale I can Raise his level. Maybe make him go give me a dangerous proof pic. A semi public feel up. Or have him video call me with my cam off and his on and watch him vibe or edge. Sometimes I don’t even watch, but he doesn’t know that. I will tell him to edge and what to think about. I might have him put his hands behind his back and watch me use my vibe as he tells me all the things he likes about me as I get off. I like master bating to non stop comments about how amazing, pretty and wonderful I am. 5. Constant reminders: I want him constantly reminded about being locked and always thinking I could check up on him at any time. It was exhausting to have to do this myself so I put it on auto pilot by making him check in and now just randomly manually text when I feel like it will be fun for me. I put all that work on him though. I make him text me on the threes. Thats any time that can be divided by threes. 3, 12, 6 etc. He as to text me thanking me for keeping him locked, telling me he is locked, and complimenting me. He reminds me of something I did for him. Some sexual experience he liked. At first he wanted me to randomly text him which became exhausting and a chore. Now he texts me checking in, telling me he is locked, thanking me and praising me in some way. I do randomly text him or tease him but only when I feel like it. He has to text me on the threes though. I like the constant praise and he is mentally reinforcing his lock up and dependance on my good will for his pleasure. He has to search his mind several times a day for something he likes about me. If he doesn’t do a good job on his texts I tell him I am not impressed and to try it again. This makes him feel like he has to bring his best to me. I want his best effort. 6. Random proof pics. I really don’t like looking at dick pics but I want to constantly reinforce and remind him he is in captivity. When he is out and about or we are apart I demand proof pics where he takes a pic of his cage on. Sometimes I make him wear panties just to mess around with his “normal”. The more public the better. I want to have some exciting danger chemicals flow through his mind. I don’t want him to get in trouble but I do want him to feel as excited as possible. So he will snap the pics in some sort of public place, trying to make sure he is not seen. If its not daring enough I tell him it’s not acceptable. To try again. He can unzip and take a pic with his cage poking out in a parking lot, store, park etc. The idea is to make him consent to do something slightly risky and embarrassing of his own free will and to repeat it over and over. This creates excitement for him and its linked to me. I become associated with excitement. Plus he is having to do something outside of his comfort zone. He is breaking down barriers in order to please and obey me. They are little barriers but over time it adds up. 7. “blackmail pictures” I put all these pics in a safe web place that I call my “blackmail” file. I have a place for all the compromising pics. Examples of the blackmail pics: Proof pics Pics with him holding a sign thats embarrassing Pics wearing embarrassing clothing a bra on his head or in panties Pics with him doing something embarrassing like having my dildo in his mouth while wearing a cock cage flashing a thumbs up. All kinds of stuff. I have all these stored and from time to time I remind him he had better behave and do whatever I tell him to or I could embarrass him big time. I make the threat real but would likely never use them against him. However it is always a little compelling reason I can use when he needs that extra little bump to make him do something just outside his comfort zone. I have lots of little videos and pictures in that file he would not want anyone to see. I told him I have it set to become public if I don’t put in a code every three months into this website that emails people on a list if you don’t check in. The truth is I really don’t have that set up, but I could. In his mind though its another reason not to fuck with me, to be pleasant and not kill me in my sleep. (lol) 8. Dangerous Affirmations and acts: Semi public dangerous pleasure affirmation sessions- Sometimes I have him video himself in a bathroom or on his forrest park walks as I give him instructions on what to touch and make him repeat affirmations that I want locked in his pretty head. When he is sort of vulnerable in semi public I make him rub himself while I watch on video. Then when he is pretty worked up I have him repeat his affirmation. It could be anything I want like “ I will always be nice to you” or “I love licking you” or whatever. When he is excited in a place thats a little dangerous and then he has to perform for me it adds up to a chemical bath for his brain that shakes stuff up. Adrenaline, sex, willful obedience make any affirmations really embed themselves into his brain. They stick because of all the exciting chemicals. 9. Stretching obedience boundaries I constantly get him sexually excited, then make him do things that are just outside his comfort and embarrassment comfort zones. But only when he has been denied and sexually turned on. Those bottled up chemicals make him more likely to do what I ask. When he does what I ask I wank him a bit or suck on him or make him vibe himself. I want to give out pleasure for obedience. I just gradually go outside what he would willingly do each time I can. Not because I want him to do that stuff but because I want to break down his barriers of saying no to me. I get him sexually charged up and desperate for more pleasure then I get him to voluntarily do some embarrassing things or real life practical things for me that he would normally not do or not want to do. Stuff he procrastinates on. By not being able to master-bate himself he keeps those motivating chemicals bottled up. His body is wanting to get pleasure. He gets a big mix of motivating feel good chemicals in his blood stream when I work him up with various methods Sadly his body will naturally get rid of those sexual feel good chemicals over time. I have to replace them by stimulating them. As long as I keep his levels high he is very happy and has that service attitude I like. It’s good for him to because I get him to do the things on his to do list. Then on top of that his brain will think of all kinds of things to do to please me. 5. Review the to dos I will have a session with him at the end of the day. I rub, lick or vibe him until he is excited (or have him do it while I watch on video) Once he is excited I have him go over “what have you done for me lately” and what are yo going to do soon. In a sexual state it makes this list become pleasurable instead of a boring to do list. If he has done a lot I might edge him several times or randomly make him pop. (cum) 10. Constant consistent sexually high It is really important I keep him full of sexual chemicals. Since they dissipate over time as they get removed from the blood stream I need them to be refreshed. I use a few methods to keep him on a slow simmer. A1. physical. I touch him or make him touch himself. I use my little vibrating wand on him or make him do it while I watch. I grab his parts or rub on it in public when I can get away with it and in private. I make him rub himself. Physical stimulation is my biggest tool. When he is not with me I watch him through skype or face book messenger. A2. visual I change my looks up often I send him naughty pics I dress up a lot I wear make up I make him watch me master-bate while I am wearing sexy outfits or lingerie while he watches I have him vibe himself off and on as I nod ok or nod for him to stop. I have him look at his naughty pics file almost daily. These are pics of me. He keeps them all and I get him charged up and then he reviews them. Sometimes I make him tell me what he likes about each one. Sometimes I make him look at a picture as I sexually touch him. A3. Sounds I have him listen to recordings of me getting off, or sessions we had. I whisper things to him in public. I moan in his ear. While we are talking to another couple I pass him a note that says “Your caged” or whisper in his ear “they don’t know your cock locked and have to do whatever I tell you to”. Sometimes I will wisper “I may make you tell them that I have you locked right now.” 11. Mind games and outing I actually made him tell my cousin right in front of me while we were eating. I had set it up in advance though. My cousin actually told me her boyfriend was into being kept locked up and we got to talking and I spilled the beans. So she all ready knew. We decided she would act really shocked, ask him all kinds of questions. She asked him how obedient he was. What was the hardest request to obey. I told him in front of her, “look me in the eyes, you must answer all her questions honestly no matter how embarassing”. I gave my cuz a quick wink to tell her to really give him the business. She asked how it felt, if he was caged now, did he have a key, would he accept punishment, would he show her the cage on if I made him, could she touch it if I allowed it, could she hold the key sometimes and make him do chores, could he refuse any of his key holders requests. She really got personal and he had to answer them all. It was great fun. I told him he would have to answer any questions she had in the future and she to could demand proof pics anytime. Then finnally she told him how valiant he was and how sexy she thought it was. He went from blushing to proud. It was really fun making him tell her. I secretly got off on his obedience and watching him obey. It was sexy hot. It was really enjoyable. She promised not to tell anyone. Mind Games As a interesting story I made him pick out 10 friends I could tell if I wanted to. Then I told him I had told one from the list but they were told not to bring it up. Actually I had told no one but he thought one of his friends knew but not which one. I found that amusing. These are a few but not all of my techniques. If you use any and free and they worked all I ask is that you post a thank you back or a naughty pic or something. Maybe you could post techniques that work for you..