Just where were at with chastity at this point

Not really trying to write porn but just explaining how we are progressing and dealing with it:

To keep things fresh we took a break from chastity play. While she still maintained her dominance in the bedroom she was no longer controlling my orgasms or access to my penis. She did continue to tease in subtle ways by randomly groping me and not tolerating any of the same. More than once she has slid her finger up my ass crack as I got out of the shower and implied she should have something bigger to rub up against it. Also, she would routinely not allow me to see her nude and at 62”, 122 lbs, and a 34 C, that was some major denial.

Three weeks ago she came on more aggressively than usual, lots of nipple play but ignoring my cock. She took her pleasure orally and then told me to clean up and shave, it was time for lock down. I was thrilled. I was shocked. I was frustrated. Having her take such control is a major turn on and obviously the time in chastity is made easier knowing that eventually all that frustration will result in a mind blowing orgasm (at least in our chastity relationship because she loves me in her).

In the past, we originally went a week to two weeks at a time and we have broke the broken the 30 day mark twice. This past Saturday she gave me permission to clean and shave it. She heard an audible groan from the shower when I took soap to my dick and she laughed when she hear why. After I toweled off she made no sign of interest in sex and merely handed back the cock cage. Locked I continued my Saturday morning. After an hour she pulled me to the room and took her pleasure. Back to the cage for me with no release.

Sunday started out like Saturday. After a few minutes of sex (i.e. holding still in right position so she had full access) she had an orgasm and stated “I don’t know if I have another one left.” She started riding me some more and I hesitantly asked if I was allowed to come and she chuckled and said of course not. Few minutes later she was done and I was back in the cage.

I have learned not to ask how long the lock up will be nor beg for release. Last night was too much for me and we are approaching the 30 day mark. I asked her for release and she did not even respond. Hardly slept at all and suspect she is holding out for the 30 day mark again. Each time we have gone this long I can see a difference or subtle changes in our relationship.

Undressing in front of each other was never an issue as you would expect in a marriage. Now she challenges me not to stare at her body when out of chastity and when in chastity I am not allowed to be around her nudity unless servicing her. When cooking or washing dishes she will frequently pinch my bottom or nipples or slide her fingers deep into my crack.

She finally responded to my request to be unlocked this morning. She stated that in the past the decision to initiate chastity play has been mine but going forward she will decide when the cage goes on and when it comes off. Unless I have a medical reason then that will be final. She has no desire for permanent chastity but how and when is solely up to her. In the early years she was submissive and she allowed spankings, anal, and rough sex but no more. She still loves me and even tells me so but it is clear she is in charge and as far as sex goes it is whatever gives her the physical and or emotional thrill. I’m her fuck toy both mentally and physically. What started as a dark fantasy of my own is now clearly something she enjoys as the sole keeper of the keys.