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    Would anyone be willing to be a "sponsor" of sorts for my wife? She and I are both fairly new to this lifestyle but I think she would appreciate someone from this community to reach out and give her some advice as she needs it. At the moment we are working out our contract and she is stuck at what she wants out of it. I would really appreciate it if someone would take the time to help her understand what she is looking for! Pm me and I will give you her personal email.
     
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    If she is a member here I'll be very happy to PM her direct. If she's not, then she should be!!
     
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    Thanks, when she signs up ill point her your way!
     
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    It must be such a pain when your key holder isn't acting the way you wish her too.
    I think firstly to abandon the idea of a contract would be very helpful to her. Secondly I'm sure you'll find that if she is actually interested in keyholding then it might be better if she chose to contact mistresses here for advice without you acting as a middleman. By the way, she's very welcome to write to me here if she has specific questions or concerns.
     
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    It's actually quite the opposite! She loves to be in charge and run things but of our 6 years of marriage we are new to chastity as we have only been involved with it since last Christmas. She loves to be in charge but only recently found that she could use that in the bedroom too lol. We managed to get a contract pulled together that we are both happy with and it's short (only a 3 month contract) so that we can adjust soon if needed. I agree that she would benefit a lot from speaking with other members since we are both new to this. She logs in under me from time to time to check out the forums but she will be making her own account soon (she's a busy lady!) Thanks for the offer, I'll pass this along as well as Joroincharge's offer to talk with her.
     
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    Ok, wife here! I finally had the chance to make an account. I would love some advice/direction with our contract. I have no idea what I want out of it to start. This is very new to us but we are very excited about it!! Do I PM you guys directly, or talk openly here?
     
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    Hello and welcome , posting openly will hopefully bring some interesting input from both tops and bottms !
    Which could result in some interesting ideas.
    Then pick and mix the best bits that could work for you.
    Xx wendy
     
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    I think PM would be more suitable.
    :)
     
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    It will be interesting to see which the key holder prefers , however both have merit .
    Xx wendy
     
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    The phrase "be careful what you wish for" is suddenly starting to hit close to home
     
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    I would be very open to communicating with all of you but for this I think PM will be best so he doesn't know what's coming ;)
     
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    I know that Mistress Suzan, who monitors my emails on our computer, as well as my activity on the Mansion, uses the openess of the various forums, then contacts other dominants through PM for conversations seeking advice and exchanging ideas. My posts are always made when she can monitor what I have said and to whom I have responded. It's all part of her total control, and I appreciate being allowed to write to other submissvies here.
    dickieinbraces
     
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    Is there a "I'm not sure if I like it or if I am scared speechless of this comment" button?
     
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    Welcome to the world of assertive wives
    We are glued to our electronic devices xx wendy
     
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    If you are going to do this its a lot to do with your state of mind do you wish to make your wife the most important person in your day to day life , , always putting her first.

    Are you willing to think about making this happen ?
    Also I think there's an element of getting your wife to see there's a real benefit to having a slave and working through a reasonable period of trial and error to get something that works. Something I could not get my ex to see.
    She had trouble with having her Alpha male not taking the lead in everything.
    Xx wendy
     
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    Yes, absolutely I wish to make her the most important person in my life (if she didn't already know she was!). I am very much willing to go through trial and error until we find out what makes her the happiest and what works for us both. Last night I think we hit a turning point. She told me our new contract was no good. I argued that it was signed and agreed upon but she has her ways of convincing me otherwise lol. So now that's out the window and my release is based on behavior and what she sees fit. (Thanks a lot to whoever has been talking her up lol). We had an interesting night after that, one of the best! She got what she wanted, we stayed up way too late, and I got incredibly frustrated and went to bed thinking about her all night lol. Then I got up early and she's been on my mind ever since. Aren't I lucky ;) I'm not sure what's in store for me next but she made it perfectly clear that she's in charge and I do what she wants from now on. What a wild ride my life's become lol. I love you baby!
     
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    Love your response! You are learning very quickly :)
     
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    Very happy either way.

    PM if you like, or post here, and meal#nwhile look through the threads (once the spam's been weeded) and you'll find all sorts of ideas.

    If you want a contract (not essential) there are some in tyhreads here. I put one sugfgestion in myself a while back, 2009 I think.
     
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    There's a lot to be said for this!
     
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    Joro, I'd really be interested to know what you think of the dog shock collar you have on your picture. My wife/mistress has really shown an interest in me having something to train me with but she was very adamant about it being able to work long distances such as when I am at work. Have you looked into an option that is web enabled? She challenged me to find something but I have scoured the web and the only option is the Dreamlover 2000 for $1,200 but even it has it's limitations... Thanks in advance!
     
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    I like it!

    But what I have is limited range.

    I don't know of a web enabled one other than DL which is very expensive and also limited as you say. But something on the cellphone/bluetooth line might be worth checking out?
     
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    I think there's some way of linking one of the posh estims with a pc and then bluetooth but its not portable.
    I think the security people are not happy with electronic devices control by mobile phone.
    Xx wendy
     
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    very interesting but the only downside is that we use the iPhone, i wish it was controlled over the web and connected via bluetooth then you could use it from anything!
     
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    I think you either may need to surch tbe estim sites or just wait a bit as this is something of a hole grail for the estim community .
    However there are some dog shock stuff good foe a mile I think .
    Xx wendy
     
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