Hey everyone, New to Chastity I got a cage to see how it feels and now trying to introduce the idea of incorporating it into our sex life but she just seems to avoid it! I’m trying to relight the fire from our younger years because I’m worked that the smouldering ember that is left will soon go out. Any ideas to get her engaged in the idea of chastity would be appreciated
Hello and welcome. We have a number of threads with advice on raising the subject with partners. The key, though, is to communicate. Remember, you've thought this through thoroughly and you're very familiar with the arguments. She isn't. It's probably going to seem a bit weird to her. So concentrate, not on what it does to you, but on what she gets out of it. Good luck
Welcome to our community and I hope you find it informative and enjoyable. Communication is key and you need to find out what she wants or would find enjoyable if you bring chastity into your relationship. If you're denying or limiting PIV for her and yourself, she needs to be comfortable with that or what you propose as a replacement. Expecting her to do tease and denial or other chastity play, without providing her with some excitement as a reward is unlikely to succeed. So have real chats with her about her needs and desires (not always easy). Good luck and enjoy.
Welcome.....Make sure you let her know, it's all about her wants and needs. Your gratification will/should be 2nd to hers. If she can grasp that, and communicate to you what she needs/wants and you can deliver, hopefully she will come around pretty quick. Took my wife about a week and a half to reaaly start embracing it. Now I would expect every woman to be that quick, bit you never know .
Welcome to The Mansion!!! Just a quick bit of advice... Unless there is some reason for the proposed chastity that is clearly beneficial to her or the relationship there is a good chance she will see it as something not necessary. Also, seeing the action of these benefits is more important than the idea of them.
@Courious89 hello and welcome to here and i hope you like it here as well and all what the folks on here have say to you.
Hello, I agree with everything the others have said, but have you tried wearing that cage for prolonged periods of time? Sleeping in it? One of the things that cause women to flinch is the idea that cages are barbaric medieval devices that are going to cause great pains or injury. The last thing you want, if your wife agrees to give this a try, is that cage bothering you while you try to serve her in your new capacity!
Hey all thanks for the advice, we are starting slow with her take small steps of control in the bedroom and we will see how we go!
You need to show her that you adore her. I do my wife’s nails, wash her hair, shave her legs, and do all of the chores around the house. I did not know that she loved to have me brush her hair. And the big thing that I got off of the forum was changing the kitty litter for her. Who knew.